Do you think I should allow my 6 year old daughter to get her ears pierced?

Question

I let her get a pair of clip-ons a few months ago, but they didn't last long. She thought they were too big and thought the clip bit looked ugly. She got magnets instead.

She wears them all the time, but feels they are a bit bigger than she would like and she feels they have too much metal on show. The earrings she would really like are absolutely tiny, with only the stone on view.

She said herself that if I let her get her ears pierced, the studs she would have "poked in" wouldn't be any nicer than the magnets, although they'd be better because they wouldn't fall off, but after 6 weeks she'd have "earring freedom".

I warned her that it would hurt a bit, at which point she told me "yeah, its pins going through your ears, of course its gonna hurt"

I can't decide whether to let her do it. On one hand, she has wanted them since she was 2½, but on the other hand, 6 seems too young to make a decision she will have to live with for the rest of her life.

Answer 1

All she wants to do is get her ears pierced.. If she decides later she doesnt want to ''live with it''  she could just take them out. Let her get them.. when she gets older shes going to want to match earrings w/ all her outfits. I got mine done at 1 yr. Plus ive never seen anyone saying the wish they wouldnt have.. only they wish they would have.

Answer 2

Of course magetic and clip ons hurt if you wear them for a long time if you pierce you ears at a young age it wont hurt but as you get older it huts more and more

Answer 3

I say yes.  My daughters are twins and have had their ears pierced since they were about 4 months old (they are now 4 1/2) and they have studs.  They use to notice them all the time when they were about 2, but now they rarely notice them at all if ever.  So I say yes.  It only hurts for a second and besides, if you've warned her about the pain and she's aware, go ahead.  You are not scarring her for life like a tattoo or something, just keep studs in.

Answer 4

Yeah, why not.

Getting her ears pierced is not like getting a tattoo, sure she'll have to live with it forever but it is not something you regret doing.

Answer 5

it is just her ears.. some people take their 9 month old girls to get their ears pierced.

Answer 6

If she were 13, I would say SURE!

But at age 6? No way. I say wait a few years and THEN let her decide. It sounds like you're letting her be in control of a LOT, which is fine to a certain extent.

Just remember that you are her mother. If she doesn't like magnet earrings, fine. But YOU have buy them. YOU need to put your foot down and say that she's not ready.

Answer 7

In a lot of cultures the baby girl's ears are pierced at birth or shortly there after.  Personally, I think you should let her.  You could turn it into a learning experience and show her on the Internet all the other cultures body art and scarification rituals.  Then she will learn something as well as getting what she wants.  I hope this helps.

Answer 8

do it it will not hurt that bad if the needle is steralized furthermore dont be alarmed but they kinda shoot the earing in it is very qqick and it not very painful just do it

many people do it and if she dose not like it later on in lif e she can take the earings out and they will close up

but never have i seen/met a person who wished they never peirced their ears dont worrry

Answer 9

Take her to get them done.  I got my daughters ears peirced after her first set of shots.

Answer 10

yes, i would let her but, you have to be responsible to make sure they dont close up in any amount of time. let your daughter have some freedom. she will learn from you

Answer 11

It's just two holes in her ears, it's not really that much of a big deal and earrings look very pretty on girls!!!

I think you should give it a shot....she'll love them!

Answer 12

peircings in GIRLS ears (only one on each ear) are classy and very feminine. There is nothing wrong with it..

Answer 13

Hey go ahead. I got mine at 5 and I still enjoy them. let her be happy.

Answer 14

she sounds like a very  smart little girl. and she knows what she wants. alot of people get their babies ears pierced at 6 MONTHS old. i dont think 6 years old is too young. and it will hurt a little but only for a minute and she doesnt have to live with it for the rest of her life, earring holes grow up quick if you leave the earrings out for awhile and even if they dont, they are really small holes. no big deal.

Answer 15

That is up to you as her parent. However, I told my daughters that they couldn't get  theirs pierced until they were 12 and old enough to take care of them by themselves. I didn't want to be responsible for making sure it was clean and everything by myself. I wanted them to help me be responsible. So my kids will wait.

If you do let her get them, keep in mind that if she doesn't like them you can just let the holes close up.

Answer 16

I think you should let her get her ears pierced.. i mean, most of the people I know got their ears pierced at a very very early age (like 2 or 3!) so i think that there's nothing wrong with it

Answer 17

yeah you should because most girls get them done when they are 4 months old

Answer 18

I don't think that she will regret getting her ears pierced. After all, most, if not all, girls wear some sort of earings.

And it dosen't hurt at all getting your ears pierced with a gun, it's just that for the first two or three months you have to keep them clean to avoid infection.

Answer 19

My ears were pierced when I was 6 months old by my grandma, with a needle, potato and and an Ice cube. It's a good thing I don't remember that!!! Earrings are not permanent, the do come out, it's not something you "live with for the rest of your life". It's not like it's a tattoo. If she wants them pierced let her, she's a girl and wants to be girlie, if one day she decides she doesn't want them anymore then let her take them out. No big deal.

Answer 20

I would say go for it because i got mine done at 1yrs old and i love it .But it all depends on you because your her mother but that's just my opinion .I would say if she knows what she is getting done and knows there is going to be pain and she is still fine with it then just go for it .

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Answer 21

When several of the girls in her class had them - that's when we began to think about it.  Then, I told her if her report card was good - I'd let her get them pierced.  (I had originally told her she could get them done at age 10).  She had them done when she was 8.

Answer 22

I don't think it is too young.  If she decides she doesn't want to wear earrings after a certain time then she doesn't have to wear them and the holes are barely noticeable.

Answer 23

What's wrong with you people. ? 6...ears pierced....what's next....you'll be selling her to some sheik. ? Of course not....let her enjoy her childhood for goodness sake....! They grow up fast enough these days. Next she'll be wanting to dress like the divas she sees girating on the media. absolutely no....if you don't set an example then who will.?

Answer 24

i have only jst and so decided i want them done and i am 12 neli 13. i am still uncertain now after 12 - 13 years of deciding.

Answer 25

You are right about six being young to make such a decision, so you must make it for her as the adult responsible for her.  My wife had hers pierced when she was very young, later stopped wearing earrings, and the holes grew closed.  When she decided to go back to wearing them, she had to have her ears re-pierced, so it is not really a lifetime decision.

Answer 26

Go ahead...I got mine pierced a few months after I was born, so I had no idea what was going on....

Answer 27

yes...

When I was a kid I got my ears pierced at 3 months...

I think you should let her...because when she grows up...shes gonna love to go  thru different types of earrings. getting your ears pierced is part of being a girl....

Answer 28

Getting her ears pierced is not a life changing decision. If she doesn't like it, let the holes close back up.

My daughter got hers done at 6 and she loves it.

Answer 29

My parents made me wait until I was in fourth grade, then for my tenth birthday I got them. It wasn't a very good decision since I play a lot of sports and you arent allowed to wear earrings. Many of my friends let theirs close up.

Answer 30

i don't understand why people make such a big deal about getting their ears pierced... i think its fine, go for it

oh and you said a decision for the rest of her life... if she doesnt wear earings for a while, the whole will close up so its no big deal if she doesnt want it anymore

Answer 31

I got my ears pierced when I was 4 years old. Theres nothing to it. Just make sure she doesnt play with them because it will cause them to stretch or get torn. Keep them well cleaned and she should have no problem with them.