Do you think I (a 14 year old girl) should be allowed to go on vacation with 2 boys, 3 girls, and a parent?

Question

My friends Daniel, Matt, Ryan, and Danielle are going on an over night trip, that is just a half hour away from home. Matt and Ryan's mom will be taking them. Also with the company of their little twin sisters who are 11 years old. So my friends are going on this awesome trip, where there is a big house, a pool, and a lot of other fun stuff. But I'm not allowd to go because my mom doesnt like the idea of boys coming too. But if I tell her where exactly I'm going, the times I'm going and will return, the sleeping arrangments, and let her talk to the people I am going with, dont you think I should be allowd to go?

Answer 1

Since you're 14 I think it's a bit retarded for them to not want you near boys. I'm not sure if this would go over well but you could always say that you could do things with guys in other situations that they would never know about, and so they just have to trust you that you want to go to have fun and that you are and will be responsible.

You're at the age where they have to start trusting you, because they can't possibly control your every move, and you're coming into your own.

The fact that an adult will be there should make it fine with them, if they don't already know the parent then I would suggest having her contact your parents to get to know them a bit, perhaps that will build up their trust a bit more.

Answer 2

Have your mom talk to Ryan and Matts mom first then let her make the decision.  If she has a good feeling about the supervision, she will probably let you go....otherwise, listen to your mom....she's only looking out for you.

Answer 3

How old are the boys-that really depends on my answer. Thats the main thing-are they older than you?  Also it would depend on how well your parents know the other parent going.

If there was more than one adult going they might feel more easy about it. Thats alot of kids for one person to watch out for and take care of.

Maybe your mom knows something about this other lady that she doesnt like. Things you dont know or understand about just yet. Maybe the lady is just not trustworthy.

Best thing to do is to ask your mom to meet with the other lady to talk it over. If she still refuses then just drop it, there is no sense in argueing with your mother, causing a big fight and getting yourself in trouble.

Life goes on. Trust me.

Answer 4

No. I wouldn't let you go considering you're going for the boys and not just to hang out with your girl friends. What's the trip for? My mother would NEVER have let me go spend the night with boys whether or not their mom was present. And if it's just 1/2 hr away, why do you need to spend the night????? -_^

Answer 5

I think you should be able to go.

Maybe get her to talk to one of the parents going.

I would like to know as a parent who is going and the sleeping arrangments and everything.

Answer 6

*sigh*  This is a tricky situation.  I can't honestly say that I'd allow my 14 year old daughter go on a "vacation" without me, let alone with a couple boys.  It depends who the adult is and if I trust them.  If its someone I know would watch all the kids just like I would (like a hawk!), then perhaps I'd be OK.  If it was an adult that would just occassionally check in on you guys and let you run a muck, then no way.  It would just depend on a lot of variables.  In the end though, I'm not your mother, so it doesn't really matter what I think.  If your mother says "no", then the answer is no.  Sorry.

Answer 7

ya let her be free just make sure she doesnt have s*x im a kid and ive done that before

Answer 8

I probably wouldn't allow it but it depends on the supervising parent. If you know that parent is responsible and has good judgement and shares your parent's opinons and what kids should and shouldnt be allowed to do, it may be worth considering. If it's only a half hour away, may be your parent can come over  for a few hours and join you in the vacation.

Answer 9

This is 100% up to your mother.  She is doing the best that any parent can do and whatever she decides, you will appreciate her loving parenting someday.

Answer 10

yea seriously. u really should be allowed to go.  Just five yer mom some time.

Answer 11

YES!! definately** you only live once! but if your parents say no, try to persuade them ((NOT sneak out or do something underneath thir noses)) but i think that sounds like fun and i think it sounds safe since there is an adult with you((especially since it is a parent))

Answer 12

Lol. As a mother, I would let my child go on the conditions you said and also if she promised to call me just about every hour or two. Maybe three. Good luck and remember, your mom is just looking out for you...her little girl.

Answer 13

It really depends how much trust has been built between you and your mom.  If there are previous events that have lead her not to trust you, then no I wouldn't let you go either.  But, if you have a good record and have proven you are trustworthy, then yes, she should let you go.

Answer 14

5 other kids- and with you its 6. 6 kids is alot for one adult to be watching after and taking care of. I would not let you go either. Sorry. Maybe if it was something with just one adult and 2 other girls i would. But thats just too many kids to expect this "Wonder Woman" to be able to watch after responsibly.

Answer 15

As an 11 year old and 9 year old parent I would say that I would have to know the gaurdian very well, have a scheduale and it wouldn't be more than 3-5 days. I would call you every night and would have to talk to the guardian as well, ask them your plans for the next day and so on. But overall I think you should go. If you are not ready for the real world in 4 years, you are going to be in a world of mess! So show these answers to your mother and let h er decide. Don't make a fit, because then she will thing you have ben "planning" something bad, and that will prevent you from going ton other trips. Thank you and I hope I helped!