Do you think as well as having a baby you should adopt one?

Question

My friend was talking about this the other day, she was saying that with so many babies who need homes, a good idea would be to have a baby and then adopt a baby. Do you think that's a good idea? I think in the future (I'm prego with my first baby now) adopting a baby might be nice!

Answer 1

i am reticent to comment on questions like this, because it clearly shows good intent; yet, a gap in knowledge regarding adoption.

i honestly believe that the best way to help children is to support family preservation (absent of abuse or neglect).  next, i think being a foster parent is a good idea.

Answer 2

You are probably doing it for the wrong reasons.

Saving a child is a noble idea but is not exactly the best way to start your family.  A child will not be grateful to you for "saving" them from their biological family, country of origin or whatever.

Yes, there are many children in this world who need homes.  But they are CHILDREN not babies, and if you really want to make a difference, become a foster parent.

Answer 3

Adoption isn't for everybody. Ideally I would love to do this but there's a lot to consider. Plus adoption is very expensive.

Answer 4

I don't think this should be a requirement. It's an option, obviously. But if I can have my own children then that's what I'm going to do.

Answer 5

I am pregnant with my first as well, and I would love to adopt. But my husband is very against it.. So we probably wont ever adopt.

Answer 6

adoption is not nice.

Answer 7

I think your question shows some good intentions, however, since you are pregnant right now, it's not a good time to start the process for adoption.  Your baby will need all of your attention for some time, just like a child from adoption will need the lion's share of your attention in that critical early phase.  Now would be a good time to do some research on adoption, but I would suggest waiting until your baby is older and the timing is better.

Answer 8

I think thats a great idea. Its obviously a choice, and its very expensive. But if I had the money, I would try my hardest to change a child's life!

Answer 9

I think adoption is a nice thing to do. I'm not trying to put down adopting a child or anything, but I was talking to my dad about this and he brought up a good point.

When adopting, its also hard to say what illness' or diseases run in the parents family. So later on, if say for example, your child gets cancer (god forbid), it would be harder to look back on the parents health histories. I hope what I'm saying makes sense. So you really never know what the child your adopting may or may not have in the future.

I support adoptions, don't get me wrong, I just found that my father had a very valid point.

Answer 10

First there are far more prospective parents than babies to be adopted.  Demand has far outstripped supply.  If you still think you want to adopt in the future, you'll need to do a lot of research.  Raising adopted children is very different from raising your own.

Your friend--is she following her own advice?  My guess would be that she has no children...

Concentrate on your BABY, and enjoy this magical time of your lives.

Answer 11

There are not a lot of babies who need homes.  There are people waiting on lists for years to get those babies.  It's a huge million dollar industry.

But there are many, many toddlers and older children waiting in foster care to be adopted.

Answer 12

I think that it seems like a great idea.  It will give another child a chance to have a nice and loving home.  I have always wanted to be a mom, but don't really feel like I need to give birth to do so.  For me, I am going to adopt, and if I happen to get pregnant in the future that is fine.

Answer 13

There are not that many babies who need homes.  For every baby born, there are many many couples waiting to adopt.

The children who really need homes are the children in foster care over 6 years old...especially minority children, but really any older child.

THEY need a home...and I've got about 80 in my agency alone.....and we're small.

Answer 14

I dont think its wrong to have a bio child then adopt! There is nothing to say that only infertile couples can adopt!