Do you know anyone who REGRETTED saving themselves for marriage?

Question

In the Weddings forum, we sometimes see questions from virgin brides, and these are typically answered by former virgin brides who were HAPPY with their decision to wait for marriage.

But I don't think I've ever seen responses from former virgin brides (and grooms) who REGRETTED their decision -- that is, wished that they would have had s*x with their prospective spouse or someone else before they married. It seems impossible that there aren't any such folk out there.

Have you heard anyone express such regrets? Disappointed that his/her spouse is lousy in the sack, and wondering if s*x with anyone else would be lousy too?

Answer 1

i had a friend who was saving herself for marriage, she ended up only deciding to get married because she said her virginity was a burden she is now divorced and wishes she would've just had s*x out of wedlock ....... i dont think you will find many people who regret waiting if they had any doubts or worried about it too much they probably didnt wait.  

Answer 2

Well, I didn't save myself for marriage, and I'm glad I didn't.

Sure, I think the whole "my husband was my first and only" is a sweet sentiment, however, I feel that it's also important to make sure you're compatible.  Why not share one another completely BEFORE you decide to share your lives together?  Make sure you're compatible in every way, and still happy with one another after introducing the sexual aspect of things into your relationship?

That's just my opinion -- kind of like how I think it's important to live together for a short while before marrying one another.  You learn a lot when living together.  I lived with a couple different boyfriends before I met and married my husband -- and if I hadn't lived with them there are certain things about them (dealbreakers) that I never would have learned if I hadn't moved in with them.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

Try the religious ones whose husbands are too d**n sensible to give them any pleasure..  

Answer 4

lol, no

Answer 5

I wish I'd tried out the equipment before the wedding!!!  He was lousy in bed AND a premature ejaculator.  About the time I was getting interested in what was going on, he was done!  30 second s*x for 27 years, wonder why I finally divorced him?

Answer 6

well when you don't know what good is how can you compare? To regret you have to experience a state that was previously better. My thoughts anyway.

Answer 7

Nope.

The whole "you want to know what you're doing" thing is BS.

I would suggest that many of these "experienced" guys are jaded, and "experienced" girls are emotionally fragile from the number of times guys have slept with them and left.

Having s*x before marriage does nothing to better a marriage, and can bring a lot of baggage that makes it much much harder.

Answer 8

I've met several. I really feel bad for them.

Answer 9

No

Answer 10

People usually save themselves for marriage because "s*x" is special to them. It's something that they want to share with one person only. Seeing that they value s*x this much, I would find it impossible to believe that s*x is not good for them. I mean just think of the enormous amount of "build up" time. They are just waiting to explode in their lovers arms. ( Um, I might be dreaming a little bit). By the way..the way you use "lousy in the sack" makes me think ur a little kid. I hope ur not.

Anyway, the fact is that its the women who have multiple s*x partners that end up regretting the most. I have dated both types of women, and the one I married was the best in bed (a virgin). The first couple of times it was rough for her, but eventually she exceded my previous encounters and is way better than I expected.

Lucky me.