Do you see anything wrong with letting my 14 yr old get her belly pierced?

Question

I have a great and open relationship with my daughter. I have my belly pierced and some other piercings and tatoos and my daughter is basically saying that if its good enough for me that she should be able to do it. My hubby is against it but I think if I don't let her she will think I am a hypocrit. What do you think?

Answer 1

You are an adult and are fully aware the harm you cause to your body. She is not legally able to get it on her own she should not get it now. She is not old enough to understand the consequenses yet. Imagine the tattoo you might have picked at 14. Dont' let your kid hurt her body at such a young age. At least make her wait until 16.  

Answer 2

You are a adult. She is not. You can't be friends with your children. You are the parent. You and your husband must agree on these things 100%. This is something you discuss in private. That is her problem if she thinks your a hypocrite. Again your the parent.Nothing wrong with ears being pierced. Whe she is 18, independent and on her own she can pierce any area she chooses..I am with dad on this one..

Answer 3

I have a great and open relationship with my daughters too. They will not be getting anything pierced however, until they are adults and arrive at an informed decision of their own volition. I'm their father...it's not my job nor my intention to be their buddy. Children innately crave boundaries, and that's what we as parents are to establish. How would you feel after the fact if a horrible infection set in...and infection that was completely unnecessary and totally avoidable? If she still wants it when she's older, she can decide to have it done...then the responsibility falls on her. Her body, her choice. Right now, you should be a parent. Many of the things I wanted at 14 my mother had the good sense to tell me "no". I'm very glad for her wisdom. Give your daughter a chance to be grateful for your wisdom.

Answer 4

yeah. i don't know really, but seems like it might be okay. it is kind of hypocritical but then again some things are not okay for 14 yr olds that are okay for adults. so i don't know.  belly button piercing doesn't seem that bad of a thing to me.  

Answer 5

several:

she is 14

is the tattoo place sanitary

or his needles sanitary

what happens if as a 14 year old she gets infected

Answer 6

If its ok with you, thats all that matters. just know shes going to be showing it to a lot of perverted guys...which is cool if she wants to provide that kind of service for the men her age.

Answer 7

What is the point of getting a belly button piercing?  In my opinion it is to draw the opposite sexes attention to that area hopefully demonstrating how flat it is and thus demonstrating your in good shape.  If your cool with that perception than go ahead.  If not, I wouldn't because I can't believe I'm the only one who thinks this is why.

Answer 8

Did U get your piercings at 14 no way that way too young.  Besides she's supposed to be thinking about getting good grades and hanging out with friends not wrecking her body at such a young age.  If she wants piericings let her do it when she's old enough to make the decision.

Answer 9

i think you and your husband need to stand together on this issue.

i think 14 is too young for this. just think about yourself - when you have this piercing, you wear short shirts and s**y cloths. and just think about all the attention you get from men - and not think about that attention coming from horny 14 year old boys and directed at your little girl.

the belly piercing is a very s**y piercing, and at 14, you just shouldn't be introduced to that sexuality.

she will probably say you are a hypocrite, but in the end - you are the parents, and you are in charge, and its not fair to undermine your husband like that. just think about if the roles were reversed.  

Answer 10

Let her get it.

With out telling

your Hubby.

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And she is

old enough

Answer 11

Yes, I see something wrong with it.  If she gets a navel piercing, then she will want to wear midriff bearing tops to show it off and will have every boy and man looking at her belly.  Do you really want all those guys (some perverts) checking out your daughter's belly?  Plus, if you let her do it, what will she ask for next?  Be the adult, Mom.

Answer 12

well me i like them myself and i see nothing wrong with them...well you have s*x are you saying thats ok too...there is limits on some things at 14..but really its up to you and hubby...but dont ever let the mom or dad does it so its ok rule you..moms and dads drink too but 14 year olds shouldnt..but i say belly piercing is no big deal.

Answer 13

let her do what she wants, when shes old enough to do it herself.

Answer 14

I thought you couldn't get it pierced till you were 16, legally.

I got mine done at 16, and my mom went with me.

I would make her wait till at least 16.

Answer 15

LET HER DO IT. SHE'S 14 SHE COULD BE DOING SOMETHING WORSE.

Answer 16

I would be more concerned that she is going to be walking around in shorty-shirts showing it off every chance. I know it sounds conservative, except I used to do that at that age and I remember the things grown men would say to me and the ideas that the guys my age had in their minds from that. It makes me cringe now. Maybe 16 is a better age.

Answer 17

wait until she is 18. You are an adult, and she is not. Let her wait until she is an adult, she may regret it,later.  

Answer 18

Personally, I feel 14 years old is a bit young to be getting piercings other than the ears--but, if you feel she's a responsible girl, then I don't see why not. It's not like a tongue or nipple piercing or...something else.

If you and your hubby don't mind your daughter showing off some skin (because that's probably what she'll be doing), then I don't foresee any other problem. If it is a problem and you do not want to appear like a hypocrite, then maybe make a deal with her, telling her she can get one once she's older (you two can negotiate an appropriate age). I think that's fair and reasonable.

Answer 19

I GOT MINE WHEN I WAS 13!!

What real reasons do against it do you have?

If you raised your daughter right, a belly button piercing isn't going to make her sexually active or rebellious. .

Belly button rings aren't bad, I just did it for fun. I wasn't crazy in middle school or high school, I wasn't a popular, S****y party girl, I stuck to my close friends. I've always been prude & shy with guys, & getting my belly pierced didn't change that. (i also was the first person in my school to do it).

I have my belly button & tongue pierced. I did both of these for myself, not to entice 'guys' or be s**y as so many people think.

With your daughter, write out pros/cons, what you/you're hubby are worried about, & (most importantly**) WHY she wants it done.

-tell her that she might get unwanted attention from perverted old men (she needs to be aware)

-having a piercing doesn't mean she should wear little shirts all the time to show it off (every one does at first, but you get used to it so much you forget about it & don't think to show it off. I mainly thought it was cool & wanted to impress my friends, not guys. I was a late bloomer, & wasn't even interested in guys or had kissed a guy when I got it done)

- most are infected for almost 6 months (although not dangerous)

-always have a little scar/mark

-**Make your daughter research local tattoo parlors & take notes to compare them & prove she did it (if she goes through the trouble of all this, it shows maturity & that she really wants one)

       - their cleaning/sterilization techniques

       - what they teach about after care

       - first piecing should be stainless steel & simple with no dangles or extras (bad sign if parlor lets you pick anything)

      - you can usually tell if a piercer knows what he's doing when you ask questions - they'll give detailed & thorough answers, often going beyond your basic question

       -*Make sure you go over proper cleaning care before she gets it done! Most people have to take care of it & clean for 6 months to a year!

     - Go into a few parlors & watch someone get it done, that way you can see if they use sterile techniques

Some people think getting a piercing is going to change their kids behavior: make them S****y, rebellious. . . Piercings & behavior are separate!

**If you taught your daughter good morals, you have nothing to worry about.***

Go with your daughter, it will be a great bonding experience!!!

Denying your daughter to do this will hurt your relationship because it's unfair. Unless you have some good/solid reasons to forbid it, she'll just feel like you're being unfair & controlling.

I'd even go & lie about it to dad.

(My friend has 2 tattoos, a belly button peircing, & a boob job that she never told her parents. She has been able to keep these from them for 1-3 years, she just got the boob job a year ago.)

Talk to your hubby. What about belly piercings is he really against? Have him make a list of it.

I bet he just doesn't want his daughter to be a s*x symbol or sexual. A girl is going to be sexually active with or without a belly button piercing! Your parenting is what really matters!

Piercings aren't permanent, it's tattoos you should worry about. You should make her wait till she's 18 for a tattoo, have her search a lot before picking one, pick something meaningful, & have her get it in henna over & over to see if she really wants it.

Perverts are going to be perverts & stare at young girls, even if they don't have their belly button pierced.

(tangent: Please teach your daughter that women have power before s*x & guys after s*x. s*x is plastered everywhere, & our culture   I see so many girls trying to use s*x to get a bf, when really my guy friends have said they are waiting for the girl who doesn't put out & thus keeps his respect, my bf always tells me that he loves I made him wait, it made him respect me. If a guy likes you he will wait. Your daughter's not too young, my cousin lost her virginity when only 13! Mom's & daughters should be able to talk about s*x - what's the big deal? it's human nature)