Do you know any setreotypes adout transracil adoption/cons?

Question

Do you know any setreotypes adout transracil adoption/cons?

Answer 1

Lots of people will probably post heated answers for and against adopting a child who is another race than one or both parents.  While I am all for adopting the child that fits your family, regardless of race, I think it is important that the family recognizes that race will be an issue.  If you are a Caucasian couple adopting a minority child, you have a lot to consider:

* Will you child see other people who look like him/her?

* Will you child have opportunities to connect to his/her culture of origin?  

* How does your family feel?  Truly feel?  Do you care?  Are you willing to stand up to people who don't support your decision or say innappropriate things?

* How will you discuss race and culture?

A few good websites:

http://www.cafepress.com/many_colors

Transracial Adoption Books

Tapestry Books has lots of resources for adoptive families. Check out the whole site.

http://www.tapestrybooks.com

Answer 2

I know that some people think that the child should be raised with same race parents

Answer 3

We also adopted transracially (my husband and I are caucasian, our younger two children are African). The poster that said it was important for transracial families to understand that race IS an issue, is exactly right.  My children, being black, will have a different experience in life than I will, being white.  It's also important to provide transracially adopted children with positive role models of their own race.

Seriously though, do you know how hard it is to find black Christmas angels and other decorations?  Not to mention dolls, toys, action figures, etc.  

In our pre-adoptive training, we had an assignment to go somewhere that you are the only person of your race in the room.  It really is an odd feeling and changes your perception quite a bit.  

Our family gets noticed wherever we go.  We walk into a store, or a restaraunt, heads turn.  Most of the time, it's curious or positive attention.  Once in awhile we get glares but we've learned to ignore them.  Regardless however, it IS attention.  ALL the time.  Some people have problems with that.

So, moral of the story, transracial adoption is challenging and it does present unique needs for the child(ren) in question.  If the adoptive parents feel they are unwilling or unable to meet those needs, then transracial adoption is not for them.

Answer 4

My husband and I are living proof of trans racial adoption. We are white my daughter is black.... It always amazes me that people in this day in age still think that my husband must be black, or that my daughter is being disserviced because I am not protecting her heritage... I don't get up every morning and say I think I'll go get my black kid up.... I get up everyday knowing that I have a daughter who I love more than anything or anyone in this world and GOD help someone if they ever have any comments.