Do you think a marriage can succeed if the parents of one of the couple are against it?

Question

Can the marriage survive and what of the children? How would you feel if the parents of your spouse rejected you?

Answer 1

No... It is important to have the blessings of the both the parents.  

Answer 2

After 36 years of not listening to my parents, I found out that they are 90% of the time RIGHT.

But I've seen marriages work, where the parents were not OK...but then the number of them failing in the same situation is way more.

Answer 3

ARAK transcends all religious and politial barriers.  Drink ARAK and everything will be okay.  Ask Webby if you don't believe me.

Answer 4

well..... it's better if u gonna have both sides approval & blessings...but sometimes things don't work out the way want or wish 2

but in such case u must know & put inconsideration that u gonna face lots & maybe millions of obstacles & problems u would never ever think of it & i have seen lots of similar cases

if love is that strong then u gonna overcome these all & support each other & later in da future those parents might change their minds & if not u gonna get stuck & nothing would ever help u 2 go on & u gonna lose everything ..now it's time 2 start cryn ;PPPPPPP

b a diplomat ;))

Answer 5

yes there is a chance but dont expect it to pass easily it will be like h**l... but i have a freind and a cousin who passes through the same..eventually things calm down but there will always be problems

Answer 6

It all gets down to the strength of the marriage & the reasons behind why the inlaws are against it...

Having married children ourselves we know what it's like to go through the process...we all want the best for our children & that has nothing to do with material success ...more about a loving , stable relationship that will stand the test of time !

With that in mind I guess we look at a prospective life partner for our children as having the same ideals as we do ...that is a Love of God , a lifetime commitment, good morals , good work ethic etc etc. When it comes down to it , our children are no longer children when they make these choices & as parents we really need to stand back & trust that our children choose wisely & for the right reasons.

Bear in mind that these observations are from a western perspective..

In our case we have welcomed the marriage partners of our children into our families , understanding the differences in their backgrounds yet embracing the attributes & qualities we see in them as people .We chose to do this out of love & respect for our children & trusting their judgment & wisdom.

Not to do this is to turn our backs on our own flesh& blood ...something we could  & would never do !

Answer 7

Yes! when you will have children the parents will bless this marriage

Answer 8

haaahhaaa this is tootaallllyyy my sorta question im totally livin this right now and thought about it alot, expecially because in my religion a girl cant marry unless her father approves

As Webby said, we need the "why" factor, thats the most important part. If its for prejudice reasons or stereotyping, then I say the marriage can definitaly succeed regardless. If they have a valid reason for rejecting it, eventually you will realize they are right and it wont succeed.

if it is for an invalid reason, then it can succeed eventually.

ot course at first the parents will be angry and not want anything to do with u, but after they see how happy u are and how wrng they were eventually they will back down. they are ur family and will love u and be there no matter what they wouldnt seriously banish u forever for racist reasons, thats all talk trust me

Answer 9

Well absoulutly Religion is The people but it does nt mean for religion we have fights ! Dont you think.

Also You have to be smart,Be clever do what you have to,Anything that can give you relationship streanth,Trust me ....

By the way this is why the ****** up lebanese Goverment arent talking about Civil Maridge they just like to curse each other.

Take care Good luck

May God jesus mohamad bouda be with you ....  

Answer 10

Good question.....and from my point of view i can give it 2 replies.

1..it depends on both spouses. For me.......if they love each other enough, the marriage will go ahead bcoz they both will work for that. Parents are important, but we are talking here, about 2 persons. marriage is from 2. One doesnt marry the family...........marry the person one loves.

If the family accepts you...much better, but if not...go on with ur life and try to love ur spouse and to support her, bcoz she'll need it so much. We leave parents for starting a new family with a person we dont know.  ( and that is true..couples start knowing each other after marriage). If you support and help ur spouse, the family will realize abt that and will accept u. Even, when grandchildren arrive, grandparents become silly loving them.

2..in Lebanon, one of the worse things to fight against for some pple are the religious differences.

That has 2 sides......the "easier" one is when the girl is christian and the man muslim. Many christian parents dont agree with such a marriage......but finally accept it in a way or another.

But...when the reason is the contrary.....muslim girl and christian man...the thing is a bit more difficult, bcoz  muslim religion doesnt allow that, unless the man converts to Islam.

I know some couples where man didnt convert, they married anyways without parents' blessing and are very happy, although her family doesnt want to talk to the girl, and "erase" her from their family.

One of that couples are now in very good relation with her family, bcoz the man went with his 3 little children to visit them, bcoz wanted that the kids know who the "other" grandparents were.

They dont go to visit so often, but the relation is good enough.

In both cases...children are the same. They will know that they have another family that can accept them or not.. If they still dont accept the kids..well..kids will have enough love from all the other persons around them....and the ones losing  wont be the children.........will be that closed mind pple that dont accept them

For me, political/religious issues arent important...if there is enough love and respect among the couple.

In my opinion are more important the differences of culture, and to learn how to solve them, without offend anyone.

So........from my point of view...yes..marriage can succeed, if BOTH are decided to make it works and love each other enough as to do it.

Answer 11

of course it will succeed.. how could parents of a child they love still be against the marriage after several years.... unless the man beats his wife or something the family always comes around. :)

Answer 12

that's not enough info global.

the "why" plays a big part.

There are some very valid reasons out there to worry about someone's suitability as an in-law and then there are the silly ones based on prejudice or stereotyping.

Having said that, I have witnessed first hand a lot of: "If he/she marries her/him they're not my son/daughter and I never ever want to see them again."

without exception, the most this has lasted is one year, if the marriage survives you will find them as the most loving and doting grandparents.

Answer 13

i guess it could.

your chances will be higher if you stay away from the islam cult though. they seem to be the most intolerant. if you gotta date outside your religion go with christian or buddist lol. islam = ew