Do you regret getting married?

Question

Did the person change or what? What happened?

Answer 1

I suggest living with the person for at least 1 year before getting married...  

Answer 2

Does liking someone for  3 years count? I sooooo regret it. I didn' see who was standing right infront of meh.  

Answer 3

I do not regret getting married as my husband and i are best friends. But sometimes do feel irritated.

Answer 4

I never regret that.  My husband has had his ups and downs, but that is part of being married, you work through those together.  My husband is my better half, and I am his better half.  When he is deployed, I feel like a part of me is missing, and things just aren't "right".  I think the people who regret getting married are the ones who married the person that wasn't right for them, or they got married for the wrong reasons.  

Answer 5

i never regret getting married.  Yes, we have both changed after time but for the better.  

Answer 6

Most days yes, I do regret it.  The reasons, he has become a religious fanatic.

Answer 7

Marriage is for needy people who are afraid to spend their life alone.

Answer 8

Yes i regret the day I said I do. Nowadays all she does is eat twinkis and nags.

Answer 9

More or less I changed but I still love him. I was just too young. I sometimes wonder what I could have done with my life instead of getting married young.

Answer 10

Yes, he started doing Meth right after the honeymoon.  Or probably before I just didn't know.  Then he got crazy into it.  I had no idea what was going on and then he went into a rage and put me in the hospitol.  I left him from what I hear he is still doing drugs has no home or vehicle or phone.  He was a very respectable person with a great job making $60,000 a year when we dated then lost his job right after we got married and I don't think he ever got another.  DON"T DO DRUGS!

Answer 11

No way, I wish we would of found each other sooner!  xox

Answer 12

YES!!!!!!

Changed immediately.  She's not at all the person I wanted to marry anymore.

Answer 13

No, of course not! My husband is a very good man and I love him dearly. He did change the way I looked at marriage and he got me to understand our marriage came long before our big wedding day.  

Answer 14

yes... he was a cheater before i married him, guess we thought marriage would make him change his ways. it did not. it got worse. we were only married a few years before i left him.never been happier since i left him. now i have a great guy. i dont think ill ever get married again though.

Answer 15

100% Regret Marrying a Green Card Chaser !!!!

I'm not sure how it happen to me being a native New Yorker, I always seen myself as "street wise" but I'm a victim of a "Green Card" marriage. At the time I was a 38 year old college graduate, self employed, divorced mother of 4 children from a previous marriage of 14 years. Big house, 2 cars, etc. & business owner, which I believe made me a great canidate/victim.

To make a long story short, I met him in NY in August 2007. My brothers checked him out some what (not thoroughly). He met my family and seemed as if his deen (religous beliefs based on Islamic Values) was in order & all was a go for our nikah ( marriage) at the of October 2007. My mother asked him was he marrying me for a greencard. He made it clear he had all is papers to stay in the USA in order. He told me that financially he was set back because of a greedy wife from his 1st divorce ( not knowing he was still married legally & wasn't divorced yet & he left his 1st wife a month before he met me.) Also to add, his 1st wife was from Cuba & I guess she was looking to receive a greencard from that marriage. ( real smart, huh) He told me All his family was abroad Morocco & in France. So without any friends, family or foes, when continued as planned. We went through the (nikah) wedding with all expenses paid by me since he was waiting for his business in Morocco to pick up any day now. Yeah right!!!

After the Nikah (wedding) it began to go down hill. We spent 1 day in a hotel & the 2nd day of our so called honeymoon in my home with my children. After the honeymoon he decided he would return back to NY & continue to work to raise enough money for our dwelling since he was the man as he stated, in Islam the man is the provider for the family financial needs. He said he could not imagine living in my home which soon changed. 2 months passed & still he was in NY and I in PA. He decided it's best for my mother (my mother recently received heart surgery, so she was ill) & I take a trip to his country all expenses paid by him. I found out I was pregnant , and began to go through morning sickness . As planned we continue on preparing for the trip to Morocco. The day of the trip I was sick real bad with severe cramps, & made it to the airport late. He didn't take off from work , so I was left carrying my moms bag, my bags, & an a large over sized suitcase he gave me for his family to the luggage gate. He cursed me and told me how I wasted his hard earn money (which I found it came from the restaurant where he worked that sold alcohol, which is against a muslim's belief to work with alcohol) & nothing was wrong with me but I was making excuses. The following day we caught the flight, again with him not there and my pain was at a all time high. When my mother & I reached in Morocco we were now both ill. His mother & father ( May Allah( God) bless them ) was rich ,humble, kind people ( neither of his parents spoke English, so his brother translated). They took care of my mother & I right away. The following day they took me to their private physician & found out I had a miscarriage & a severe uterus infection. The doctor said if I had waited any longer I would have lost my uterus or my life. His mother called him & asked why was I sent to Morocco in such a way, he said I demanded to come. We stayed for a couple days more & returned because of health issues began to worsen.

On returning from Morocco I know was carrying 2 more extra large suitcases which his family sent for him. He didn't show up at the airport, now I'm struggling again with sickness, my ill mother, & over loaded luggage. I met him at his apartment . He was cold & callus, only anxious to see what he received from Morocco. In agony I called my sister crying tell her that my pain was being ignored, he finally called the ambulance & I stayed in the hospital in NY for well over a week. Through this whole ordeal no sympathy nor compassion.

He told me he had bad news he was going to be deported, his papers fell through, and he wanted me to file for him. I told him we did not marry for papers.Now he decided it was time to live with me so he can take care of me & show me it wasn't about the papers but true love. More like I took care of him. I was paying all bills, and laboring hard while he slept half the day away, and the other half eating. The mental abuse didn't stop because he wanted his papers. I became pregnant again . Consistently abusive, and here we go again another miscarriage. He screamed at my mother ( since her sickness she  had living with me) made her cry, cursed my kids, and me majority of the time. Enough was enough, I put him out, and 2 week later let him back in ( giving 100 % to make this marriage work). I became pregnant with twins 1 in my uterus & 1 in my tubes. Nothing made this relationship work not even counseling because all he wanted was papers. He told me he hope me & the babies die because I didn't agree to giv

Answer 16

Nope, our relationship continues to grow everyday. We like hanging out.

Answer 17

im not married

Answer 18

I should have took the chair

Answer 19

we got married in a fever, hotter than a pepper sprout. lord it ended the same way. too hot to handle!

Answer 20

If I didn't have my child whom I love more than life...I would regret it. But because we made such a wonderful boy, no, I can't regret it. He changed into his father...who he hates, but obviously went down the same path as him.  

Answer 21

NOTHING in life ever stays the same it would be a boring life if it did. I have been married  40 years and there have been many times that I wondered but now that I have learned that life changes and so do people  You learn that you change with it or move on.If you love one another you work with the changes. Now days to many people just get married and give up the first time things don't meet their expectations. This isn't the way it works if you truly love someone.

Answer 22

i ent married..but i hate it wen parents spplit up...ost of my mattes parents split :(

Answer 23

No, I don't regret it for a second, I'm very happy we're married.

Answer 24

Absolutely not!  I love my husband and children more then anything.  He's the best thing that ever happend to me!  If you are asking yourself these questions then odds are it's not right.  Good luck!

Answer 25

no way.....

Answer 26

Beth....that you?

Answer 27

I have been married twice. The first was a disaster, we were too young and had no idea what marriage meant. The second is great, we are both older and know what we want. I was smart the second time around about my choice and I feel as if he was too. Their is no drama and great communication which is key.