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Do you think a man can really change?

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I was married to a very physically & emotional abusive guy. We are both now remarried. Do you think one person can change the way he was in the past with me and the rest of his ex's? Do you think there is Ms. Right out there that can make a difference? He said to me, 'I'm really sorry for everything I did to you, but people can change.' Let me know your thoughts and thanks.

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Something would have to happen to make the change less painful than not changing. He'd have to go through anger management and therapy. I don't think people just magically change, but they can put a lot of work into becoming better if they choose to.

People don't change when someone else tries to force them to.
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I agree with Blondie. Totally.
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nope. it think u are who you are and only something life altering can change u for the better (ie. a near death experience could make u change your life). but i think he'll be able to disguise who he is for a while, but abusers usually only need a trigger.
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They put on a good game but they will never change
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If you looking for a perfect person, No there's not one. A person can make a change in there life only with the help of God. If you are in a abusive relationship it is best to get out of it, It is never good to put your hands on anyone. If that person hit you ONE TIME more than likely it will happen again.
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Only God can change a person. Man or woman.
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ONLY IF..................he has seen why he was wrong and the need to change first andthen DESIRES to change and is willing to do what it takes to change.
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Abusive people don't change.

However, they do change their victims outlook on relationships.

If he was as abusive to you, he will be with the next person. Maybe not right away, but it will happen.

These people get a power trip with feeling they are in control.

Especially if they have a job they hate, and feel their boss is picking on them.

So if you're not getting the brunt end of their aggression, then either a child or pet is.

They always say sorry, and then the next time they beat on you is worse than the last. And the physical abuse escalates.

Be glad you're away from that. But also keep a 9mm locked and loaded just in case he decides to be "neighborly."
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