Do you think I should report my manager especially if my manager is a friend of this rude coworker?

Question

One of coworker has very bad attitude with me. I am her supervisor and I try to deal with the way she talks rude back to me by let it goes too many times. Sometime she talks down and yell at me back in the rude way. I tell her, she doesn't have to talk to me like that. I don't like the way she talks rude to me. But because I never report to my manager, that's why it is still going on and more worse. She told me today that if I don't like the way she talks to me, so Don't talk to her and DON'T TELL HER WHAT TO DO THING. I am thinking very much to sit down and talk with my manager. But they both are friend. I am nervouse. I am supervisor of this worker but I can't do anything right now. Then when I let it goes, it bothers my mind until stressfull now. Do you think the manager will be fair and solve this problems? All of another workers support me to go to the manager because this lady is disrespect me too much and she doesn't care I am supervisor of her.

Answer 1

You should defiantly talk to your boss about it. Tell your boss what's been going on. The facts.

Answer 2

She disrespects you because she knows she is friends with the mgr and can't really do anything, in other words, her rudeness has no consequences, so what you need to do is talk to the mgr and tell her this worker has no respect is rude yells and is very unprofessional. If the mgr does not do anything about it then you need to go to HR or HER boss. This is verbal abuse, harassment and it is illegal so if no one does anything you can sue all of them and win in court.

Answer 3

Approach the manager and tell her that you know she is friends with so-and-so, but you need to talk to her about so-and-so's behavior as an employee.  Then go from there.

Answer 4

this person is really taking advantage of her relationship with the manager.  I would document exactly what she says to you, maybe even record her.  You must be above reproach yourself so that your boss can not come back to you and say that you provoke the workers attitude. Be prepared to go to HR next.

Answer 5

Document the abuse and bring it to your manager.  I don't know him, or how much of a friend he is to your subordinate, so I can't tell you what he's going to do.  If you document the actions of this person at least you will have something to back you up.

Answer 6

I am in the same boat. My coworker is a friend of two bosses I have. The guy is disrepectful towards me and some of the other people. He is rather lazy and if he ever does anything it is halfassed. The person thinks everybody owes him everything, when in fact he was given everything and a higher paying job than people who work harder and have more experience. The best thing to do is to document what she does and if things start to go south you have documentation. Eventually the boss will find out what kind of person she is and it will be the end of her employment.

Answer 7

Rotten Situation..but one I have been in a few million times.   You need to document your issues with this employee.  Ex: when you do her evaluation do you bring up these issues?  The problem is if you sit and talk with your boss, it is your word against theirs.   I prefer email so that you have documentation and if nothing is done or it gets worse (your boss changes their attitude toward you).  Then you have something solid to go to their higher ups with or HR.  Few points.  No 1#- You might be wrong about your bosses view of this person I have seen many people tolerated to make things easier.   No 2# I'm a strong believer in Karma.  And people that are nasty when given enough rope will hang themselves, turn blue and fall off the limb.  

Document..document..document.. but make sure it is business and not personal.