Do you have a tough time telling your spouse that they don't look "great"? or something looks unflattering?

Question

on them? I do. My wife Celeste likes to wear these velour pantsuits and she thinks she looks great. But she actually looks like someone ripped her straight from a 70's magazine. She has a beehive hairdo as well. How do I gently tell my Celeste that she could use some modernization?

Answer 1

my boyfriends upfront if he doesnt like something im wearing, alot of the time he doesnt have to say anything, i dont think he realises he does it sometimes!! like h**l just look at what im wearing and have a little bit of a puzzled look on his face, but i dont mind because i know hes not saying it to be bitchy like a girl would hes saying it so i dont go out dressed badly =p

i like hes so honest with me and can just tell me straight, i reckon you should just try and drop suttle hints like saying 'i know you like wearing your hair in the beehive style but maybe it would look nice down...' or ' i like it when you wear ____ you look really s**y' say it so your completmeting her on the things you like to see her in or...book her into a hairdressers as a treat and get her hair done!!

Answer 2

no, my husband and i are both able to tell each other when things don't look 'right'.  maybe you could buy her a few new outfits and take her for a makeover?  or does she like the way she looks?  if so, then leave her alone.

Answer 3

Instead of telling her that she doesn't look good, maybe you can suggest the kind of clothes or hairstyle that you think would make her look even more beautiful. Show her magazine photos for ideas. You're telling her the same thing, but from a positive point of view and offering her some concrete ideas. She might even appreciate your extra interest in her. In either case, she'll get your point.

Answer 4

Nope, I tell my husband when he looks bad in what he wears (not often), I hope he would be honest with me.  

Answer 5

Tell her you love her and you want to give her a complete makeover!

she is hanging on to the past and needs a update...Then look in the mirror and get one for yourself...clean out the closets and donate the old clothes to charity...splurge on her and yourself...get into the 21st century!!  Nails/ hair /clothes etc.....

Say  this to her : I want my beautiful wife to look great and I am giving you a new wardrobe and hairstlyle  (down to the panties and bras)

Tell her what her budget is and go with her and have her model for you!!

Have fun..........

Answer 6

The ONLY way you can do this is gently

I am a wife and I know never to ask my DH do I look good or does these flatter my rear etc because he will never be honest! LOL He will always tell me yes honey

   Only way most women could handle this is to go shopping with her and when something really really looks great on her tell her and buy it for her. Every time she wears it.. flatter her and I bet the velour pants will disappear......

Even hint that these new hot pants make her Honey look way better than the velour ones.....

replace a commit good one with even better one and it might help

Answer 7

Well it seems u didnt have an issue with that when u married her unless she changed dramatically since.

Why not take her to a spa and do something nice for her and she can also fix herself up! And she would only think u did it because u love her

Answer 8

Well how old is she??  A beehive hair do???  Seriously you need to make her sit down and watch the show "What not to Wear" then be like "hey honey I really think that woman looks so much better and more modern, maybe you and I should go shopping sometime and try to get more hip!"  Then take her on a shopping trip and don't let her buy anything resembling velour (gag)!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Kitty NY says it all for me,it's about being subtle,you and Celeste will change over time,convergence is a gift,hope for it,make a wish-list. Best of luck Rick

Answer 10

I agree with Kitty. A makeover is the BEST gift, for sure. I had a 'spa day' last year for Christmas and they redid my makeup as well. I don't know if my husband thought I was outdated, but it sure made a difference. And getting a professional, third-party opinion is much kinder than saying "hey Mrs Partridge, lose the pantsuit"

Answer 11

I wouldn't do this yourself.  Enlist some help from her friends who agree with you.  There are makeover shows on TV, maybe send them the info.  Definitely this should come from someone else.  Could be that time in her life was a happy time and she's "frozen in time." so she might be very resistant to change.  If her friends/family take her shopping and then to a competent hair stylist and make-up artist that could be a wonderful moment when she sees the right modern clothing on her.  Maybe talk to some women you think look "great" to work on this so that she can be introduced to a new style.  Make sure to have a great party for her "unveiling."

Answer 12

I simply say to my hubby "sorry sweety but that dose not look good on you"

in your situation perhaps you should get one of her friends to give her a makeover and give her some money to buy new clothes.

perhaps you could take her on a shopping spree and to the beauty salon for  hair, make up and nails.

Answer 13

First the hair and now this work on that shave first. Then just give her some outfits you like on holidays and birthdays and maybe an appointment to the hairdresser on one of the holidays leave instruction with the hair dresser to catch her up to date but to not let her know you requested it.

Answer 14

Haha!  No, I'm honest with my husband.  Honest, but TACTFUL.  The key word in that is definitely "tactful."  Don't make fun of your wife or insult her.

Why not try taking her to the store to go shopping for a new outfit?  Be like "Hon, I think I wanna see a s**y new look on you.  Wanna' go out and pick out a cute new outfit?"  Of course I'm sure she'll want to.  Then, when she puts on something that looks decent, make a HUGE deal out of it.  She'll totally ditch the velour and start wearing what you say compliments her so well! :)

Good luck!

Answer 15

help her find a new husband.

Answer 16

Actually I like that look.  She must like it to, if that's the way she chooses to dress.

Answer 17

tell her i love you but you look like something from the 70s