Do you interfere with the name calling at school or let him (8th Grader) handle it?

Question

I have learned that the kids at my sons school are makeing fun of him laughing at him calling him names. This has happened before in elementary and he said it was worse when he friends the (bully's) found out he told his mommy, well I hate to see this go on his very quite and shy what can I do without imbaressing or him.

Answer 1

NAME CALLING IS NOT A PART OF GROWING UP! No child has to tolerate being harassed! It is damaging to a child's self-esteem, something that is hard to repair. Call the school and tell them you are concerned. NOT doing anything is NOT the right thing to do!

People must know that bullying is not okay!

Answer 2

He will have to deal with it on his own.  I find ignoring and walking away the best.  Bullies always show off and its because they are the attention seekers.  They have problems and take it out, usually on the more quite ones.  You never see a bully pick on another one.  Ignoring is the best way.  Trying to talk or reason with one, only makes it worse.

Answer 3

i am a parent and my children ar in elementery school what helps is go to the root of the problem wich means go to the principal and have a meeting  without your child knowing make shure the principal knows and the teachers

Answer 4

Honestly, I would speak with the school administration (perhaps even the school district), and advise them that it's time they applied a zero tolerance policy on this issue.  Every child should feel safe at school.  It's possible the administration is unaware that this is happening, but if that's the case, then someone there needs to be paying more attention.  This should simply not be allowed...by voicing your concerns and expecting the staff to correct this type of behavior, you'll be helping more than just your own child.

Answer 5

ok well i would say not to sat anything cause that will embarase him =( im sorry about ur son!

if anything change schools, ang in hight school it will be better but if it gets worse than u may have to do somthing

Answer 6

make sure you watch how he acts on a daily basis because sometimes bullying can hurt a child severely. alot of people commit suicide if it gets really bad, or kill other people. talk to him about it and let him knowthat you're there for him.. but its also important not to embarass him at school, that can just make things worse and school, and between your relationship with him. hope i helped :)

Answer 7

The first thing you need to do is tell the teacher.  Let the teacher know what is going on, but tell them that they should not call in the kids or let them know they know or it will get worse.  They can run interference for your son - not putting them in groups together and keeping an eye on the situation. They will not be able to stop anything if they are not aware and when caught in the act they can be punished without your son seeming like he told.

Answer 8

I would not interfere. There are going to be tons of conflicts in everyone's lives, and this is a great opportunity for him to learn how to deal with these things. I know I would rather have him learn how to deal with this now, than not knowing how to deal with this when he is an adult.

Explain to him that he should not let these people get him down, and that he is amazing no matter what they say. Encourage him to talk to his teachers or counselors about it, they will be able to handle it accordingly. Also, if you know any, teach him tecniques to stop the bullying, in a peaceful way.

Answer 9

gosh dont mean to be mean hun but why did you not report it be fore you should have done it befor it happened to my bro and mi dad interfered and it all stopped

Answer 10

Kids are going to be bullies - especially in middle school. If he is feeling harassed, afraid, or otherwise unable to perform his best at school you should intervene. You could meet with the principal without telling your son and talk about how this could be stopped. Perhaps if teachers were around when the name calling happens, the bullies could be punished without anyone knowing you were involved.

Answer 11

, Here is an awesome website about bullies!!

http://www.bullies2buddies.com/manual/ki...

For you and for your son, I was going through the same thing, with my 3rd grader..

Answer 12

Your son needs to tell his homeroom teacher, or theprincipal or the school counselor himself that he is being  bullied unless he is a very shy kid.Also you need to teach  him to reply back with witty responses so that he gets the upperhand . My daughter had a bullying programme at  both her old primary and  now high school.If neither of those things work  then only then go to the principal for help.

Answer 13

LET HIM DEAL WITH IT!

I'm in 8th grade and the WORST thing you can do is interfere! He can handle it himself!

Answer 14

As a parent, I'd make some calls.  Why aren't teachers and administrators dealing with this?  Bullying is a bigger deal than people make it out to be.  

There are some great books written about bullies from the viewpoint of the bullied person.

If it were my son I'd call the teachers and tell them to watch out for this going on, and I'd give my kid some books and other tools to deal with it.

If it gets bad enough, you and he might want to discuss moving to another school.

Answer 15

Talk to your principle. Tell him your son is being harrassed. Use the word harrassed. Chances are by law they must make every effort to stop the behavior. They could go so far as to remove the bully to another campus, but the least is they should make faculty aware of the problem and attempt to stop it. If your principle is good he can take steps without the kids knowing anybody said a word.

Answer 16

Bullying is a serious thing to a child. I would defiantly not let it slide.

I would call the school and talk to the Principal..(most schools now have a zero bully tolerance)..and I would also call the parents..and let them know what is happening.

Do not let this slide...or have him tough it out..studies show verbal bullying or abuse can be more damaging then physically.

Answer 17

WOOOW FOR ONSE I THINK I WAS SMART AND CAME UP WITH A GOOD PLAN CHECK ITOUT  !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

tell the principle your problem he will catch those guys in the act and your son and all the bullies will think it was their fault and no one will feel bad except for them oh b4 you tell the principle to do this find out where the bulling really happens and tell the principle for other teachers to be on the loook out

Answer 18

well im a 13 year boy in middle school that is made fun of. What you should do is  just tell him to not even look at them and pretend he didnt here them.They might start doin it even moore but then they will slow down when they think it isnt hurting his feelings. Im made fun of still after i did this but it is a lot less. Dont forget to i dont no maybe help his self esteem like my mom used to do when i had it rough. I hope the bullyin stops for him.

Answer 19

let them handle it if you interfere the will laugh at him more because its making him seem like he needs a woman help to defend him and yes all mom do want to be protective i segjest u either buy him some good clothes or put him in a cool class lke boxing or you can go into the office and tell someone but keep names secretive so the "bullys" wont know that u came in

Answer 20

Is he bullied when he is alone? Often if he hangs out with more people, which might be hard if he is alone, they might stop. It is easier to pick on someone alone then in a group, so that's my adivice.

Answer 21

8th grade wasn't that long ago for me.  So let me say, DO NOT intervene directly.  That would just make the kids bully and make fun of your son even more.  Instead, try to go secretly to the principal and share your concerns.  Talking to the bullies or their parents would only make your son more of a target.  

Either talk to the Principal, tell your son to stay in a group of friends--so that he is less likely to be picked on--or tell your son to stand up to the "bullies"

In 7th grade there was someone who picked on me.  One day I said that if he wanted to fight, that I would fight him.  All he said was "You're alright" and I never heard from him again.

Anyway, good luck!