Do you think i'm in the wrong?

Question

i met my bf when i was pregnant with my daughter in summer 2006 and have just found out i am expecting his baby, but i don't want his mum or dad to have anything to do with it, you may be wondering why?? well if truth be know in the 2 yrs i've been with him his mum or dad havn't even knocked on our door to see him or even called him up on hias birthday or at christmas, my dad lives in spain and i still recieve birthday gifts for me and my children and a visit at christmas, i don't look at his mum or dad as his parents so i feel they have no right to be grandparents

do you think i'm being harsh by ot allowing them to see the baby when it's born?

Answer 1

Give them another chance. We all make mistakes. Do not judge and you won't be jugded.

Good luck

Answer 2

Sounds like you have a little growing up to do my dear........stop using your children as battering sticks.

Answer 3

You are re-inforcing there bad choices, fighting fire with fire. Surely that will only compound the problem? Maybe this innocent unborn child is the bridge to start a new relationship.

Answer 4

I am estranged from my family, and if my partner tried to change things I would be as mad as heck!!  Be very careful.

Answer 5

If they want to see the baby then Id be the bigger person and allow them to see it.

It will show you're the more mature one and that you dont deprive your child of having grandparents just becuase of their stupidity

xx

Answer 6

I wouldn't forbid them to see the baby. Maybe the baby can help heal their relationship with your boyfriend if they are interested enough to come see it.

I wouldn't be surprised if you still don't see them or hear from them since they can't even call him on the phone now.

Answer 7

I wouldn't forbid the grandparents from seeing the baby, just see if they show interest. My husband's father is like your bf's parents. He shows interest in his daughter, son-in-law and their kids, but when it comes to us and our son, we get blanked. My hubby is used to it, saying that his dad has always been like it .My hubby has had a bad childhood due to his father's refusal to hold down a job, there were beatings for the littlest accidents.There isn't much of a father-son relationship.

Answer 8

I think they should no they have a grandchild at least but if there not gonna be there for the kid they y let them be in its life and if your bf and his parents aren't close then i dont think they should see them unless they really want to be the grandparents becuz if it will be worth it for the kid to know his grandparents if they want to no the kid

Answer 9

My dad was a real crappy excuse for a father when I was growing up and I didn't speak to him for 6 years.  During this time I had my daughter, he jnew I had her but the situation stayed the same.  Eventually he made the first move and I gave him an ultimatum.  If he wanted to be a part of my daughters life then he had to do it properly, if he felt he could not do that then he could not be a grandfather to my daughter.  He was ok with this and we all knew where we stood right from the start.  He knew there was gonna be no second chances, I don't ever want my daughter to feel as worthless as my dad made me feel at times, especially when I can protect her from it.  Everything has worked out well so far, that was 4 years ago.

Answer 10

Well this baby with either make them or break them If you don't see them now then chances are you won't see them when the new arrival is here. I really wouldn't interfere with his relationship with this parents though, it's for him to make the decision.

Answer 11

I think his relationship with his parents should be between him and them...It will only make matters worse if you stop them from seeing their grandchild. This decision should be left to your bf to make. Just remember we all have different relationships with our parents . Sometimes if parents haven't been great as parents..it doesn't mean they wont be great grandparents....the years can mellow people a lot.

Answer 12

are they really planning to visit the baby??? and do you know did they as parents not visit their son??? it wont be normal of course... and whats the problem f they try to mend up relation through this baby??