Do you think age differance matters?

Question

Ive just turned 16 and my boyfriends 28, yes , we do have s*x but

i dont see a problem , because we cant just stop loving each other because of our ages. my friends refuse to talk to him.

and im not going to even try to tell my perants.

do you think the differance between our ages matter? x

Answer 1

wow sweetheart .. this is not good .. i can understand if you were older but you are 16 years old ... i'm 22 and I'm dating a 28 year old ... just be careful he might be taking advantage of you. best of luck

Answer 2

Yes. The only way for a relationship you describe to work is if the guy is self-centered and the girl is gullible.

Listen to your friends - they care about you, and they have the advantage of not being emotionally/hormonally involved.

Answer 3

well i mean age doesnt matter to some people.

if you think it doesnt then it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks right..

of course ur going to get responses that say "yes it does matter ur 16 and hes 28 wake up hes old"

but you cant choose who you love, love just comes out and presents itself whenever.

if you think its right then the h**l with everyone else.

i'm 17 and dating a 21 yr old. i told my father about it hes cool he just says "baby girl, you can be with anyone age is just a number but rememeber hes older he has more experience.. and dont let him touch you places you feel uncomfotable." and my mom just flipped for a while but i think shes getting use to it...

told him i'm staying a virgin till atleast we're engaged or marriage.

been 10 happy months ;)

good luck hun

Answer 4

A 12 year age difference? Yes, I think that's a bit much. Your maturity levels are far off from each other, and I can gauantee that a 28 year old man is only interested in one thing from a girl your age.....I'm sure you can guess what that is.

Answer 5

hm, yes. Your boyfriend can go to jail and get identified as a s*x offender just by having s*x with a minor,under the age of 18 .  

Answer 6

Oh yes it does...in california this is statutory RAPE!! He can go to jail for doing this.  He has no business having s*x with a young girl and it's not love honey...he's a pervert, he likes little girls and your probably not the only one he's doing.  Your young and nieve and he's easily taking advantage of you...wow, you have so much to learn.  I wish I knew your parents, I'd tell them in a split second and laugh in his face when he goes to jail!!

Answer 7

i think it does to some ppl

and to others it dosnt

im 16 too and my bf is 20

some ppl just dont understand it

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Answer 8

probably, age in itself isn't a big deal, but having an 8 year gap could have potential problems. But if you make each other happy then why not.

Answer 9

Yes, age matters that if your parents find out that you did this that they would charge him with rape.  I know,  I am a parent of two children and if I ever found out that this was going on, that I would put a stop to it.  Why are you even having s*x at your age?   You are TOO YOUNG!!

Answer 10

You need to leave "R.Kelly" alone. You're still a minor. He can go to jail. Plus If you have to hide a relationship from your family and your friends are not comfortable with you being with him, then maybe that's not the kind of relationship you need to be in. Trust me, the ones who are closer to you are usually right when it comes to these sort of things.

Answer 11

Yes, if you were over in your 20's no but with you being so young now it is not right what so ever. Imagine getting pregnant at only 16. Sweetie it sounds really stupid to love someone that age and you don't really know what he is in this relationship for. Good Luck and I hope you learn something! I just would hate for you to learn it the hard way.  

Answer 12

it should matter to him because if your parent find out he could be in jail for statutory rape.... just so you know.

Answer 13

Are you kidding? This MAN graduated highschool when you were 3 years old. Not only is your sexual relationship against the law, and considered RAPE, but you are both at two different phases at life. 12 years difference may not seem that huge when you're 50 and he's 62, but it is now. You should see it as a red flag that 1) you know this will make your parents mad,because you know deep down it's not right, or else you wouldn't ask. and 2) that he can't find someone closer to his age / maturity level / responsibility level. Honey, I'm sorry that you feel you love him, but an older man can bring that false sense of security kind of like your dad. I think you should thank your friends for being friends and looking out for you, and forget this sicko that wants to have s*x with someone that just got her drivers license. Just think if you got pregnant....how will your parents react then, and how would your BF be able to pay child support in jail? Good Luck

Answer 14

I was married for 12+ years to a man 13 years older than me. We had some good times, some bad times. The age difference becomes a problem with friends. Who are you going to hang around, his age or your age? Also, are you willing to give up things of your youth? I never went to my proms, football games, etc. because we had to keep our relationship a "secret" until I turned 18.

Not saying you can't love each other. Just pointing out some of the hurdles you will need to overcome. I didn't think the prom (or college) was important at the time. I do feel like I missed out now...

Answer 15

This is not intended to be mean, but if you are not mature enough to tell your parents about your boyfriend, or not mature enough to not care what your friend thinks, you really are not mautre enough to be having s*x with anyone, let alone someone who is 12 years older than you...probably not what you were looking to hear, but very true!

Answer 16

  1: It's wrong when you are under the age of 18 to be dateing/having s*x with anyone whos potentially 10 yrs older.

  2: its considered sexual molestation \ rape even though your willing.

3: I know how it feels when some really smokin guy looks at you and want s your attn, but stop and think :older wiser< players have been around the block a few times.

4: just because someone 'says' they love you doesnt mean they mean it.

Answer 17

YES IN A WAY BUT YOU CANT CONTROLL YOUR HEART AND WHAT KIND OF FRIENDS DO YOU HAVE NO OFFENSE IF I WERE YOUR FRIEND I WOULD HAVE REPORTED HIM ALREADY

Answer 18

that is a grown man and you are a child, he should feel ridiculous having s*x with you, I can't even see how his p***s can began to get hard knowing that you are a child under him, he is the type that need to be watched because there is no telling what he will do to the next girl. I can't tell you to stop but I suggest that you should before your dad get locked up for attempted murder because if your dad found out before you turned 21 that some pervert is molesting his little girl  I'm sure he will go upside dudes head. You think he won't find out, God word tell us what is in the dark will come to the light so he may get you pregnant or either he might hit you and you would have to tell or, one of your friends will tell.

Answer 19

yea in your case he can go to jail for rape sexual harassment so leave him alone period you can get in trouble too plus you have your whole life ahead of you I'm 21 trust me you ain't going to miss anything with men or love wise.

Answer 20

No, I don't think age matters. If you love someone then you love someone. However 16 vs. 28 is a little much.  I am not saying you shouldn't date someone older....but he is almost 30 years old. I honestly think if you were with someone closer to your age you would be better off and happier. It doesn't matter what  you do, where you go, or who you are hanging out with...it is always going to be akward because you will be surrounded by older women/men  or he will be surrounded by younger women/men.  I dont think age matters, but  only if they are both above the age of 18.  

Answer 21

Age doesn't matter very much if there is respect.  Any 28 year old who is having s*x with a 16 year old isn't taking care of her interests.  And he is committing a crime.  He doesn't  repect you, he is using you.  If you get pregnant, and s*x is the way you do it, what would you do?  

Answer 22

I hope you are not serious.  If you are, your boyfriend is a pedophile and will get rid of you the day you look over 18.   I am serious, unfortunately.  You have to understand that there is a PROFOUND difference between a 28 year old and a 16 year old.  You cannot even begin to comprehend the changes that face you in the next 10 years, and what it truly means to become an adult.

I also know that there is nothing I can tell you that will make you change your mind about this, which is why there are laws against this sort of thing.

That being said, it is not the number of years between that is important, it is the age of consent.  I see no problem with a 20 year old dating a 32 year old (same 12 year age diff), but you have to admit that there would be a problem with a 16 year old having s*x with a 4 year old.  You get it?

Probably not.

Answer 23

Statutory Rape! Your 'boyfriend' is a pedophile.

You are underage in EVERY SINGLE STATE in the Union.

YES age matters!

You are still a minor child and having s*x with a grown man doesn't change that.

Answer 24

if you love each other .

is ok

just don´t tell the police.

even with your consent, can be a problem

Answer 25

s*x or no s*x the question is does he really love and respect you? and how do you know? i know i didn't really answer your question but really this question is yours to answer. and thats not lequal if you really love him you might wanna wait till you're 18.

Answer 26

at that age yes it matters because if he gets caught with you he can go to jail and be labeled a s*x offender for the rest of his life.. so ask yourself if you want that for him

Answer 27

Yes, at your current age, it matters.  You're not even a legal adult yet and it sounds like this man is taking advantage of you.  

Answer 28

1st of all it is illegal because you are a minor, but besides that he is way to old for you, why not find someone younger. around your age... or atleas 2-4 years older. and you are being taken advantage of. he knows it's illegal and he knows you wont tell so he is having a fling. but your decidion on what to do now with all this advice.

Answer 29

Im 20 and my boyfriend is 27 we have been together since i was 18, I really cant say much i always dated older guys when i was younger but not that big of an age difference, its your choice but you are only 16 you have school and everything else that you should be thinking about im just speaking from what happened to me i was 17 and ended up getting pregnant by a 22 year old i thought since he was older that he would be there for me WRONG he left and does not care about his daughter just think it through and make sure its what you want to be doing and remember he can get into alot of trouble

Answer 30

yes. thats illegal. ur 16 he's 28... hey im going out with some 10 yrs older but when i met him i was over 18 dont be eff'n up ur life over some guy that says "he loves you" ur still young...

Answer 31

WOW yeah that age does matter..Your still a child and your not an adult..He is a Child Molester and a Pedophile your friends should call the cops on his ***