Do you think BDSM Age-Play is a gateway...?

Question

to more deviant and perhaps unethical perversions of sexuality? I am particularly interested in hearing from those actually in the lifestyle of whatever variety, and the BDSM- ers ie Char, Chanteuse D'Opera, Hala and those others who enjoy submissive sexuality? Where do you draw the line?

Can Age- play lead to Paedophilia? Does it skew ones psychological equilibrium?

Why are there such large communities of people who live this lifestyle without trepidation or sense it is unnatural?

Some women and men only feel capable of expressing their 'erotic natures' when they are a 'little', when they can be vulnerable emotionally. Is this some kind of peculiar freudian manifestation, the development of ones sexuality in childhood through those psycho sexual stages, or is it something which need to be psychologically treated?

Answer 1

I don't know what half of those words mean

Answer 2

It is possible but is not always true all the time. I am interested in this & consider myself sexually submissive. I do enjoy the idea of father/daughter age play & I don't have a sick, twisted relationship w/ my own father. All it is fantasy & I believe that if you are not hurting anyone, then there is nothing wrong with this. What goes on in your bedroom is your business & if the two of you are OK with it & agree for it to be consensual then go for it. As long as you have discussed it then I see no problem.

Of course to the "outsiders" not involved, these acts seem perverted & unnatural, hardcore & obscene acts of s*x. Besides, the people who do this do not behave like this outside of their sexual lives, if they did--then it'd be a problem because other people would involuntarily be involved.

I personally think Freud had issues w/ his own childhood & thus, decided to describe any sexual inclination towards "ageplay fantasy" as related towards problematic childhoods, but that's just my opinion.

Hope this helped & thanks for the shoutout! :)

Answer 3

ageplay is just another form of roleplay. people who enjoy it enjoy exploring taboos from a legal and safe point of view. just because plaid skirts and kneesocks are hot on an adult pretending to be younger doesnt mean that an adult is going to find a child attractive. in fact, it's usually quite the opposite. adults are attracted to adults-- they may be roleplaying any number of things, from a priest/nun scenario to a puppy/owner scenario-- being attracted to biological children is quite another thing entirely, and a mental illness.

ageplay is about consenting adults playing with consenting adults.

the two can't even be compared, really.

as for as the reasons why someone would engage in ageplay... that's for the ageplayers in question to answer. some do it to relive a different time in their lives (to improve it or to enjoy it again), some do it to have a childhood they may have missed out on-- and some do it just because it's fun and taboo and something they personally enjoy doing.

additionally, many dominants who participate in ageplay enjoy it because they like the bdsm lifestyle but they are not as interested in the hard-and-fast "master" roles, but prefer a gentler approach to domination, and end up taking on more of a "daddy dom" or "mommy mistress" role, rather than the no-nonsense all-discipline not-so-tender approach to controlling a submissive.

none of the ageplayers i know need any psychological treatment whatsoever. they are stable well-adjusted adults who enjoy calling someone or being called daddy or mommy (or what have you).

Answer 4

Age-play has nothing to do with pedophilia.  When there is the "daddy/daughter" relationship, or other such similar relationship, they are not even thinking along the lines of incest.  The use of "daddy" and "daughter" are just titles to express the parameters of the fantasy.  The "daddy" is the older, wiser, more mature mentor while the "daughter" is the young, innocent and naive one in need of guidance and discipline.  It is FANTASY.

Another form of age play isn't even sexual in nature.  It is the baby fantasy, where the adult acts as though they are an infant, needing to be completely taken care of.  Some may go so far as breast feeding and actual use of diapers.  It's a way of recapturing the time when you were young and helpless.  You couldn't express your needs in words, yet somehow, your caregiver was able to interpret and meet those needs.  I can imagine there must be such freedom in trusting someone so much that you allow them to care for your every need, including the most basic of needs.

Answer 5

I don't think people's sexual interests just go away if they don't fulfill them.  I would think that if people have a healthy way to find release it could only help things.

Answer 6

I've never been involved in age play but of the ones I know who enjoy it, they never seemed interested in real children.  

Everything has potential for psychological repercussions, esp things like BDSM which is why one has to be really careful. However, I think the idea of age play leading to pedophilia is unfounded, rather age play is more a case of reverse dress up.  Remember being a child and dressing up in Mom or Dad's clothes?   Those who enjoy age play are just doing the reverse.

Where to draw the line?  I draw quite a few, for me it has to be one on one with a man I trust, no animals no other people, no blood play....and so forth.

I'm also not nearly as involved as some others.

Answer 7

yes and no...

No in the sense that my woman likes to call me daddy when we're hot and heavy... sometimes Master.  I like that, because of several reasons... but I realize throughout the entire time, that she's a 47 year old woman, I'm a 49 year old man.  There is no turn on with it being a "incestuous" thing.  More along the lines of D/s or M/s TPE.

Yes, in the sense that there are those who let their minds go to depravity and are turned on by the violating scenario.  Does it gravitate towards pedaphilia?  Perhaps.... sadly, but only to those with a depraved mind already and have blurred the lines between right and wrong.  Unfortunatly, their number is growing.

Answer 8

Hi Stars

I’ve never been involved in age play myself, but I know several couples who are in Daddy/little girl relationships. I think it’s just one way of creating a power exchange and enhancing feelings of Dominance and submission, rather than an expression of a sexual interest in children. A desire to be submissive can be represented in lots of different roleplays, including human-animal, parent-child, teacher-pupil etc. but I think the basic drive for all of them is the same; the people involved don’t want to take on those roles or act out those situations, they just crave the feeling of control or loss of control. The submissive likes to feel that someone else is in authority because it creates a feeling of safety.

I don't think there's a link between consensual BDSM and paedophilia; the usual explanations for paedophilia are either genetics or childhood experiences, rather than something which develops through your life. Anything between consenting adults is a healthy sexuality; repression of your desires can often be much more damaging to your psyche.

As for Freud… I actually think he made a lot of sense on this topic. It differs for everyone (I’ve met BDSMers with very sexually open childhoods, so in that case it seems to be more genetic) but for me personally I think my sexual interests are a product of a very repressed attitude to s*x during my childhood. It was a completely taboo subject, and any time I expressed a curiosity in s*x I was made to feel guilty… which, in a round-a-bout way, I think made me a m*******t. Unconsciously, I think I like to lack control to absolve me of the guilt associated with being sexual in any way. I think I fixated at the latent stage because I wasn't allowed to develop into the next one at the right age, and I was taught to distrust men (I also think this is why I’m bisexual).

That said, we all have our quirks and I think BDSM is a natural diversity rather than a mental problem… we all develop differently and as long as it doesn't cause harm to anyone or make us unhappy then I don't see a need to treat it.

These are just my opinions on it anyway, other lifestylers might feel differently. Interesting question. :)

Answer 9

I think you may have issues from your childhood .

Answer 10

You can only see so many 40 year old fat bald men in diapers before it stops seeming anything remotely related to paedophilia lol.  I think it's more about feeling protected, taken care of, no responsibilities, etc - rather than actually acting like a child.  I find it's a common fantasy for middle aged businessmen - maybe just a way of escaping the pressures for a while?  :-)