Do you think fellow parents are supportive of each other morally?

Question

or do fellow parents 'attack' eachother too much?

Answer 1

Many are too judgemental without knowing the full facts of the situation in which the children are being raised.

The important thing is to accept support/advice when it is *genuinely* offered but to do what you think best for your *own* children/grandchildren and take no notice of unwarranted criticism.

Answer 2

You would think that fellow parents would be supportive of each other wouldn't you?  But it is so odd how some women especially behave badly towards other women.  

I pass by the same women every day I drop off my child and she drops off hers and you think after having held a door open for her, let her jay walk across the street in front of my car etc. this same person would have the courtesy to at the very least say Hello when she passes me by in the school hallway.....well don't hold your breath.  And with that example can there be hope at all to teach her child anything about morals????

I passed an older father dropping off his child too in the same hallway, never seen him before, he looked me in the eye, smiled and said Hello.   I am exhausted by these boring self-centered small minded women, why are they like that.

Answer 3

I run 2 mothers Groups and have never met so many judgemental cows in my life.

It's one big competition for half of them. Makes me sick.

There are some parent friends of  mine who are beautifully supportive and there for me and vice versa, but the ones who just continually attack and judge other are so hurtful. I know when my mother's group ends, I am exhausted from smiling and putting on a brave face.

Even on here, some are so quick to judge.

Answer 4

I believe all too often fellow parents attack each other when we should be supportive of each other.  I hate the judgmentalism that ensues here.  I also detest the lack of morality that is taught in today's world.  I believe that supporting each other as fellow parents and friends is vital to helping us all get through this walk we call parenthood.  The judging needs to stop, regardless of what kind of parenting styles and methods you use.

Answer 5

friends will support each other.

to some parents its a competition though, they want their child to do better than anyone elses.

Answer 6

I find that my friend who has a daughter 3weeks younger than mine is always comparing our daughters, Like mine is crawling already and hers isnt, She seems to try make excuses why, I try to tell her all babies are different, But its all a big competition to her.

If im having a problem with something, She doesnt seem to help, She seems to be like 'well..What i do is' Real snotty.

I think all parents attack each other, We all have different patting styles, and what you might do, i wouldnt dream of and vice versa, We all just think were right (Especially on here)

Answer 7

I dread going into the school every day, you see all the fluffy, smiley mummies,  in floral dresses fawning over what the others are wearing, doing or saying. I am convinced they put on this ridiculous "yes I am happy to stay at home and bake cakes" look just as they walk through the gate! I haven't met any capable of any sensible conversation. As intelligent as it gets is to ask what book you child is reading so that they can make comparisons. All the while what they would really like to ask is "what does your husband do and what is his salary?" There is a lot of competition and the ones who want to be your friends are the ones who have deduced(or so they think) that you inhabit a legue they aspire to join. Support, where did you ever get that idea. Where have you been living?

Answer 8

I really think it depends on who you associate with and who you listen to.

I have found that generally I have tended to form strong friendships with parents who have similar values and parenting style to myself and my husband. So in that case we are "on the same page" so to speak.

However in a large group setting like a playgroup, kindy or school you encounter many more people with a wide variety of beliefs and parenting styles and I am sure in that situation many people tend to be more critical of other parents.

I have twin boys born 15 weeks prematurely - who have developmental delays and sensory issues. One son in particular has spectacular meltdowns! Only recently we went out and he screamed incessantly - I couldn't leave because his brother was being well behaved, so I moved him away from the other children. You could just tell by the look on some people's faces that they thought I was a dreadful parent - you can't mistake those frowns and glares. But other parents gave me a smile that kind of said "I know what you are going through".

After my experiences with my boys when I see another parent struggling I feel for them, rather than condemn them. Parenting is the toughest job in the world. And most of us are just trying our best.

Answer 9

If you are talking about YA, there are a lot of people quick to attack and force their opinions down other peoples throats especially with regards to breast feeding co-sleeping and smacking!!!

People ask questions for advice, but unfortunately there are so many judgemental people ready to tear them to shreds!!

I have a sister with 3 boys and thankfully only one is the same age as my Son she constantly criticises and competes with other parents and that is my own sister.

Unfortunately sometimes we are all too quick to judge but I say 'there but for the grace of God go I' we never know how ours will turn out until they have grown up and we all think we know best until we are in that position ourselves.

So come on Mums ours have got to grow up yet!!