Do you like having visitors staying?

Question

I have had visitors come to my house the last 2 weekends and am now so glad to have my place back to myself again. It is hard work cleaning the house for them, preparing breakfast and meals and trying to entertain all at the same time. I think I'm becoming wierd as I find myself screaming inside when I walk into the kitchen to find cupboard doors left open, lights left on un-necessarily, dirty cups all over the place, cups placed beside coasters not on them and the toilet seat left up - aaargh , newspapers and magazines left in the bathroom, doors slammed instead of closed gently, bottles put in the bin and not the re-cycling etc! Nice to see friends but I prefer not to have them on my territory ! Are you with me on this one or do you think I am a crotchety old cow? I'm not house proud by the way - I can live with MY mess, no-one elses !

Answer 1

i totally agree with you it can be so annoying!!! i hadsome guest stay over and they stole my designer perfums broke something andwhen they borrow things they keep it as if it is theirs and don't  return it.

Answer 2

Yes, so long as it's not the wife's family

Answer 3

No, I like my own space

Answer 4

Honestly: No

Answer 5

No i hate it  

Answer 6

With you all the way. I HATE anyone staying over. Come visit, stay to the early hours if you want but go home to your own bed. You sound very like me and I think that's a trait of our personality that makes us feel like this.  I have friends who often have visitors staying over but even on their own they are very laid back.  They can say to people, make yourselves at home, feel free to make what you like in the kitchen etc. I am not condemning these people, perhaps it would be good to be more like them as you certainly feel warmly welcomed at their homes. However, like you I feel a guest should be treated as a guest so I make the meals, serve them, tidy up and think where I can take my visitors.  After the first day all sorts of little things are niggling at me and by the time they depart I am exhausted, ill tempered and just can't wait to get my house back to normal.....thing is I am not a great housewife so again it's not that I am house proud. I really do not have anyone staying now although I did for many years. I then decided to be absolutely truthful and say outright I don't like people staying over. Good thing is I like my own bed too so they know I am not likely to ask to stay over at their houses.

Answer 7

No not all of them because i am 11 years old and we have a family that comes to our house in Carova, North Carolina there from PA and we clean our house all house nice and neat then when they get here They Trash it up!!!! wanna guess how old they Chad (10) Charlie (12)!!!!!! sense our house is ocean front right when they get here they dont even say hi and they go RIGHT to the water even if the red flags are up they always leave our stuff out when they leave! so we have to clean it up!!! smoke Flys out of my ears then We play civil war Where Southern and there northern so we end up fighting and Im Full of southern Pride so i rais He**!! ok back to the stoy my brother Eric (13) go down staris to play then they get out all these model cars and Brake Them!!!!!!

So i dont like it when the Denvends visit!!!

Answer 8

No.  I like having the house for just myself and my family.

Answer 9

I love having people over....But company is like fish.

When it's there too long, it starts to STINK !!!

Answer 10

Whenever my family stay - even for just one night, they always break something and I spend the day that they go not only cleaning up but also repairing stuff. I wish they could just come for dinner and not move from the table. I love entertaining but sometimes it's a bit much. I never break anything when I go to theirs. I don't know how they manage it!

Answer 11

I think it totally depends on the people that are staying, when i have visitors they are all polite and clean, so i just think it depends on the people you are inviting.!

That would drive me mad to cos i am very house proud.

Answer 12

I can't stand it, it doesn't matter how much I love them!

Answer 13

I don't

Answer 14

the only people I have stay are my kids mates on sleep overs and I hate it! I don't live in a big house and find them being here very intrusive. Can't lounge around in my pj's of relax in the bath. Also they are so noisy and take no notice when you ask them to quieten down.

One of my sons friends stayed over this week and wet the bed arghh!

I do not like having over night guests as you probably gathered - I tolerate them and whoop for joy when they go ha ha.;

Answer 15

This is an interesting question, and I understand completely where you're coming from.

For me, it really depends on who the visitors are. If they're my friends from out of town, then it's no problem... everything is nice and relaxed and fun. In that situation, the only thing that bothers me is my good lady fussing and trying to be the ultimate hostess. It's a commendable goal, but it stresses me out for some reason.

On the other hand, when it's mine or my good lady's family, I find it really hard work. I find it very difficult to relax, as both mine and her families are pretty quiet, pretty ordinary and pretty straight-laced. I'm a person who is very comfortable with myself, and I get very itchy when I have to subdue elements of of myself. They're all lovely people, don't get me wrong, but after about 2 nights I just want them out, and I find myself disappearing into other rooms for long periods of time. It's very selfish, I know, but that's just the way it is.

Answer 16

Depends on the visitor, but generally NO... I like my privacy and the ability to do what I want when I want and not worry about other people.  I wish I could get around this- I guess it's my issue- but I'm just a solitary (with my husband) person...

Answer 17

I hate having people stay at my house.  I feel as though I can't relax and I find myself having to clean up after everyone.  It's annoying to be taken away from your personal comfort zone

Answer 18

it depends on the visitor. some are such a pain! i used to love having ppl over until i felt like i was being treated like a hotel! no help with the cleaning etc...

its great having friends over for a few hours but long stays really bug me now!

i think its normal.. but maybe im turning bitter too! hehe.

Answer 19

I am with you 100% on this one, Some guests give you pleasure in coming while others give you more pleasure in going".  I am nuts when it comes to the order of my house, the way I look at it is this, you walk into someone's home and you see EVERYTHING is neat tidy and organized.  If folks come into my home and disrupt that it only shows lack of respect.