Do you honestly think I overreacted???

Question

When I go to the beach I don't really like go under the water. Like i'll swim but I don't really like to go under the water Id rather just tie up my hair and swim with it up. I don't like to go under the water because my hair is REALLY long and its not naturally straight so I straighten it and when it gets wet it gets out of control anyways..

Yesterday I went to the beach with my boyfriend and he knows I'm not one to go underwater (and it usually doesn't bother him) but yesterday he got all mad at me for it. So today on the phone with him I pretty much told him off for it. Like I didn't yell, swear or even raise my voice I just said "I don't understand why it bothers him so much..and that it never bothered him before and he knew that i was like that from the beginning of our relationship. I also said that I don't understand why he needs me to go under and why couldn't he just do his own thing and not worry about whether i go under or not and that none of my ex's cared about this so why would he"

He didn't get mad back. He didn't even say anything. He just pretty much let me talk and then after I was done he just told me that he had to go eat and that he'd see me tonight.

What do you honestly think about all this???

Shouldn't he of at least said something back??

I'm 19 btw

Answer 1

The last bit about "none of my ex's would have gotten mad" was below the belt. I understand why you didn't go under, with long hair it's hard to dry and then staighten. Boys don't understand because all they have to do is shake their hair and it's dry. I think your boyfriend was just trying to have a good time with you and was made because you wouldn't just let loose. It's ok to stand your ground sometimes but sometimes it's also good to just live in the moment and have a little fun. Next time something like this happens try and see things his way and just go for it. Your boyfriend sounds like a good guy, I think you two will be able to work it out. Apoligize later but also let him know why you didn't go under. Good luck.  

Answer 2

You're parents didn't put water in your face enough when you were little, that's all.  Seriously, it happens a lot.  

So, you're boyfriends just going to have to understand that you have issues with being under water.  He needs to grow up.

Answer 3

He should have said something back to you.... I think you deserve an explanation why he acted the way he did.

It all sounds really childish to me.

I don't like to get my hair wet either because it's a pain to comb out all of the knots. I think a lot of girls are the same.

Answer 4

My honest response is 'oh well.'  I think he listened to what you had to say, understood your point, and then left because he knew it wasn't worth arguing over.  Pretty minor.  Not going in the water is no big deal, but if someone teases you about it, just laugh it off because you are comfortable with what you're doing.  Oh well right?  Best of luck!