Do you have old friends that call now that you are pregnant?

Question

I have a few friends from high school that call every once in a while to catch up on things now that i am pregnant. (Which is nice) But i have one person that I haven't talked to much in a few years start to call me. It is starting to get annoying. She calls every day almost and if i don't answer, I can have several missed calls. Just wondering if anyone else has this problem?

I feel bad for not answering the phone but I am tired and have a lot to do before that baby gets here.

Answer 1

Just tell her your to cool for her now that your having a baby.

Answer 2

that's weird. i have had a few friends get in touch thru email more often, like every couple of months vs. once a year but that is it. very weird.

Answer 3

wow, my situation is totally opposite, my friends quit calling me! LoL! but it's sad!! I would appreciate her calling and you don't necessarily start hanging out with her but it's good to have back-up when no one will hang out with you.

Answer 4

My mom got that way when my daughter was born, but she was also calling my dad and all her friends every single day for like 4 months.

She called and woke up the baby 3 times in like 3 hours to tell us time changed, so I told her we were going to turn the ringer off and wont answer the phone anymore. She stopped calling everyday LOL

I also have had old babysitters call and want to meet my little one, I love it!

Just tell her she needs to stop calling so much as it's waking up the baby and you are too busy to be on the phone everyday. Tell her a time on a certain day to call and if you don't answer, it's because you are busy with the baby and you'll get back to her.

Answer 5

I would tell her exactly that:  I'm really just exhausted from this pregnancy.  I sleep so much!  Oh my then theirs so much I'd like to finish before the baby gets here... I'll call you when its a good time for me.

If she gets really stalker like, I'd say stuff like:  oh you just called me as I was going to take a nap, i'm so worn out from being pregnant, etc.

Don't feel bad.  This person is a little too suddenly attatched an you need your own time and space.  I think its just rude to keep calling and intruding like that.  Especially with all the missed calls, that seems a bit tooooooooo needy.

Answer 6

Not really, just congradulatiosn from a few on MySpace & Facebook.

If weird girl can’t take a hint, you can either keep ignoring her (thank you, Caller ID inventor!!) or you can answer, tell her you’re busy, and that you’ll call her when you have a chance. Then you just don’t call.

I never feel bad for not answering the phone.

Answer 7

I think some "social adjustments" are normal. I have some people who I knew in college but had pretty much never talked to, contacting me on facebook and such now that I am pregnant. I don't know why because not all of them are even girls that have had kids or anything yet. At the same time it seems like I'm going to be a little bit closer to my friends that have kids and a little bit more distant with my friends that don't. I know pregnancy in general has kind of made a bigger gap between me and one of my sisters-in-law because even though we are close in age and I see her more often now, she just doesn't understand what it was like for me in the first trimester when I was so sick and it was so horrible! and the pregnancy thing seems to weird her out a little. And when I'd have to tell her no on a get-together for a reason that seemed lame to her... I've been feeling kind of judged by her. Because she will say in just the nicest way as she offers to help clean my house, "other pregnant women seem to do more than you do, etc." On the other hand, one of my other sis-in-laws has 3 kids and this in general is probably bringing us closer.

As far as this person that keeps calling you... well I think that's silly that she is calling every day. Don't feel bad about not answering the phone. Let her know next time you talk to her that you just don't have time every day for a lot of socializing. I know everyone's situation is different... I have friends with kids (it seems more the unmarried ones) that socialize with their friends just as much, but for me with my husband I really don't make the time to socialize a whole lot (I prob see my good friend who has 2 kids once every few weeks, and talk on the phone to my sis who lives far away 2-3 times a week), so every day the same person calling seems excessive.

Answer 8

ha! all of my old friends want in now tht im pregnant and its really annoying; i know how you feel. i have bigger problems to worry about then someone calling just to get in my business. unless they are going to buy my crib and a year supplies of diapers i dont want anything to do with them ha! its almost like shes obsessed. i know EXACTLY how u feel. i get all kinds of messages and friend requests on myspace. like cmon people get a freggin life.