Do you thing that keeping in touch with the bio-family?

Question

reduces the chance of an adopted child being abused. Do you think that aparents treat their children differently when the bfamily is involved? why/why not?

Answer 1

It really depends on the adoption and the  child you have adopted.  If your talking about adopting from DHS or as a baby.

Answer 2

I am not sure if that would be the case or not.  But, our adopted son has contact with his bio family and I have talked with them also.  I think it shows you can except people for who and where they are if life and helps them have a better childhood.....

Answer 3

Well I am an adoptive parent and I do not allow my kids continued contact with bio family for numerous reasons.  The biggest being that they were taken away for a reason and subjecting them to that environment over and over again only retraumatizes them, which I believe is abuse in itself.

Answer 4

of course not.

first of all i am adopted

and my biological parents arent involved.

neither I nor my parents have ever come in contact with them.

i have an amazing family they are so loving towards me and half the time i dont feel like i am adopted. they treat me the same as my brothers and sisters who are not adopted. Its like they dont even act like i am adopted. i really dont think it matters if you are adopted or not and how the biological fmaily is in your life if you get abused or not. being adopted really has nothing to do with it. in my opinion.

plus in a closed adoption it takes longer to get the child than in an open one..where the biological parents are involved.

it took my parents 7 years to get me.

i dont think anyone that waited that long would really abuse.

plus i can be a huge ***** sometimes..and they have never laid a finger on me.

Answer 5

i think that if a parents is abusive they will abuse a bio child and a adoptive child. Being adopted has nothing to do with it.  And no i don't think i lessens the chance. People who abuse bully kids into not telling friends, family etc.  That would be one more person who does not know what is going on

Answer 6

I'd think they would be less likely to abuse the child if the bio-family is in the picture. But if someone has an abusive nature then they will be abusive whether or not the other family is in the picture.

Answer 7

It's hard to say.  Abuse can take many forms...from emotional, verbal, to physical.

Abusers can be very "good" at what they do, and to the outside world things often appear quite normal and happy when behind closed doors it is a very dire situation indeed.

And, sadly, the victims of the abuse never let on because they feel guilt, shame, or fear, or even a need to protect their abuser.

So, I really don't know if it would make much of a difference.

If the n-family are good people and are a positive influence to the child, (and abuse IS happening in the adoptive home), then at least this would be a source of positivity in the child's life...but I don't know how far it would go to prevent abuse.

Answer 8

Your question cannot be answered factually because, sadly, there have been no studies on the issue.

However, there is reason to suspect abuse rates could be higher for adopted children.  The only study in any way related to this issue indicated that the level of care parents give to biological children (as measured by the amount of food purchased for the child) was greater than that for adopted children.  The difference was slight but statistical significant.

The level of abuse, of course, may not correlate with the level of care.  However, if we assume it does, then having another party in the life of an adopted child could be one way to protect him or her.

This is the best that can be done to answer your question.  As you can see, it is certainly an area that warrants further research.

I am not able to quickly locate the study.  However, here is a link for adoption.com (who presents the study negatively but does not refute its conclusion)http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/the-lo...

Here is a link to an answer for google on the overall subject: http://answers.google.com/answers/thread...

Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Any time you have increased accountability, you are going to have increased responsibility.  So yes, as a general rule, this would reduce the propensity of abuse.

However,,, adoptive parents generally REALLY want kids.  When you really want something, you tend to appreciate it more.  Not as likely to abuse something you cherish.

In other words, a normal non-adopted kid is more likely to be abused then an adopted one.

Answer 10

If someone is abusive they are going to be abusive no matter what. Regardless if the child is adopted or genetic.  Most people who abusive don’t care about that its all about overpowering someone and controlling them. Sometimes you would never know an abuser because they will put on a different imagine when people outside the home are there. Even if a adopted child biofamily was in their life it wouldn’t stop abuse if someone in the family that adopted them was abusive. Unless they saw signs of such behavior and reported their concern to social Services. However any decent person would do that regardless if the child being abused was biological related to them. Besides that not all abusive is physical.

Read  books by Dave Pelzer and Richard Pelzer they documented their years of abusive by their mother (biological btw) real shows what any abused person sometimes goes through. From the abuser becoming “Mrs. Beaver” when people outside the home were present. The verbal and emotional abuse they faced. The feelings that it was their fault that they were bad, the shame they felt that they couldnt confide in anyone about it.  Its very sad but anyone who wants a little window into what child abuse is like should read them.