Do you parents teach your sons about Chivalry?

Question

I think parents should start teaching their sons chivalry, you know like, opening doors for women, being courteous to women etc. List some things you teach to your son about chivalry if you do. If you don't want/like to teach your son about chivalry why is that?

Answer 1

If I had kids I would, my husband is a gentlemean and I'm a firm believer in good manners and good ettiquete. I believe in equality, and chivalry is just a sgn of a good upbringing and respect for your fellow human.

Answer 2

Chivalry training starts with how your father treats your mother if he doesn't respect her the chances are neither will you and so when you get into a relationship you will not respect your partner either.

Answer 3

I'll teach my son respect when I have a son, but chivalry is dead, unless he becomes a knight and gets sucked back into the middle ages.

Answer 4

Only parasitic women (like YOU) expect men to act chivalrous, since  chivalry is the retarded idea that men must protect and serve women. Women like you should be erased from Earth.

Answer 5

If she's a stay at home mom i'll help her with a few tasks occasionally,  but asking me to take on a big chunk of household responsibilities ALONG with a full time job while she stays home is a little one-sided, dont you think?

Tell you what, i'll start taking care of a big chunk of household chores when you start knocking out the mortgage payment and grocery bills every month.

Answer 6

I would teach my son to be kind and respectful of everyone, which, to me, would include treating women like they were just as capable as he is of opening a door. Women don't need to be treated as anything else. As for everything else, yes, he should help with the housework, but taking out the trash shouldn't be a gendered task. I've never minded doing it.

Answer 7

No.  I try to teach my sons to have a basic civility towards everyone, i don't have much interest in chivalry myself so i don't see why they should particularly.

My husband is not a chivalrous man, and I don't set a lot of store by chivalrous gestures.  However, I like it when he does practical things for me like lifting things that are too heavy for me, fixing things I can't fix, etc, I regard these things as more important.  Opening doors etc are unimportant gestures as far as I am concerned.

doing things around the house is something he does automatically, he doesn't regard this is chivalrous, he is just practical.  I find that more useful.

Answer 8

Wow, this is such a great concern.   I think that parents should teach their sons how to COMMUNICATE appropriately with girls and authority figures.  A respected man is one that can humble himself infront of others and not be so driven by pride.  I also think that a young man should be taught how to put pride into the work of his hands.  He should be taught how to work hard and complain little.              I think I could go on for awhile.

Answer 9

i'll be frank - people like you really irritate me, you get equal rights and then you STILL want to receive benefits in the form of chivalry

the toilet seat   -    you have it down to pee, he has it up to pee -  what's the problem with putting it down yourself? he always has to put it up when he takes a p**s so why should you not have to put it down when you take a p**s? - your only using  4 muscles for god's sake, grow up get over it  i'm sure your not that weak!

2ndly, why the h**l should entering a friggen door way be governed by your s*x? what the h**l do your genitals have to do with doorways?

Answer 10

I think good manners, thoughtfulness and consideration go a long way for both sexes. If you teach these qualities than I think your son can work out with his partner what she would expect of him. People are siting the biggest reason of marriage break downs as lack of equality in their marriage. As one of the other respondents said, practical things mean much more to people like offering to do the washing up, as opposed to chivalry. You and your partner have to model this to your son because this is the way he will learn those behaviours. Not just what you say.

If she is a "stay at home mum" this is more reason to be considerate and thoughtful because to have 2 children and be a home in time and motion studies has been found to be a double the work of a normal job. You say that so demeaning and it is such an important job.

Answer 11

I would teach my son to be respectful to EVERYONE, not just women.  If he opens doors for women, he should open doors for men; if he's courteous to women, he should be courteous to men.  

In reply to your question, I would never teach my son chivalry because it is based on the philosophy that women are the only ones deserving of respect ... or either that they are deserving of MORE respect than are men.  This constitutes sexism against men.  Both women AND men are deserving of equal respect.  Anything that contradicts this principle is something detestable to me.