Do you regret having it done?

Question

The two debaters were on opposite sides of the abortion issue.

I asked them what the long-term satisfaction was among women who had gotten an abortion. Neither of the women gave a satisfactory answer, so I'm seeking one here.

So here's the question-

If you have had an abortion, I'd like to know how long ago it was, and are you glad you did it? Do you regret it?

I know there are people who think abortion is murder, as well as those who think that a woman's rights trump those of a "parasite." If all you're going to do is rant, save it for another question.

Address the question or step off.

Answer 1

beautiful, i think your abortion was completely legitimate considering the situation you were in with cancer. It was a matter of life and death. plus you were already taking the pill correctly. I think you were justified in the abortion. Good luck with the rest of your life. God bless.

Answer 2

My son was a mistake but I don't regret following through with my pregnancy.  He's the world's greatest gift!  I wouldn't consider having an abortion.

I just answered so it would be easy to come back and read other people's answers.  I know it wasn't what you needed but I've never aborted so I can't help you with your question.   I could care less if you picked me as best answer!   LOL  Why are people always so worried about a few silly points???

Answer 3

In April 2005 I had an abortion.

I was diagnosed Polycystic at 13.  I was on the pill from 13-26.  I decided my body needed a rest.  My period was infrequent at best and I was in a loving and stable relationship.  I stupidly did not use any form of contraception.  It was my carelessness and assumptions that led me to become pregnant.

I was working in the restaurant industry which includes late nights, drinking and extra curricular drugs.  I felt something was not right and took 3 pregnancy tests over the course of 3 months.  They all came back negative...until the 4th.

When I went to the Doctor he told me to keep it once finding out I was Polycystic.  We didn't have any money, just moved to a different city, and I had been drinking and taking recreational drugs...not ideal for a healthy baby.  The decision was made and I followed through.

It was the most heart wrenching, gutting experience of my life.  It almost ruined my relationship.  I became terribly depressed and started partying more than ever.  Thankfully after about a year I snapped out of it and looked at my life and my choices.

If I were pressed I would say that I don't regret what I did.  I will also say that I will never, NEVER do that again.  I still think about my decision...make the calculations as to age...wonder the s*x and look that that child may have had.  

It is something that haunts me.  I will have to live with my irresponsibility for the rest of my life.  Despite it no longer being a right choice for me, I do still support the right to choose.  A woman's body is her own and her circumstances are unique to herself.  No one should have the right to dictate what that woman should do to her body or her situation in life.

Hope that provides you with a little insight...this has been cathartic for me...thank you.

Answer 4

My daughter came to me when I was homeless no job 20 years old and without the father, I have my own place a college education (done in one year) car, and lots of love by my little girl who is now 5 who is full of LIFE and gave me areason to LIVE and Its been JUST me and her ever since.

Answer 5

30 YRS ago - awful mistake - regret I carry for my whole life....

I doubt few people want to admit to such a terrible event in a public forum such as this.

To ALLY - there are ALWAYS other options. always...

Answer 6

I had an abortion Aug 2007

Yes I am glad I had it done, reason I had it done was I was only 16 and didn't feel I could support a child at such a young age. Yes I know it was an irresponsible move to have unprotected s*x, nothing can justify it, but it was only the once. I was very unlucky.

No I don't regret at all, I only regret having unprotected s*x, what's done is done and I don't want anyone preaching at me how I am a bad person either thank you.

The long-term satisfaction I will get, is knowing I lived my life, get a successful job and work hard in education to provide for the futurechildren I will have. Also creating a family life, which I wouldn't have had at 16. Though to bbe honest there is no satisfaction in getting pregnant and have a termination. I just know that I have more satisfaction now than I would have if I had a child right now.

Answer 7

I had an abortion when I was 18, I won't go into any details but I would not do it again, however I would not want anyone to be a criminal because they needed an abortion or any medical people to be criminalized who offer those services.  I would not want a woman to be forced to go to a back alley medical clinic and have her woman parts butchered because it was illegal.  

Answer 8

Id never consider an abortion, however id never regard a child as an accident either.

My husband and i werent trying as i was told i would never have children. I then fell pregnant and my midwife put on my notes that it was an accidental conception, wasnt pleased.

Its simple really, if you dont want children then dont have s*x! Or at least use protection.

However i understand your question, if it was the case that the mother didnt think she could offer the child the best chance in life, then there is adoption. However if it was found at scans that the child was severely deformed and would have no quality of life, be in severe pain then yes i do think an abortion should be offered

Answer 9

I had an abortion in january 2006.  I am glad I did it.....I had stage III cancer and it was a matter of survival.  It was a difficult choice, but it was the right choice for me.  No regrets.

Please let me add that I was on Yaz birth control pills when I conceived.  I was taking them correctly.  It's possible that some of the cancer drugs I was on or possibly the vomiting decreased their efficacy.

Answer 10

I am in the process of getting an abortion right now.  I'm actually not glad that I am doing it, but under the circumstances that I have, it is the best option.  I am pro life, so it is really difficult to do this, but I know that since it is the best thing for me, I will not have any regrets.