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Do you think I did a bad thing?

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well what happened is that my girlfriend promised me and her parents that she wouldn't go out drinking with her friends and other guys because we didn't like that and so she was going to stay at her friends place last Saturday and they told us that they were just gonna watch dvds all night so we said fine thats ohk just don't go out. I called her up later to see what she was upto and turns out she was in the streets drinking with her friends which really made me upset so i called her parents to tell her that she wasn't at her friends, they were out drinking. so they said ohk and went and picked her and her friends up and grounded her for three weeks so she wont go out. pretty much now everyone at school thinks im a dog **** and they hate me and they tell her to break up with me because of all of it. do you think they need to grow up or was it bad that i did this?

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you cared for her. wat if something bad happened to her in the streets that time. you saved her life. tell those mothr fckers in school to stfu and leave you alone. you did the right thing cause you cared about her own protection and called her parents right away. d**n if somethin happened, her parents may had gone worried too. you did the right thing man and dont listen to the pricks thats saying you did the wrong thing. and tell her to stop doing that! wtf
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They need to grow up. Don't stress you did the right thing. Something bad could have happened to her or she could of had alcohol poisoning from drinking too much!
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Well, I think you have to be honest with yourself about WHY you called her parents and told on her.  Is it because you were really worried about her safety?  Or is it because you were jealous that she was out drinking without you, and you wanted her to be punished for it?

Maybe it's a little of both.  But either way, you probably could've handled it better.  If you were worried about her getting too drunk or getting in trouble with the cops or something, you could've gone over there yourself. Or you could've called someone who was with her to make sure she was okay.  But if your girlfriend likes to go out drinking, getting her in trouble with her parents isn't going to stop her.  It's just going to make her mad at you.  And once she's ungrounded, she'll probably do it again.  You'll just have to accept that fact and either (a) try to nicely discourage her from doing it; (b) try to make sure she does it safely; or (c) find a new girlfriend who doesn't drink.

On the other hand, if your motivation was just to get her in trouble because you were mad - that she lied to you, that she was drinking with other guys, etc - then yeah, I can see why people are mad at you.  It makes you look like an over-possessive, vindicitive person. I can understand why that would make you mad, but getting her in trouble with her parents is pretty mean.

Here's what I think.  If it really bothers you a lot that she goes drinking with other people - if that's something that you really can't handle - then you need to let her know.  Tell her that if she does it again, you'll break up with her.  Why keep a girlfriend who does something that makes you so miserable?  If your relationship is really important to her, she'll stop.  If drinking is more important to her, then I think you need to find a new girl who cares more about your feelings.

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They need to grow up. She broke a promise, and that can't just be excused, even if it was in the interest of fun.
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Yes, you did.
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I think it's good that you did it, but obviously no one is going to like you for it.

You made the right choice, stand by it.  From the sounds of it you're still in high school.  If she was an adult then I'd say you were a douche, but at your age it's okay to do this.

I had a friend who switched schools and became heavily involved in drugs.  I called her parents and let them know. They helped her out of it.  Lucky that at my school I was respected for it, but I bet at hers I was less than popular.

People will never be happy with every decision you make.  You have to stand up for yourself and your decisions, whether they are right or wrong.

Ex. "Yes I realize now that was a mistake, and I'm sorry, but at the time I truly thought I was doing the right thing."

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Yeah, that's a pretty lame thing to do to your girlfriend. I hate to say it, but I think you guys are headed for a breakup pretty soon. She seems like she wants to go out more and experiment, and you're pretty straight-laced.
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You did the right thing because you care but it ended up being a bad thing. If she went out and drank when she said she wouldn't, she's going to do it again after she's done her grounding (possibly during). All you did was make her mad at you, and hopefully she will realize that you were only looking out for her.
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YES YOU DID A BAD THING..... Why tell, hat doesn't help anyone.
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why the h**l would you do that? seriously she's your girlfriend how mean are you? but you seem quite young if yous are drinking on the streets! My advice tell he your really sorry wish you could take it back but u did it because you thought it was too dodgey getting drunk on the streets at her age actually stroke the age getting drunk on the streets is a dangerous thing altogether think about a man could just pick her up and none of you wee guys could do anything to stop it. i used to do it when i was 13 fell in with the wrong crowd..thank goodness my brother knocked abit of sense into my empty head!
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In my opinion, you acted very childish. You stooped down to a childish level, you very obviously lashed out at her out of what.....jealousy. Are you guys married or dating seriously. What gives you the right to go be a little snitch...thats not cool. You could've spoken with her in private and not made a big deal..NOT COOL DUDE.....

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No that's good you told them. She lied to you and her parents. Plus she doesn't need to be another drunk.
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baby did a bad bad thing
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You were right, she was WRONG, you might of saved her LIFE ! ! !
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You didn't do a bad thing.

You weren't the one who promised not to go out drinking, and your girlfriend was the one who betrayed both yours and her parents trust.

All those people giving you **** need to grow up.
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i htink you had a right to be annoyed and angry at her, but you could have talked to her about it first and told her what you thought about it. she broke a promise to you but i think you made a bit too much of a deal about it.

telling on her probably wasnt the most mature thing to do, it kinda sounds like your back in kindergarten dobbing on your friend for eating glue
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