Do you think he is right in insisting having kid at 57 is the only way to cure his problem?

Question

I am 44 and husband 57,married 5 years,both childless. He is feeling very bad right now,sleepless,and sick in heart blaming me that i dont have kid with him is the cause of his uncomfort. But I at this age really dont have the will to raise kid. He blames my mom for not teaching me right thing since he thinks every woman is responsible to bear kid. I really talk to him a lot of my thinking of being a childfree happy woman,but he said I am so weird,bad,stupid.......What can i do?

Answer 1

I think you should explain to him, you would not be able to cope!

At 44 it's a little late now to have a child....don't you think.

Answer 2

thats a tad selfish (no offense) 44 is to old to have kids  

Answer 3

leave him

kids, marriage etc is never a solution to a problem

and stop thinking love is enough to make a relationship

it may be part of it, but its not alone, if he really want a kid he need to find a woman who want them, not be with one who dont, thats not rigth on the kids

kids is something you discuss prior to wedding, and if you do not agree on that important point then you do not get wed

the two of you are not compatible, he is misserable and holding a grudge, but you know what..if you had done something you wouldnt want to then you would have been the one feeling so...and it would have affected the kids badly

never feel bad for doing what is rigth for you, but dont expect someone else to give up what is rigth for them either...the two of you are better off apart

you are misserable both of you, and you both still have 30+ years of life in you...why are you dooming eachother to live that in missery...give eachother a chanse to find what you both want in life ..with someone else

Answer 4

Send him over here and I will smack some sense into him. I am 48 with no kids and I don't want any. He is 55 years old and should have thought of that earlier.

Answer 5

He's a selfish d**k. Does he stop to think about the added complications that can arise for women over 40 having kids?

Do you really want to be nearly 70 before the kid moves out of home?

Answer 6

Sounds like he's going through a mid-life crisis and want to drag you along with him. Of course you cant have a child, you are both past those years and he knew that when he married you.

Its the name-calling thats really concerning. You do not have to put up with that abuse. I'd leave a man that called me stupid...