Do you see anything wrong with a guy having many children with many different women?

Question

Even though it's rare in the Western world, I personally I don't see anything wrong with that so long as he's responsible and takes proper care of his kids and is of course financially capable of supporting them just like any other parent should be. Despite this though, people often tell me such men are "dirty pigs" for doing something like that, do you agree with that?

(The late Issac Hayes has 12 children, four different wives. Jack Nicholson has 6 kids with 5 different women. It's also rumored he's slept with at least 2,000 women lol)

Now on the other hand though, if it was some irresponsible guy who was just randomly knocking up women up left and right like an animal and then bailing out, then obviously that's a different story.

Answer 1

Well, I guess I would like to hear from the kids of these people about how they feel about it.

Answer 2

Sorry, it doesn't matter how much money you have or what material things you can buy them, when you have children with many different women, you are irresponsible. Children need the love, affection, and support of fathers too and an absent father cannot provide that. Period!

Answer 3

Doesn't that s***w up the gene pool?  The chance for inbreeding would be much greater.  Genetic flaws will be more likely to surface...  Tis why the Tasmanian Devil developed contagious cancer.  There's a little pool of Devils on the West coast of Tasmania that might help save the species because they have the genetic make up to develop the right antibodies.    

EDIT:  2 thumbs down

Could you guys please email me to prove me wrong so that I may stop being ignorant?

Answer 4

I think " haha man wh*re*

But if he is taking care of his kids who am I to judge. It is great that he takes responsibility for his actions.  

Answer 5

It's not acceptable for a women to have four baby daddies.  Even if she is taking care of them.  Should it be for guys?

Isnt child support kinda an opt out for fatherhood anyway....sure he sends 200.00 every month and a card at xmas.  Whats that got to being a dad?

Answer 6

I'm not a father, but if I was, I would want to raise my children in a good upbringing and have enough money to get them through college. I suppose if a father was wealthy, it would be alright. If Joe Shmoe works at some retail store and has many children with random women, then there's a big problem.

Answer 7

Splitting custody of one child is complicated enough for me, thanks.  I hate to think what it would be like dealing with 5 different fathers, or if my ex had 5 other women to coordinate with about kids.  Or both.  

I know sometimes life throws you things you didn't anticipate and plans change, but it's probably wisest to at least start with the plan to have all your children with one person.  That way, it is easier to make sure that the children get plenty of access to both parents.  Both parents can choose to make the kids the number one priority even if they're split up.  But if you have kids by 5 different people living separate lives, you'll be torn in 5 different directions.

Answer 8

More goes into fathering children than money.  And, doesn't this counter MRA's position about the importance of a father's role in raising their children and getting custody of them in divorce?

Answer 9

I don't think you should have children unless you have created a good family environment.  Obviously that best case scenario isn't always going to work, but when you mess it up 5 times, you have to begin to look irresponsible.  It takes more than money to raise a child.  It takes commitment and stability, and these men are not stable enough to be good fathers,  I would say the same thing about women.  

Answer 10

the biggest issue with most women is their baby's and their own Security. as long as someone can supply them with a steady, worry-free, positive environment with no foreseeable end, the mother will not have a problem with you. however many women will have a problem with you because they are socially monogamous. i believe in what you are saying but i tend to follow the role of a monogamous male in western culture because it is the dominant view.

many people would argue that a monogamist relationship allows 2 people to be intimate only with the one they love, but i think its possible to actually love more than one person.

i could say more but i think im rambling.  

Answer 11

Since men are obligated to financially support their children it actually makes biological sense to have many children with different women.  It would interesting to see whether a man with many broken families was actually more successful in passing on his genes to the next generation than one faithful man.  I'm inclined to pick the cheating man just because our average family size is so small in the Western world that having 1 or two children with say four new wives is going to be a better strategy than being faithful to one wife and having only two kids.

Answer 12

Yes, I do and vise versa. Children need to have a structured family unit which cannot happen in the situations that you're talking about. Ideally, they need both a mother and father figure in the home. Children of divorce have a bit of a struggle ahead of them and they often feel torn between their two parents.

How do I know this? My first son's father and I are not together. And everything (from enrolling him in school to how he gets his hair cut to how often his father sees him) is a tremendous struggle. Not to mention the fact that my husband resents the fact that I have a child by another man. It is extremely hard on my son and I would not wish it on any child.

Answer 13

my baby daddy has 5 other ones and he left me and isnt gonna give and child support and im 13 and pregnant and i dont know how ima make it work  so NONONONONONO

Answer 14

It's funny that the stipulation has to be that the man better be able to financially support the kids then maybe just maybe it's ok. But if we hear a woman having a bunch of kids by different men, we don't have the same expectation of her.  

Answer 15

yes....when this happens most of the time, its poosible that the children will grow up not knowing each other and when that happens theres a chance they might hook up...especilly if they go to the same high school...look up the statistics, it happens me often than you think!

Answer 16

Well sounds like you're pretty strongly put on your opinion, so that's cool man, I don't mean to rag on it at all - the following is just my opinion:

Personally for me, I'm more of a one-woman kind of guy. Sure when it comes to making love you gotta experience the world and try different flavors (thank goodness for youth), but when it comes down to settling down, I'm a one-hit wonder kind of man; gotta be there for my wife and kids not only financially, but physically and emotionally too, you know?

Call me old-fashioned, but I want to explore the world with my family and see my kids grow up in front of me, so those are my intentions.

Do what suits you best though man; hope my perspective helps!

Answer 17

Well, I don't see how a man could really support 10 or more kids from different women. Haven't we come to a consensus that men aren't walking ATMs? How is he supposed to spend a decent amount of time with all of them?

Answer 18

You are a real w***e master!!!

Have you ever thought about the women you knock up in order to spread your sperm?  Maybe they don't appreciate being treated like baby toaster ovens?  I hope you don't have too many kids, one of you is is too many.

Answer 19

If the kids turned out all right, it would be more acceptable, but I'd still be seriously uncomfortable with it.

Answer 20

I don't see it wrong as long as he is being responsible and supporting the kids, is understandable if the relationship didn't work and they broke up...but if the guy is doing it on purpose then he must have a serious problem even though he is being responsible...

Answer 21

Can you justify his not practicing safe s*x?  He's opening himself up to all kinds of STD's, not to mention putting the health of his children and their mothers in danger.  

Is he deliberately doing this so he will be seen as a stud?

Nah, not justifiable.