Do you really need a hens/bucks night?

Question

Is it really necessary to have a hens and or bucks night because i dont want a bucks night but my fiance wants a hens night???

Answer 1

You don't have to have one. I actually dont want a hens night to tell you the truth but my bridesmaids are throwing me one so I guess it would be rude of me not to appear lol.

Answer 2

A lot of people do not have them, or do have a gathering with friends that is g-rated.

If you want, take the guys for some bowling, or a local buffet. Or skip it totally. Not everybody wants to have a bucks/hens night.

Answer 3

It's fine if that's what you want.

Answer 4

We aren't having them either.  And I really wanted my "girls night".  But I guess it just never happened.  We'd rather be with eachother than anyone else anyway.

If your fiance' thinks it's important to her, then you need to make sure it happens for her.  You don't have to have a Buck night just because the hens went out.

Answer 5

No, my fiance and I aren't doing bachelor or bachelorette parties, we don't want them.

Answer 6

It is a personal choice.  If you love your future other half and trust them--why not? There will be many days that your significant other will go out with their friends without you.  TRUST is what is going to help you feel comfortable.  There are also going to be times when they are going to want to do things you may not want to.  Remember that they are an adult.  I have found that when I asked my fiancee not to do things--he did them for sure.  Try to allow your love to be their own person and an adult.  Your marriage will grow from it!  

Answer 7

Neither night in mandatory

Neither night is contingent on the other occurring as well...

Talk to your fiancee and come to an agreement...  

Marriage is all about communication and compromise... So get to communicating and compromising now, it great practice for years of communication and compromise you have to look forward to being married...

I have never understood someone marrying someone they don't trust enough to have a night out with their friends...  Marriage is built on a foundation of trust and not trusting enough for a night out shows a HUGE crack in the foundation...