It would probably help if i explain what has gone before i ask the question.
I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant.
over the past month i haven't been talking to my dad.
i was living with him before falling out (we fell out because he went through my bedroom when i was out and lost my latest ultra sound scan)
and for the month we were not talking, i was living at my boyfriends mum's house with my boyfriend.
me and his mother don't really get on too well, but i thought we cleared things up.
while i was living at her house, she then went through my things even though she knows it's why i fell out with my dad.
and she is saying to her son, my boyfriend the father of my unborn ... that i am poisoning his mind because he had an accident at work which resulted in him breaking his arm and not being able to do his job and had to go on sick pay, but his work refused to give him sick pay unless he came in and worked for it, including over his shift (teams) holidays. he said to his mum he didn't want to work through his holidays, and his mum then said, that isn't you talking that is HER poisoning your mind...
i apologies if that made little sense, anyways.
i've since started talking to my dad again and came back to his house where i am registered living.
my boyfriend told his mum that i wasn't gonna be staying at theirs any longer because i had made up with my dad again and that i wasn't comfortable with her going through my things or saying i was poisoning her sons mind.
she then apparently went off her head, fuming at me...even though i hadn't done anything wrong.
she started saying to my boyfriend that i was going to be a bad mother and not look after the baby.
and she would step in and take over the slightest bit of neglect.
she is saying this cause all the way through my pregnancy i have felt sick and really tired and even my doctor told me if i don't feel up to something to take it easy.
i do get out of bed by the way and do what needs doing during the day, but because i don't go on hikes or leave the house EVERY DAY.
and i do sleep in longer, she seems to think i can't be bothered with anything :S.
and bare in mind when i was living at hers, i don't know the area because i am not from around there and my boyfriend was working 12 hour shifts so it was rare for me to get to look around as, i don't want to get lost in a town i don't know with no one i know.
i don't drive so it was a case of walking and buses ... not fun when you get sick easily ...
anyway, her saying she is gonna step in, well from what i know of her she picks faults over EVERYTHING.
so she would be stood over me picking at the slightest sign of ... say nappy rash.
she has been trying to take over from the minute she found out i was pregnant
she even wanted me to have the baby in the hospital near her house, AND THE ONE SHE WORKS IN!!
trying to guilt me into it.
even though all my antenatal appointments have been in the area i am in now.
and i know friends and family here. not where she lives.
I have 2 questions.
1. WHAT THE h**l CAN I DO TO MAKE HER STOP MEDDLING AND TRYING TO TAKE OVER?
2. DO YOU THINK THAT I AM IN THE RIGHT TO BAN HER FROM SEEING HER GRANDSON WHEN HE IS BORN?
Me and my boyfriend messed up with living arrangments before i got pregnant, i understand that.
We are trying to fix that, but his mum won't stop interferring :/
being parents to me, is about me and him bring our son up, not having war with his mum.
please someone give me advice, i don't know how much more of his mums bull c**p i can stand.
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