Do you know what makes you happy?

Question

I always hear people say they need a bf/gf to be happy. Can a person achieve happiness through someone else? Shouldn't a person be totally comfortable in their convictions before they date? If a person "needs" someone to be happy then aren't they living through someone else? Why can't people be independent enough to make themselves happy first then date? I have a partner but if she hurt me tomorrow I would be over her in a week. My happiness does not depend on anyone but myself and my suffering only goes so far. Am I the only one who thinks these things?

Answer 1

I'm happiest when I'm free. I like being single.. And I like being able to do what I want and enjoy.

Answer 2

when im with my BF(when hes normal)

when im with friends

when everyone is happy

Answer 3

I was perfectly content and happy to be single. I wouldn't have minded being an old maid. I thought I could be that cool crazy lady on the hill that had about 100 cats and threatened to shoot trespassers with a shotgun. That woulda been really fun.... but I got a man now and I'm just as happy and content. ^_^

I tend to agree with you. Despite the break-ups there is always a tomorrow and you decide how happy you will be. Surviving heart-break once before proved to me that you can get over it and be happy again. This realization totally revolutionized my concepts of what love is.  

Answer 4

I agree with you insofar as you need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with others.  But I don't think that should minimize other relationships in  your life.  If you  have a strong loving relationship with someone, you wouldn't or shouldn't "be over her in a week."  I unexpectedly  lost my husband nine years ago and I'm not at all "over it."  He made me happy.  Fortunately, I have others who make me happy - my friends, children, and grandchildren.  But I am happy the times I am alone, too.  If a person has hobbies, interests, passions, and so on, life can be great.  Many people do fine being single; others have a dependent need to always have a partner.