Do you think doing a gift registry is rude?

Question

personally I do gifts are out of kindness not because someone has to give you something esp something specific

Answer 1

With a gift registry people can choose something for you that you realy need or want. It takes the guesswork out of choosing something for a person for whatever the occasion is -- it also stops double gifting. For example five toasters, two blenders, etc. That way the giftee doesn't have to return something they really can't use. Some people just don't have a clue when buying something for someone else. This registry thing is a god-send to them. If you know the person well, you may be able to figure it out on your own. People are often invited to weddings that don't know the couple real well, so it helps those people decide on what to get.

Answer 2

I do not think it is rude.  Many people appreciate registries because it gives them an idea of something you want and ARE going to keep.  Many poeple too (those shopping) feel that it relieves them of spending hours trying to buy something that you will like.  They are a guideline.  I feel that you can offer a registry and people can either buy what you want or they dont; simple as that.  I do feel that putting uncessesary items on a registry can be a bit inappropriate (like some friends of mine who put a $70 trashcan and a Playstation 2...get serious) but then again multiple people can go in on larger more expensive items.  They either buy it or they dont. Just be careful and put items in all sorts of price ranges (keep alot of stuff cheaper priced if possible) for different people.  Think about everyone and what they can afford.

Answer 3

on my view its both rude and sometimes necessary

-its rude because it gives some gifts but then when all the inexpensive gifts are taken then your left with somehting that you may not be able to afford

-at the same time some couples would rather get whats neccesary for their house and not get a bunch of repeated things that will also be just standing there and not being used

Answer 4

l guess it depends on how much you really want to spend on a gift.

The gift registry can take the worry out of not knowing what to buy.But from from a personal point of view l prefer to buy my own present...............

Answer 5

In past times when everyone knew everyone else at a wedding, the guest would ring the bride or groom's mother and ask what china pattern, glass design, linen colours the couple had decided on, and then choose their own contribution.

I don't like registries because it is a mercenary thing for the benefit of the store, but if you identify something on the list you can always go to the January/July sales and get it cheaper elsewhere - then if there are duplicates, blame the registry store.

If you know the bride or groom's mum suggest you do the phone thing, ask not what is still left on the registry but what do they truly want/need most.

Or ignore the whole thing and give them a cheque towards their honeymoon, or a charity.

Do what you really want to, it's your gift, Ralph.

Answer 6

In this world that worships etiquette and manners and scripts, yes, that confounds me.

Gift registry?

I would feel so awkward registering for that, no matter how much I like the person. I would feel like I am kissing major booty. Someone sees me walk up to the electronic kiosk and probably would think, "Wow... I guess they can't afford to lose that friend..."

Umm... No.

It's like an odd variable to the system of interaction that this world is so reverent to.

Answer 7

Yes. I should be in control of what I choose to give and not pader to someone's wishlist.

There should be an honorable option in every social occasion to choose to give alternate gifts as per the giver's choice apart from gift registries. Gift registries are too much like forced spending.

Answer 8

yes, if you do it then maybe you should say that it one can buy from it or they can get an idea of what type of items that you need...when I get married we are not doing one, let them give money instead then go buy the things that you want off of your list

Answer 9

Yes.

Answer 10

Many people use this because they feel it will reduce duplicate gifts.  Actually it is a racket for the stores offering it, as it almost insures a lot of sales.  Only once bought a gift from a list, and not likely to do it again.  My taste is quite different than the things stores want on those registries.

Answer 11

I don't see what is wrong with having a registry itself. Proclaiming the existence of the registry on invitations is rude, but I don't see the problem with having it available to people who call asking if the couple is registered anywhere. Personally I see it as a wish list, not a list of demands.

Answer 12

I don't like the idea and did not want to do one.  However, it was explained to me by my soon to be in-laws that it is actually a courtesy to the guests that will be bringing gifts.  It's their choice, then, if they wish to use the convenience of the registry or pick out a personal gift.

I like personal gifts, because it also expresses the person who gave it!  But, I can see where it might be convenient for some to choose something off a list.

Answer 13

I think gift registries are dreadful.  It's like putting a price on friendship.  Also, I think it's just plain greedy to ask people to give gifts.  It's not up to guests to supply you with things you need.