Do you really think avoiding someone you don't like is a solution to a problem?

Question

Wouldn't it be more suitable to try and talk about whatever is wrong? If someone has offended you, shouldn't you calmly try to solve the issue? Avoiding a person really isn't a reasonable alternative because you can only avoid someone for so long and the problem will never be solved. However, I would like other perspectives on this.

Answer 1

I hate cowards!

So, if they choose to not resolve the issue...

we know why, they're cowards afraid of confrontation and all they're good for is starting s**t and running away!

I hate it when people can't stand up to the problem and try and resolve and just leave people hangin.

So NO avoiding someone because you don't want to resolve the problem isn't the solution..though sometimes its best depending on the sit....

EX: this perv that I use to work with, we would chat sometimes and eventually I started realizing what a pervert he was.

I didn't feel comfortbale talkking to him and he would just deny his actions, and I didn't want drama..so there was no use in confronting him.

Answer 2

keep your friends close and your enemies closer

Answer 3

You dont have to avoid them completely, just keep it to a minimum with them. If you dont like somebody then, you dont like them, for whatever  the reason may be. People are who they are and youre never gonna change them.

Answer 4

sometimes talking works wonders but most of the time if u dont like the person then u should leave it be and move on...

Answer 5

I think avoiding someone is awesome fun. Do they like to jerk around on purpose? I have found out some folk love to get others in trouble, or, say that others life is too easy. They are usually staring. Their is something wrong there, not rudeness. Have a good day.  

Answer 6

many people do cause they don't like the confrontation- doesn't matter whose fault it was or for whatever the reason was.  Avoiding is a possibility, but not always.  one thing for sure, don't try to solve right after that moment cause it may only cause more quarrels.  Personally, writing a letter or email is best because the person will read it in their own personal/ available time.  not everything said in words are remembered or understood!  Another way is get the person when they are in a good mood and just talk to them- and yes, it HAS worked for me in the past!!

Answer 7

It really depends on the situation.

Sometimes avoiding a person temporarily until you know how to express your feelings respectfully can be a good thing.

Avoiding them and sulking is never helpful, however.

If the person is unable to communicate or has hurt you to the point that you are unable to work through it, then cutting them off and being upfront about it is still better than avoidance.