Do you pick the time and place where you have arguments with people, or do you argue whenever?

Question

I had an argument with my mother before she went to work today. I was reflecting, and then thought to myself, that it would have probably have been better if I had waited until she got home, because then it wouldn't interfere with her performance at work. What do you think?

Do you have a sort of guideline for approaching these things?

Answer 1

What i would suggest is to try and manage your anger in the mornings, don't let your mum leave the house after an argument, make it a happy morning so she can get on with what she doesn't at work and I think it might interfere with her performance at work if you have an argument before she goes out to work because she'll be worrying that you'll have a bad day now and that she's done something wrong.

Try and leave it til when she gets back or not at all maybe (:

Hope this helps :]

Answer 2

i always let things out at the time that they SHOULD be let out; immediatly.

if it was about her leaving the lights on everywhere everytime she left the house, then yes, regardless of her having a stressfull day at work, it WAS the best time. because the next time she will leave the house at that time she will think of 2 things. the argument you had with her, and the fact that she better do something about it.

if this argument was about something from 3 days ago then yes you should have waited. When you have a long-burning problem and you just want to let it out then and there because otherwise it would ruin your OWN day, then you could just say "i want to have a talk about 'thisorthat' when you come back, is that ok?" leaves her to think about (and maybe prepare) it for a day at work. Also, make sure you make it look worse than it is, and take note of her initial reaction to you mentioning the subject so you can prepare how you will start up. wonder what it is you'll say and what solutions you could both come up with. Take your time to sort out serious problems. You can always say sorry for this morning, sit down, both, and discuss it again in a more proper manner. remember, any kind of verbal exchange (even arguments) can be done in the form of normal conversations.

Answer 3

Nice job of ruining your Mom's day.  Now she won't be able to concentrate on her work and will no doubt be fired.  Then where will the drug money come from, huh, did you even think of that???