Do you think 24 is to young to have a baby?

Question

i am 24 and 11 weeks pregnant, i have a husband and we have been married for 2 years, he is still in med school and i just graduated from law school but am planning on saving my degree until im finished having kids, we have our own house and financially we are more then stable, we both decided we were ready for kids as soon as we got married and both our parents agreed well a couple of days ago i went to lunch with some close friends and they started coming down harsh on me about how im not going to be able to go out ever and am never going to get any sleep and i should have waited till i was older to have kids, i never once doubted it was too early to have kids until now, im not considering adoption or an abortion i jsut wanted to know other peoples opinion and what some good and bad things are about having kids young thanks

Answer 1

Its way better than having one at 18, or 16!

Answer 2

Don't let anyone rain on your parade. Your life has taken a different path than theirs and they are worried about how it's going to affect them, not seeing how happy you are. I am 24 years old and pregnant with baby number three. I have been married for almost 6 years and have a 5 year old and a 2 year old, both girls. I am completely over the moon for my kids and excited to be doing it again. Of course 24 is not too young to start a family. I started a family at 18. Don't let anyone upset you. This is a great time in your life, don't let other people spoil it for you!! Enjoy being pregnant you will get a thrill when you feel that baby kick for the first time (my baby is squirming up a storm right now!) and you'll cry the first time you hear your baby cry. It's the greatest thing to ever happen to a woman. Talk to your husband and tell him what is going on. If you guys planned this together then he can give you the emotional support that you need, that you aren't getting from your friends. Tell them to buzz off and explain to them that you are incrediably happy about becoming a mom. My girls are the highlight of my life. My 5 year old is starting school next month and I will probably take 20 pictures on her first day and my 2 year old is so smart so knows her colors already. So, be happy and rub your belly. Start taking month shots to watch how big you get and here in 8 weeks or so you should get your first ultrasound and get to see that little one in you. So, God bless and hug your belly. This is a blessing a blessing from God and it would be a shame to let it go because of some inconsiderate friends.

Answer 3

Your friends are still in the college-immature mode. You've grown up, and they have to accept that. 24 isn't too old, and it sounds like your baby is coming into a stable, loving family. Those people are just scared they'll lose you...well, you have to grow up sometime, and they just haven't yet.

Answer 4

So let me just share when I had kids.  I was 18 when I had my first.  However I was to young then, and she was adopted. I had my daughter when I was 25, and my son and 28.  So, I would say no, your not to young. You will know when you are ready..  Well ready as you can be.  

Good luck and have fun.

Answer 5

I think 24 is a perfectly wonderful age to have children.  You are married.  You have a loving relationship.  You are in a good place.  Although I would advise doing some night classes because once you stop going to school it's really hard to get back in the swing.  I went back after a 5 year break and it was sooooo hard to get into it again.

Answer 6

24 is definately not to young to have a baby, depending on one's maturity level. I know a girl that is 18 and is a wonderful mother and a girl that is 29 and not such a great mom. You and your husband sound like you guys have a good head on your shoulders so I am sure you will be fine. It really doesn't matter what anybody else thinks, as long as it is the right decision for you and your husband. Regardless if you wait or not, you still lose some sleep and still have some nights where you are stuck at home whether you are 24 or 30. As long as your husband and family are a great support system, you'll do just fine! Congrats!

Answer 7

please do not consider abortion. you sound more ready than ever, it sounds like you are going to provide you child with a stable life. 24 is the age i was when i had my youngest daughter, 17 when i had my first.  so please enjoy being pregnant and put all your worries behind

Answer 8

If you two are in a good place with your jobs and have a stable life, then im all for it! Congrats on your pregnancy!! Its not your friends' decisions for when you two will have a baby, its you and your husband's decision. If money for the baby's necessities is not a worry, then all the happiness in the world for you two! Dont listen to others on personal things like this. Good luck!!

Answer 9

No, you are not too young to have kids.  It sounds like both you and your husband are both financially and emotionally ready to have the baby.  You and your husband both have goals for your fuure and that is great; a baby will not interfere whatsoever.  I think it is pretty nasty that your friends commented to you like that.  Life doesn't end after having a baby-trust me. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Answer 10

Well, you are not young at all to have kids. If you and your husband are ready then do it. Forget everyone else's opinion. I had my first child at sixteen. Yeah, i was young and not ready. I don't regret it. Having kids does take some work but it really is the greatest experience ever.

Answer 11

24 is not too young too have a baby, As long as your ready. You can still go out with your friends and have fun you just have to plan in advance so you can get a babysitter, you can't get drunk but you can still have fun.

Answer 12

Sounds like you are ready! I was 25 when I had my first, got pregnant at 24. My husband and I had both graduated from college, had our own place, had good paying jobs, had the money, and we were ready to start a family.

Answer 13

No, I think that's a perfect age to have a child, as long as you're ready for it and are able to give the child a good life. My mother had me when she was 24. Sure kids can sometimes be a hassle. But as my mom said she'd never change it. Once the child is in the world. You'll love it like no other.

Congrats by the way. Good luck.

Answer 14

nope my mommy had me at 24 =) lol

Answer 15

I dont think is is anything wrong with having a baby at the age of 24....

I'm 24 and i have 4 kids, i had my first when i was 19.......

From what u have said u are finacially stable and your partner and ur self are in reputible proffesions.........

Goodluck with ur gorgeous baby and dont worry what ur friends say, you and your partner are the ones who have made the decison to have a child together nobody else......

Answer 16

Definitely not too young.  I was 24 when I had my first... and honestly, this day in age SO many moms are criticized for wanting babies "young." Please.  I would rather have my babies younger and have the energy to keep up with them.  Not to mention, the older you are when you have children, the higher your risk for complications during pregnancy.  I stay at home, I don't earn a paycheck... but I have never felt more rewarded.  I do not regret for a single moment that I have chosen to put my personal "career" ambitions aside to listen to my heart: I want to be a Mommy... I want to stay home with my family.  If you have the ability to do that, you have been given a great gift ... and you should take advantage of it if that is what your heart is telling you to do.

Motherhood is absolutely the best thing that ever happened to me.  Sleepless nights and all. :)  And you WILL get out (contrary to popular belief); you will make new friends (mommy friends) who are supportive of you instead of people who (instead of CONGRATULATING you) are making you feel insecure about what should be the most joyful time of your life.  Pregnancy and parenthood is challenging, but it is absolutely worth it.

Some people may just be a little bit jealous that perhaps they don't have the marriage, family.... and love that you seem to have been blessed with in your life.  Honestly, if I didn't already have all of those things myself, I'd be jealous too. ;) Women are good for that unfortunately, bringing out the insecurities in others so we can better hide our own.

So let me just say, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!  And enjoy every last minute of this new adventure in your life! :)

Answer 17

It sounds like your ready.  I was 22 a month shy of turning 23 when I had my daughter.  Its not so much about age, as it is about your lifestyle.  Having a parnter/husband and a job is the key so you can take care of your baby.  I was never one to go to parties and clubs all the time so that was not a big deal to me.  It might get a little stressful with your husband being in med school but im sure you guys will do great.

Answer 18

I think people are too early for kids when they don't consider the extreme lifestyle changes that having a baby brings and when they don't plan on changing that lifestyle for their baby.  It seems like you and your husband have done it all right.  24 may be too early for THEM, but it sounds like it's right on point for you and your husband.  It's really unfair of them to spring this on you when you're pregnant and feeling the vulnerability and anxiety that comes along with a first pregnancy.  I feel for you and hope your friends think about how unfairly they treated you.  

CONGRATS on your pregnancy.  It seems like maybe you needed to hear that since your friends were acting like jerks.  Your baby will be lucky to have such organized parents.  Don't second guess your decision.  You made it because it suited you and your hubby.  I have a feeling that your friends are just getting down on you because they are worried about getting cut out of your life when the baby comes.  I hope they come to their senses and give you the support you need.

Answer 19

I had our only child at 21, we got married when I was 19. My husband is quite a bit older than I am and we have to plan certain things around the Army. Being financially stable is a total plus, I love being able to stay home with my son. I love having my child young. I only want 1 so I know that when he's grown I will still be young enough to enjoy my 30's and not worry about little kids. I love the fact that I will be a young grandma too.

I think it depends on the maturity level of the person. I can't say what its like having a baby later in life but this worked awesome for us. Congrats to you!

Answer 20

I think your plenty ready. My mom had me when she was about your age and everything is great.

Answer 21

Well I really think it all depends on the person I  am 16 weeks pregnant and will be 24 in October and I have a two year old also I was ready for it but your friends are right you wont get any sleep and you wont be able to go out that much but that all comes with being a parent.  If you think that you are ready than you will be, just think there are girls out there that have kids at much younger ages!!  Good luck to you though!

Answer 22

I'm almost 23 and I have 2 daughters. I had my first one at 19 and my second right before I turned 21. Girls around here get pregnant at 11 and 12, so know you're not too young.  Don't worry about what your friends say. The first couple months you hardly get any sleep, but it gets better believe me. You're 24 and married. Motherhood is one of the best things that can happen.

Answer 23

not at all my mom was 19 when she had me, i was 20 when i had my twins. i think its easier to keep up with em while youre young.

your friends are freaking stupid, and jealous.  they want you to spend your life wrapped up in theirs. what should you wait for? the older you get the harder on the body, the weaker the system, the likelihood of multiples, and complications.

your 'friends' should be happy for you, and they are greedy. nothin' quite like true colors showing eh?

Answer 24

hey.

  i know what ur going thru...i had my first boy when i was 24..i was married for 1 and a half year then..now at 26 i am having my baby number 2 next year march. im looking forward to it but i went thru the same thing like u with my first pregnancy..i am not able to go to movies sometimes coz there is no one to watch my child and i cant go clubbing coz my hubby thinks it not right to leave a child with someone else at nite..but once the baby comes u will not care..u will miss ur old life but believe me u wouldnt want to give ur baby away for anything in the world.all my friends were single when i got married and they really were harsh telling me i will not be able to enjoy life..but now i love what i have...dont worry...enjoy ur pregnancy and upcoming motherhood..ur lucky that everything is going ur way...cherish it

Answer 25

i think u have a very stable life perfect for raising a child!

Answer 26

no i had my first baby at 22 and wouldnt change anything everything happens 4 a reason so dont doubt anything.

Answer 27

No.............If you were 16 yea but your grown

Answer 28

I think it sounds as though you are doing just fine! My husband and I have been married since October of last year; he is 22 and I'm 20. We are expecting our first child, a little girl, sometime around December 10th!