Do you think I'm wrong for not wanting to be his friend even though he keeps initiating contact?

Question

I'm in college and have only dated one guy for about a month. We meet in class & got along fairly well. He kept asking me to go out with him; I finally said yes. There were some good things about him" he made me laugh (which is hard to do), I felt comfortable to be myself around him, he seemed genuinely interested in me. Some bad things: sometimes I'd have to pay & one time I gave him my tokens for the arcade b/c he ran out and I had to watch him play, when he'd pay, he'd leave the receipts on the table, even though he knew I wasn't experienced he'd presured me to kissing him on our first date & kept telling me I needed to work on it.

I didn't call him very often b/c we say each other in class & I'm a really introverted person so I can only take so much interaction. He'd get upset even though we'd go places too.

Well, one day we were in a big chem lecture hall, in the front, right before class started, he started kissing me on my neck (something we hadn't done before), I moved over & put my bag in between us. He said there we be alot more we're that came from. I was so embarrassed & felt S****y. I think that should be something done in private. I was mad at him & withdrew from him. Later on that day, he asked me was there anything wrong (over the phone) I told him I didn't like that.

The next day he called me & said he needed to talk to me. I insisted he tell me whatever it was over the phone. He finally did. He broke up with me & read his list of reasons. I always suspected it was b/c of that day. I even asked him later on that semester & he's always denied it.

We bumped into each other. He asked for my number & called me. What do you think?

Answer 1

Believe me, you will wanna stay away from him a while, or say you just want to take it slow.

Remember this - You dont have to be rushed into anything you dont want to do and make sure you tell him that OK?

Anywhay i think you know where this will lead to in the end and i do too, you dont want to be doing that sort of thing at college so try and settle down and have a nice easy going relationship at a speed you like, then you will have a much more enjoyable time in doing what you want OK? - THX

Answer 2

This guy sounds like an expert in manipulating young women with not a lot of worldly experience.

He has several times done things with which you are not comfortable and you have told him no.

He is trying to unsettle you by changing his mind about how he wants to view you.

He can amuse you from a distance, please don't let yourself fall into a relationship with such a puppet master.

Tell him you don't want to date him again because he appears not to know what he wants and you prefer mature men.  

Answer 3

He's stringing you along, testing you and hoping you will tolerate his disrespect. I would bet he has a lot of trouble finding girls to go out with him more than a couple of times.

You don't have to give any reason at all for not wanting to be his friend. "I don't want to" is the only reason you need.  

Answer 4

hmm, it sounds like he just needs to respect your boundaries more. he does not understand your personality, and thats not your fault.  I don't get why he'd criticize your kissing skils, that's just rude.  You sound like a good girl and if he is coming on too strong then there is nothing wrong with that. You can tell him when enough is enough. If you do not want to be friends, i suggest you tell him, because as you said, you don't require much contact, perhaps he finally is getting that and may think by you responding at all or answering the phone for him, that you do like him.  so it's best to be upfront.  I also think by him asking for your number and calling you, he is seeking more than just friendship again, but i could be wrong.

Answer 5

Definitely keep him at arms length,he seems to want one thing and sees you as an easy target.

Answer 6

do what YOU feel is right.

if u feel you are right, then u are definitely.