Do you think calling a 4 yr old boy names is appropriate?

Question

TO THE ABOVE: (my computer stinks at work)

I was praised, loved and honored as a child and am creative, and artistic.

Cutesy name calling is alright but "taking the fun out of parenting" isn't was I would use to describe this little game...

Answer 1

Cute nicknames & silly games that make everyone feel happy & loved are fine.  

Angry name-calling & swearing...  Not an appropriate way to politely & respectfully communicate with anyone.  Calling someone mean names does hurt them.  

Answer 2

calling a child bad names at a young age is very inappropriate this means that these words will be used by him as he grows up which will make him a very aggressive child also children learn by off by the people around them so if there is cursing he is likely to do as they do

Answer 3

I don't believe that calling any child (especially one's own) a curse word such as "a$$hole" is ever appropriate.  I would even say that it borders on emotional and verbal abuse.  Even though the adult thinks it is a game (which is seriously scary and odd) the child at some point will realize that its mother used to call it an "a$$hole."  That will definitely have some affect on the child.  Poor kid.    

Answer 4

That's entirely inappropriate!

She's only enforcing to him that those words are okay to say.  

Answer 5

Not names like that no. My fiance calls his 6 yr old daughter "Stinkerbelle" and "Chewbacca" but those are cutesy names.

Using "little a$$hole" is completely innappropriate but unfortunately people usually get offended when you offer parenting advice in this kind of situation.

LOL, If I would sit on the coffee table when I was a kid my dad used to tell me "Tables are for glasses, not for a$$es". My sister and I made it into a song. But thats about as far as it went for using curse words.

I think this person is wrong but there is nothing anyone can do about it to make it better. Hopefully this kid will grow up with a good head on their shoulders and know right from wrong.  

Answer 6

I think it's white trash, low class, and entirely inappropriate.  

Answer 7

This is very inappropriate. You're doing good with your parenting skills. Just remember-children repeat what they hear. It may not be from you, but she is hearing that word somewhere.

Answer 8

Calling him a little a$$hole is a bit much and she should stop that, but playing a game and calling each other buttmunches, nothing wrong with that.  It isn't like she is doing it to belittle him or anything.  It's a game.  Some people need to quit being so uptight, you guys take all the fun out of being a parent.

EDIT:  so none of you try the tactic of letting them know that this is a mommy and kid game and other people wouldn't like it so it's just something you do together?  My daughter has understood that concept since she was 3, do you all underestimate your kids or what?

Why do you feel the need to limit the fun your kids can have to first time visits to zoos and what not?  Why can't they have fun with you in ALL walks of life.  Don't stunt kids creativity and imaginations just because it makes you squeamish.

Yes I get that, you're his AUNT not his MOM, when I say don't stunt your kids, I am talking about all parents, not you as you are not  parent, you have made that quite clear dear.

I understand that YOU wouldn't play this game because you find it inappropriate, but that doesn't mean that she is damaging her child by doing something "out of the norm" in your opinion.  Just because it is your opinion that this is bad does not mean that it is bad.

I was abused, neglected, and hurt as a child, I am creative, artistic, sympathetic and intelligent, my kids and I have played these games forever, they are all creative, well adjusted, intelligent and caring individuals.  They have not been damaged by our name calling games, they use there brains to come up with new words to call us, we use ours to praise them for their creativity within the game.  If you look at a a scenario with nothing but judgment you fail to see all the avenues that scenario can have branching out from it.  maybe this mom thinks a little more out fo the box then you do, and maybe that is a good thing.

Answer 9

thats bad...My daughter will pinch me or bite my lip when she gives me a kiss I call her a boogie head thats about it

Answer 10

In a way that's a form of verbal abuse. Not only that, she's teaching the child inappropriate behavior that he may use out in public. Is that the kind of language she wants her child using just anywhere? Basically, she's teaching him to be disrespectful and that's just wrong.

Answer 11

If you mean she meaning the mother is calling her child names, NO.  It is not appropriate behavior to call people names and it makes him think it's ok to do so.  When he gets in school he will try it and not only get in trouble but maybe have trouble making friends.  

Answer 12

Calling him a*****e or any cuss words is bad, but butt munch, so what. Me and my 5 yr. old and 14 yr. old son have name calling wars. We call each other "sasquatch" stuff like that, my daughter called her brother a big boob once. As long as it's not serious name calling and is done in playful manner w/o cursing, then it's a common thing really.

Answer 13

Thats how i was raised......

kids cuss either way.

Answer 14

WELL I HAVE A 3 YEAR OLD AND NO NO NO YOU DO NOT DO THAT 1 THEY WILL REPEAT IT DO NOT WANT THE WRONG PERSON TO HEAR THAT. NOW SOMETIMES WE DO CALL EACHOTHER BOOTYHEAD BUT I WILL NEVER CALL MY SON ANYTHING THAT HAS A CUSS WORD IN IT WHAT IF HE WAS TO GO TO SCHOOL? WAIT HE DID NOT ONLY AT SCHOOL BUT WITH HIS GRANDMA TOO. TEACHER AND GRANDME IN THE SAME DAY WAS TOL...   F**K YOU YES WAS PUNISHED BUT PICKED UP FROM GRANNIE AND DADDY I PUT A STOP TO ALL CUSSING AROUND MY SON.