Do you think a vegan can happily date a carnivore/vegetable hater?

Question

My boyfriend of almost two years does not like vegetables. He has always teased me about being a vegetarian and jokingly told me to eat some of his chicken but it has never been a problem. I jokingly ask him to eat my veggies etc.

I've been transitioning to veganism and he thinks it is the most horrible thing ever and I'm making it hard on him and his family and my family etc etc,

Also, I'm worried about if we do get married and have children, how would we raise them?

Any advice!?? Anyone vegetarians/vegans married to omnivores? Do you have kids?

Answer 1

It's definitely possible but there isn't a very good chance if he's rude enough to say that your decision is horrible.

Answer 2

I have been with a meat eater for 4 years.   He was the exact  same way.... didn't want to eat veggies...made fun of me...his family too....yada yada...you know the story.  

WE have learned to respect each others choices when it comes to that.  We have learned to agree to disagree.  I realized that  I didn't fall in love with him because of what he chose to eat.  I realized that he has many imperfections and so do I.  I realized that there is ALWAYS going to be something that your signifanct other is going to do that you aren't going to like.   Yes...you can go choose to have a relationship with a vegetarian like you...but it will just be putting it in a different package...they are going to do things  that you won't like too guarenteed.  They will have their imperfections too.  

You have to work at love..sometimes very hard.lol.  And there are going to be many times when love isn't enough....you have to work at it.  Talk to him...get your feelings out there.  Tell him how you feel and don't forget to listen to him.  

We haven't gotten to the children part so I have nothing to say about that.  We are going to cross that bridge when we get there.  I worry about it too.

Answer 3

Really it's all up to you, can you accept his omnivorous diet? And can you accept your children sharing his diet? If not, then you need to examine if you need to change either your diet expectations or your relationship.

Personally, I think veganism is silly. I can understand the idea of not wanting to kill animals for food, but to not eat dairy or eggs when no animals are killed seems a bit much to me. But it's time for you to set your priorities. Is this diet important enough to you to dump your boyfriend? Or are you willing to bend your diet a touch to keep him?

Answer 4

I have a boyfriend and he doesnt hate all veggies but most of them. We arent married and dont have children but do plan too!

I think that you should let your children/child choose if he or she choose what she wants to do.

That is what I had in mind.

Good Luck and Hope I Helped <3.

Answer 5

My best friend was living w/a carnivore.  Not only was she a meat-eater, she hated veggies of all kinds except potatoes.  My friend, while not strictly veggie, ate and created lots of yummy non-meat dishes, which girlfriend would not even TRY.  Eventually my friends hurt feelings that her creativity was not appreciated and the boringness of all- meat -                                  all -the- time drove them apart.  They are still friends, but don't eat together.  Sorry everyone didn't live happily ever after.

Answer 6

There is no way that there should be a question on how to raise children. In south florida there have already been a few cases were vegans are being charged with murder/ child neglect for giving their kids only vegetables. Until a certain age their is no supplement for meat. it would be when the child is older that it might become a problem

Answer 7

YES, a vegan can happily date a carnivore/vegetable hater, as long as you are both willing to make allowances for each other and you respect each others choices.

However, if it is going to cause problems, snide comments, arguments and misunderstandings, then I would NOT suggest getting an engagement ring any time soon.

If it gets to this stage, perhaps you both need to question your relationship.

If you do decided to get married, you will need to discuss these types of issues first.

I would prefer to choose a partner on other things rather than diet. Like how does he treat you, how does he make you feel, does he have have a kind and compassionate nature, does he make you laugh, is he the president of your fan club, does he treat you will respect, can you trust him, does he make your soul sing, will he support your dreams,....these are the things that really matter in a relationship.

Anyway people change their diets. Both myself and my husband use to be a real meatheads. So you can imagine my surprise, that after 12 years of marriage, I decided to turn vegan. And 6 months later, my husband (in support of my choices) turned vegan too.

A vegan friend of mine married a meathead. He wanted the children brought up on an animal product based diet, she said OK but only if you prepare and cook ALL their meals. He didn’t want to do this.

So as a “compromise” they settled on bringing the children up on a vegetarian based diet, so she didn’t have to prepare or cook any animal flesh.

Despite what the above poster says, raising children on a vegan / vegetarian based diet is quite healthy. Seventh Day Adventist raise their children from birth on this diet. From conducted studies, they are meant to be some of the healthiest and longest living people in the USA today.

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Answer 8

happily date: yes

happily married: no way.

Answer 9

I could date an omnivore, but not one who has no respect for my choices... like your boyfriend. :/