Do you think a pessimist are less successful in love or relationship?

Question

Usually pessimist sees the worst thing in any situation or thing.

He/she will always assume the worst on his/her partner and see only the dark side.

Don't you think this type of people will find it more difficult to survive a love or relationship?

Answer 1

It may depend on who the spouse is. Whether it is a fellow pessimist, or an optimistic, the dark p[oint of view can get pretty old.

But overall, I do believe that constantly hearing the worst of the worst will make surviving the relationship more difficult.

Answer 2

Yes, I think they are less successful, because they view things in an entirely different way than their partner if the partner is not a pessimist.

Let's say they got engaged-the non pessimist would be excited and think about starting a new life together, while the pessimist might view it as the end of a single life or having to spend eternity with this person.

But if they were both pessimists that probably would be either ok or terrible, it could be ok because they agree on things, while it could be terrible because they are always seeing the dark side and most likely aren't enforcing happiness.

Answer 3

Personally for me it would be very difficult to live with a pessimist who gives up even before trying.  Even an optimist, for that matter, is not easy to live with because then s/he would not like to see things realistically and may at times end up with egg on the face.

I feel,  for success in any relationship compatibility is important.  If one doesn't mind other being either,  and is happy with the things as they are,  then there will be less problems.  In real life I have seen such foolhardy couples who do not care for what others think about them so long as they are able to live life together on their terms...happily.

I fully agree with the author about people being happy or sad by nature and happy people recovering/surviving a crisis no matter what.  Sad people are tough to live with.  If you get attracted to them for any reason...be it compassion or protection...be sure you will find yourself depleted eventually.  You may not be able to change them into happy beings,  while chances are they will suck your energies and leave you hollow and sad!

So choose your type wisely!  Choose a middle path...that's more realistic.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I think a person with that kind of a mentality would never have a successful relationship, it would for sure be a disaster.

Answer 5

If you are an optimist it may be hard.  But even some optimist may find a pessimist attractive if they like opposites.  Pessimists can be realists and don't sugar coat things.

However, I agree that being  pessimistic is not helpful for any situation and sucks joy out of everything.  

Recovering pessimist.

Answer 6

This kind of character is a disaster, at least for me, they can hardly achieve a success in any thing

Moreover, they convey their negative spirit over miles.

My husband and I, are very optimistic, people are wondering how can we cope and mange the hardest situations, with high spirit (mashaa Allah)