Do you have any idea how much favortism hurts?

Question

my mom will do anything for my older sister and niece(13months). yet when i ask to do the simplest thing, she says no.my mom has already babysat 3 times this week and she's doing it again tonight. i asked her today if we could go look for a job for me and she said no. i said is it the gas? ill pay for the gas. she said it wasn't the gas, but she wanted to watch her movie. i said fine. then my sister who my parents put up on a thrown calls and says he can you babysit tonight? sure honey i'd be glad too!!!wtf? i thought she wanted to watch her movie! then she said something about borrowing a card from my dad and my mom said "yea you can borrow the car". she missunderstood. but she was going to let her borrow our car anywayz. i asked earlier if i could take the car out(which i haven't driven any at all this week) and look for a job. she said no. i was mad about that, but watever. she's even said im a better driver than her (i know she wasn't lying). my sister isn't a good driver anybody

Answer 1

i know how you feel im not a parent,im a teenager still and my mom picks favorites out of her kids and my older sister's the fav.anyway my mom was argueing with me constantly and accusing me of thing i didn't do and she kicked me out of the house and sent me to another country to live with my dad a couple of months ago and she's bipolar so now she tells me she dosent want to see me again and then a week later she's crying for me back.trust me i know how you feel it really does hurt.

Answer 2

I know how good it feels to vent on here and then you look at your answers and either get yelled at by venting or reported and the question deleted.

Anyway, I'm sorry your mom does this to you. Talk to her. I know it can be annoying if you talk to your mom. She may get mad at you or she may tell you "Don't tell me I do that, that's bull." I heard a lot of that as a child, and they were my real feelings, but she thought I was mad. That is part of why I became a school social worker, to help deal with these kids problems. I don't know how old you are, but I reccomend you talk to your mom about it. If she won't listen, go see a social worker and then have your mom come to an appointment. It is so worth it!

Answer 3

I bet she doesnt realize it.  I think you should tell her how you feel and give her those examples.  Do it calmly not in a way as to pick a fight but let her know simply that this really hurts your feelings and makes you feel like she doesnt love you as much.  I promise you she doesnt realize it.  There is NO love like a mothers love and I bet she would be heartbroken if she thought she was hurting you.

Answer 4

I don't pick favorits at home. I have two biological children and one stepchild and they are all on equal playing fields. They all have their very own personalities and unique talents, and they are all appreciated. They all have the same rules and are disciplined the same and they all get the same rewards as well. I'm sure sometimes they fell differently, but it's hard to please three at a time!! I'm sorry about the way you're feeling, I hope everything works out. Good luck in your job search as well.

Answer 5

TELL UR MOM! sit her to the sde in private where she will only focas on  explian to her how you feel. tell her thay every time she makes you feel this way give her a signal and maybe she will start to realiz and understand . GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

my lil sis is going through the same thing not with me but with my younger brother he has summer school this summer and he hasn't had good grades all year but they are letting him have a party for his birthday and not her and she has had good grades all year.

I would talk to your mom ask her why she said she wanted to watch a movie when you needed a favor but when your sister called to babysitt you said fine. let her know that you are upset but you have to be respectful or the situation will come back on you

Answer 7

I know how you feel. I have felt this way so many times and it brings you to the point where you just feel like your going to explode.  You just need to flat out tell her what your feeling. Don;t yell though, yelling causes more yelling and the next thing you know your worse off than you were in the beginning. No, sit her down when nobody else is around and tell her.  Tell her that you feel treated differently from everyone else and that it's unfair.  And when she says she doesn't do that (because we know she will) then give her examples to back up what your saying.  When she realizes that she really has been unfair to you you will see changes.  I promise.  And if you don't then it's your own mother's loss because in the future when your not visiting her and she needs help because she is old and worn out she will realize that it's her fault and that she should have paid more attention to you when she had the chance.  I hope this helps.  But it's important if you decide to talk to her about it that you DON;T YELL. i know from much personal experience it just makes everything so much worse and it won;t get any outcome . at least not any good outcome.

Answer 8

I feel for you b/c my parents still show favoritism to my brother and have our whole lives. People won't understand how much it hurts unless it happens to them. You just have to rise above it and understand that you aren't any less that your sibling and it's not something you did it's just the way it is. It doesnt stop it from hurting though, and nothing you say will make them understand they are doing it and it is hurting you.