Do you still believe in marriage or it is just a fairy tale for most people?

Question

Do you still believe in marriage or it is just a fairy tale for most people?

Answer 1

It is what you want to make it. The fairy tale is what gets people in trouble.

Answer 2

I believe in it, even after twice badly bitten by it.

good luck

Answer 3

I am engaged to be married next year.

I think that getting married and thinking that you will feel as in love with each other after 20 years as you do on your wedding night is a bit of a fairy tale.

It's a commitment to one another above all else that no matter what you will live together and care for each other and never give up on one another for the rest of your lives.

Unconditional love is essential for this. As long as you both understand the gravity of the commitment and love each other enough to want to provide for one another forever, then marriage can be an amazing experience.

Answer 4

Its is a fairy tale. It all depends on who is telling the story this week. People only imagine the good things and fool themselves and try to fool others. Even people who start out genuinely in love,  weary of each other, but would never admit it.

Answer 5

Personally I've had a lot of bad experiences with watching people get divorced. (My parents, all of my friends parents, everyone I've ever known....) I've yet to see a good marriage.

Still, I'm hopeful that people can make it work. I don't think theres such a thing as a 'fairy tale marriage' but maybe if people tried harder to stay together for their kids....Or were more careful choosing their mates in the first place. The results of split up families and everything that often comes with it (abuse, separation, unemployment, emotional scars, living at two different homes, etc) are really staggering. It can just really mess kids up.

I mean just read the statistics on fatherless homes. Thats sad.....

Also it tends to have a reoccurring effect, so in a sense, by making your kids suffer through divorce with you, you're dooming your grandchildren to the same fate.

Up to 66% of the women between 19-23 that were interviewed during 10 years post-divorce had a resurgence of anxiety, fear, guilt, and anger that they had suppressed for many years.  These feelings tended to resurface when the adolescent and young adult women were attempting to make major life decisions (such as marriage).

Answer 6

I believe it is more of a fairytale. The times have changed so much that people do not act or believe the same way anymore. People expect more from each other and do not compromise as easily. I have been with my boyfriend for give years. I love him and hope I die with him. I do not see us getting married. People do not hardly even go to church anymore. Most of the time it's just people who are young and want to jump right in. I think It really could be something if the times were different. But considering that on average 85 percent of all marriage's end in divorce and about 48 percent of those end in the first year, I am not so sure people want forever anymore,

Answer 7

Marriage is best when it's not a fairy tale.  It's best when it's just an extension of the friendship.  

The problem with marriage is when people think the license entitles them to exert some sort of control over the other person.  You have to accept and respect the person.  If you start doing things that don't show that respect, like trying to be controlling, then the other person will naturally drift.  

A good marriage is about respect, communication, accepting a person 100 percent as-is and keeping the fire alive.  It's also about having a roommate, lover, friend and confidant, all in one.  That's a lot of practical things to be concerned with.  So with all that to focus on, why should we think about the fairy tale?  

Answer 8

It's a fairy tale.  But make most of whatever situation you are in.

Answer 9

if you put effort into it , it can be the greatest !

Answer 10

In general, a fairytale...statistics say you will end in divorce at some point. Seems the one thing that makes people stay is money...so they don't have the pay the wife and kids...so cheating goes up for husband and misery goes up for wife, more or less.

Only the minority find someone on the same page as them and are mature enough to stick it out.