Do you have any family that treat their friends like they're more important than you because you were...?

Question

A foster/adopted child?

My family hates me because I was in foster care almost all my life. It's not my fault I was a foster kid from 5 mos. old until 20 yrs. old.

I'm very hurt & depressed by this. My family treats me like GARBAGE! Like I don't have a right to exist. Now I'm 24. Will be 25 next month. My twin sister disowned me because of rumors my brother started.

No one accepts me. The foster family hates me because I'm not "blood related". & the biological family hate me because of lies my twin sister made about me.

Answer 1

That's horrible! Tell them how you feel!

Answer 2

well, it could b worse, my family just hates me because i have a life that doesnt always revolve around them, i got kicked out by my biological parents on my 18th birthday, with no where to go (and finding out 4 days b4 that i was pregnant) i was scared and alone! there r alot of places that will help u and u could probably relocate, to a diffrent town or even state if u wanted, because if they wanna act u, its time for u to get out, and i wouldnt worry about what your biological family thinks because they had u in the system for one reason or another and they couldnt take care of u, and as for ur sister, shes lucky shes not mine, cause i would have chopped her hair off and sold it back to her. lol basically if they treat u like garbage, then they r not worth hanging around and u should just leave, not tell any of them anything, dont even leave a contact number,

Answer 3

If they are gonna be that way and treat you like that you don't need them in your life. You have to remember they are the ones with the problem not you. You know sometimes "family"  isn't blood. You need to get away from them and live your life to the fullest. Be with your friends (sometimes they are more like family than family is). Hold your head up high and tell them to bugger off if they don't like you. You're not garbage cause god don't make no junk. You can't dwell on there ignorance, it will make you miserable. I know it hurts, but you have to stay in the mind set that they are the ones with the problems not you. Good luck

Answer 4

Dear Question Queen,

I can not imagine what you must be going thru.  No one should treat you like a second class family member.  I think it damages your ego and self confidence.  Seek out good friends who believe in you and love you no matter what to help you through this.

If i were you i'd go to this website for support.  I know you weren't "adopted" but they would accept you and welcome you just the same:)

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/

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