Do you think books like these are good ways to tell younger adopted kids that they are adopted?

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Answer 1

The links you provided didn't work.,,,,but there are ton's of adoption themed children's books out there. Just pick a few that closely match your child's adoption circumstances and uses an adoption language that you and your family are comfortable with.

What's important is to help your child build a vocabulary of consistent key adoption words so that they become natural to him/her when it's time to comprehend their own adoption story. Just relax and enjoy the stories for now.

Life books are good too but not necessary at one week old. They are nice once the child is able to understand his own personal adoption story. You have plenty of time to do that.

Answer 2

I would find a website and make your own board book about his adoption that is personalized for him. Sure get those other books to have in your book collection to read to him.  I always tell my son his adoption story verbally, and have since he was an infant.

Answer 3

The books about adoption are a good way of supplementing what you yourself tell a child.They help him/her read about others and understand that he/she is not alone in experiencing adoption.After I had told my daughter, I ordered some books from Amazon.com and for years her favorite book was,"Tell me about the Night I was born" by Jamie Lee Curtis.

It also had a cassette with it and she would listen to it many times.Later she took those books to school to share with her classmates in their 'favorite book' club.She got to tell everyone about herself through this book.It was a positive and very natural way for her to share this fact with her friends.

Answer 4

you mean instead of sitting them down and telling them yourself? no. thats a horrible idea you have to tell them one on one moron

Answer 5

You should write your own book about how your child came to be in your family.  We did.  Your child should also have his/her own book (called a lifebook) with all the details you can possibly find about his/her life prior to being in your home.

The book we wrote is a requirement before we go to committee.  I guess I assumed these two books were standard fair in most adoptions (I shouldn't go assuming things, it gets me in trouble, lol).

http://www.amazon.com/LifeBooks-Creating...

We just got that book, and it looks like a good one.  It walks you through how to make a lifebook for your child.

Best of luck, and if you want to know about our personal book, feel free to write me.  My email's open.

Answer 6

I really, really commend you for being honest from the start. I am adopted, and my parents have always been really up-front about it from the very beginning (when I was like a day old, hahaha). They did get me one book when I started asking questions about my biological parents. I don't remember what it was called, but it explained, in kid terms, that my parents loved me as much as anyone else's "birth parents."

I like the make-your-own book idea, too.

Answer 7

No they are not. Being adopted is something that needs to be talked about in person. It really is something special and something that you must be gentle about. If they are a young child, take them out for an ice cream and tell them that Superman was adopted and look how cool and awesome he is. Make them feel that they are special because YOU adopted THEM. Make them feel on top of the world. And if they have questions, answer them so that they understand. Their mind is young and willing to learn and accept change. I am an adopted child and know how it is.

I didnt know that he is only so young. No need to tell him now if he cant understand what you are saying. Definantly give him the books, but for now just care for him and give him extra TLC. More TLC than what an average child gets. BUT DONT SPOIL

Answer 8

I can't get the links to come up to see exactly what books you're talking about, but...

I found that story books with adoption themes were good ways to start conversations with my children when they were younger. If the books are just among the other books you read, it becomes a way to bring up the concept without coming straight out of the blue. It gave me practice with talking about it when they were young and now it doesn't feel so weird to bring it up.

However, like other posters mentioned, books cannot replace telling your child his or her personal story.

Answer 9

I believe it is a good way for a child to understand what adoption is, but once they understand you really need to explain to them personally that they are adopted.