Do you think I'm overreacting or being unreasonable?

Question

(Note: Please skip this if you aren't familiar with Myspace)

I have a girlfriend that I've been living with for about 6 months. We get along well EXCEPT for the fact that for some reason, she feels the need to monitor my myspace profile. She actually memorized who is on my Top 8 even though she doesn't know any of them (I know this because she has asked a few times why so and so is not on my Top 8 anymore), I constantly see her looking at one of my friend's profiles and scanning through their comments and looking through their photo albums, and asks me things like "How come most of your myspace contacts are from England?" which only means she's looking at each and everyone on my list.

Mind you, I really don't know who is on her friends list and I definitely wouldn't notice if she took anyone off her top 8...and it's all because I quite frankly don't care who she talks to as long as she's not s******g them!

I just feel like she's spying on me and seeing if I have another girl on the side, but she says I'm flipping out over nothing.

Who do you agree with? Wouldn't this annoy you?

Answer 1

run. run fast. this is just the beginning.

Answer 2

dont go on myspace... it caused me to many issues.. my laST log in was in january... im happy i dont waste my time on there anymore and i love my boyfriend still

Answer 3

Curious is wanting to know.

Nosey is taking steps to find out.

She be nosey, and yes, that's positively irritating. After you're married (!), if gone unchecked, it'll turn into frustrating, maddening, agitated anger.

Something to look forward to . . .

Answer 4

Well, if one advertises on myspace, this leaves it open for anyone to read about.  

But, yes, it would bother me, if she's monitoring my page and is constantly asking questions.

I'd be annoyed too, yes!

Tell her it's open to the world, so obviously your not hiding anything and your afraid if this continues in an obsessive way on her part, it's putting a big damper on your relationship.

Answer 5

She sounds insecure and a little obsessed. I'd give this a careful questioning. She really shouldn't be on there in the first place. Whom you talk to on a message page isn't her business. I could see if you were IMing people or watching web cams in private, then she'd have a reason to be curious. I have a page and my husband, mind you I said husband (17 +years) and he has never checked my page. It's like a diary or a phone call, it's private and unless I give him a reason to mistrust me he wont.

Answer 6

This would be very annoying, but sad at the same time because its pretty obvious that shes been cheated on before. I suggest talking to her about it. Tell her that even if shes been betrayed in the past, you are different and she needs to learn how to let go of her suspicions or youre going to leave. Dont let her get on your myspace stuff because thats your private account and she doesnt need to know everything about you. Shes overstepping her boundaries and she knows it. Best of luck

Answer 7

Sounds like you have an insecure little thing on your hands.  Yeah.. very annoying.

Thats why I dont use myspace.. keeps other people out of my business.

Answer 8

For me personally it wouldn't annoy me... You woman has to have access to your myspace page so you have allowed her this access, of course to not allow it might be quite worse on you.... Of course she is going to look and read and if you are not doing anything wrong then there is no question that she might ask you that should offend you...

I think her question about English people was for curiosity and nothing more... Maybe you just like English people and that is why you have them on your list, nothing wrong with that...

You don't care who she talks to as long as she isn't doing them... So she can talk all she wants about doing them or wanting to do them as long as she isn't doing them, that is basically what you are saying even though that might not be what you meant...

So for me personally I wouldn't have a problem with my man asking me questions and I certainly hope he wouldn't have a problem either... I enjoy being involved in things he is doing as an interest thing and not to spy on him...

Answer 9

I always skip the question as soon as I get to "myspace".......I don't need a disclaimer for that.

Answer 10

Yes, that would be annoying for me, I don't check my partner's myspace, I have no account. She sounds insecure. As long as you don't hide the fact that you have a girlfriend, there should be no problem.

Answer 11

It would annoy me, having to justify myself over something that doesn't matter.  

SO much drama goes along with MySpace that I ended up deleting my account.  

Answer 12

I really don't understand why people ask questions such as these when everyone knows that anything you put on a computer is pretty much able to be read by just about anyone so I don't quite get how anyone is "spying" on anybody when you put c**p up where anyone can get to it.  THIS is what is so annoying!

Answer 13

oh my god how old is she? this is like playground jealousy. and why is she bothered that you have friends in england she should be more bothered if they're just around the corner lol.

ive got to be honest id ditch her some people are naturally jealous they cant change. and unless youve done something thats made her this way then she is one of these unfortunate people and you should run for the hills.