Do you think i should have a s*x-change?

Question

im a girl, but i've always wanted to be a boy

my parents said that if i do this they'll disown me but i don't know what to do!! i really want to do this.

Answer 1

Since I do not know the whole of your life, I can only give you food for thought:

* if you aren't comfortable in your body as you were born, you will probably get a lot of mileage out of seeing a therapist who works with gender identity (any therapist should be good, but some experience with gender identity would help)

* with your parents, some come around, some don't.  It's a sad fact that many transfolk get disowned (not all and I'm not even sure most do, mind you)

* "bottom" surgery (the SRS portion) for FTMs is still a work in progress.  It's my understanding that the state of the art has improved, but it's still lagging behind MTF SRS.

* the process of transition is somewhat easier for FTM than for MTF, though you would do well to build a social support structure that is aware of your decision.

The fact that your parents already have said they'll disown you does imply you've spoken to them on this.  However, it is within the realm of possibility that, given time, they will learn to accept you as their son if you find that is your path.  It is my suggestion that you do not live your life only for others - you need to live your life for you as well, and if you are a boy, so be it.

Answer 2

Well if its something that will make you happy in life then do it. Yes you are taking the chance of losing your parents but maybe they will come around. But if you are seriously not happy the way you are and can not be happy then follow your heart girl and go for it!!

Answer 3

No, be a L*****n.  Don't mess up your body.

Answer 4

you were born a girl for a reason.

embrace it. love it. and be you. what's a s*x change honestly going to do?

Answer 5

I feel the same :( I really want to be a boy, but I haven't told my parents :(

Answer 6

LALALALA!!

I THINK YOU ARE s**y JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, YAAAR??

BUT IF YOU VANT TO ZEN YOU CAN!!

BUT I DONT KNOW IF I VILL STILL LOVE YOU BECAUSE I FELL IN LOVE WITH THE GIRL NOT THE MAN.

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Answer 7

do whatever you feel is right for you. if you feel like you're stuck in this body that you have, then change it so that you're happy  

Answer 8

do whatever feels right 4 u

but i dont think u should do it your a girl not a boy

Answer 9

I'm really tired every time a person has a question about "s*x change" people saying don't change, stay as you are, you will still be a guy/girl inside. Well all you g*y guys and lesbians need to go straight. Wait you say you can't you say you were born g*y or L*****n! Well guess what so are transsexuals and here a news flash for you.  There is a lot more research showing a biological cause  then there is a reason for people being born g*y. Here is another fact, if he, yes HE is truly transsexual he has no other option then to eventually transition to be his true self or it will kill him. You people really need to learn the facts and start showing respect for people with gender issues.

Answer 10

My darling, being a girl isn't as bad as it seems.....it's actually bloody brilliant!!! You should love who you are and not want to change who you really are. Even if you have a s*x change, inwardly you are still a girl so love yourself and appreciate who you are!!! My ultimate advice is to follow your heart....what does it tell you to do?? Anyone can give you they're decision on yahoo but it is a decision that comes from their heart....the choice must come from you, and you already know the answer, but honey, just a bit of advice before i go, think about why you hate being a girl so much and why do you want to be a boy? Girls rule the world my dear so embrace your femininity!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Not yet, wait until yo are on your own. You need support. Go to ths website and ask about support in your area....you will find like people here:

http://www.butch-femme.com

Here you can also talk to people and get a lot of support

http://www.tgboards.com/

another good site

http://www.gender.org/

You need to educate yourself. A s*x change is a BIG deal. Please join the first 2 sites and start reading the message boards. It will help, the third site I gave you is very informative. Don't say much to your parents just now, do your research and find some really good friends that can support you. Stay safe

Good Luck

Answer 12

A brain change would be more appropriate.

Answer 13

My God a lot of transphobic answers.

Do what you gotta do to be YOU.  I did.

Answer 14

I am honestly so offended by the people that say "you were born a girl for a reason" that I considered ignoring this question.

What goes on in the womb is a very hard thing to understand. There are a lot of hormonal changes that go on for one thing.

Some people were intended to be born as the opposite s*x of what they were born, but there wasn't enough of one hormone or too much of another.

How do I know? I'm physically female, and I would never consider myself anything other than male. Yes, I've tried living as a girl. I'd like to see some genetic guys try living as a girl and they'll see how wrong it feels. It just didn't work out.

You don't need to have a s*x change, though. Or you may decide you only want a top (breast removal) surgery. Or you could go the whole way and get it all, but it's really d**n expensive.

The p***s does not make the man, remember that.

As for your parents, explain to them that you're still their child and they may come around. I can't promise this, because I don't know your parents. Luckily mine were always there to support me.

HOWEVER. If you feel comfortable enough living as a girl, I would just go with that, because the path you want to choose is very hard, filled with ridicule, hatred, sorrow, grief and self-loathing.

Which may not go away even if you decide to just live as a girl.

Good luck.

Answer 15

I would go & see a therapist that specializes in transgender cases & see what they say.

Answer 16

When your 18 do what you want

If you think it is right for you, then by all means go for it

If you are under 18, there is not much you can do, other than start saving up your money now, because you will need it if you are disowned. And get good grades so you can get into a decent college.

You can start transitioning at 18 if that's what you think is right.

Answer 17

no dont do it,

having a s*x change wont really make you a boy you'll just have a slightly different body

its better just to stay as you are and do the same stuff boys do than to have a s*x change

Answer 18

no u were born a female for a reason

Answer 19

if you feel its right.. then do it!! its your life!! who cares what your parents think off you.. dont they want ya 2be happy!???

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Answer 20

It is your life, and you do what you think is right for you

Answer 21

i would say wait a few years until you are more independent and then chose which s*x you would like to live as.

Answer 22

This is your choice. If you really want to do it, talk it over with your parents and explain to them your reasoning behind why you want a s*x change. If they don't support you, then you're going to have to support yourself. If you're happy about you're s*x change, then there should be no worries. If you have any concerns or anything like that, you should rethink what you should do and think of the consequences for your actions for both if you have a s*x change or not. I think it is totally up to you to decide.  

Answer 23

You don't know what the future holds. You may even want a child some day. Don't do it. Be yourself, the way God made you

Answer 24

why the heck would GOD have made you to be what you are now if he knew it was wrong. people these days.

Answer 25

Accept yourself for who and what you are! It's the only way you will ever get closer to being free from yourself. You are who you are for a reason and you have a purpose as a female. Accept it and embrace it!

Answer 26

how old are you?

well, if you really want to do this and you don't feel happy as a girl, then i guess it'd be okay if you did. you can't live a lie for your parents to be happy.

but definitely think about it a lot and be completely sure before you do anything. it's a life changing decision.  

Answer 27

Yes, and, don't worry about your parents. It is your life after all, and, not theirs.

Answer 28

i`ll do it wiv a claw hammer you dirty ****