Do you think i should look for my dad even though he hasn't try to find me?

Question

I never seen ma father b4 and my mother always say he is fighting in the iraq war . He ain't fighting no war then the next person . She says me and my sister has the same father but i know we don't . Should i look for somebody that has missed a whole 16 years of my life ? I don't miss him because how can you miss something that i never once had . so what should i do ?

Answer 1

If you're not sure who your father is, are you sure he knows you exist? Maybe your mother didn't tell him about you, and if that's the case then I think you should look. The problem is, if your mother would lie about your sister and you having the same father, who's to say she wont lie about your fathers name?

Does your birth certificate site the same name as your sisters for the father?

I think you should look for him either way, but just be careful not to open yourself up too much just in case he isn't such a great guy

Good luck with your search, I wish you the best!

Answer 2

It's not wrong to miss a father that you don't know.  If your mom tells you that he is out there then you need to drill her for more info.  If what she says is true than she would probably know how to get in touch with him.  You're 16 and you have the capacity to understand whats going on and you have a right to know.  He is your father after all.  My only advice is to not get your hopes up to high.  You might not get the answers you want, and the image you have of your father might be compete opposite of what you expect.  If you think you are ready for this then be prepared for hear ache and dissapointment.  If your father has never tried to get in touch with you and he knows you're out in the world then that raises alot of questions of his integrity as a father.  Either he or your mom are preventing you from having a relationship with him.  But I can understand that it's something that will get to you if you never know, so I would say yes look for him but be prepared.  Best of luck to you, I wish you a happy ending to whatever you find out.

Answer 3

Are you 100% positive he has not looked for you???

Answer 4

If you feel that you need to find him, go ahead and try. However, be wary of having any expectations of instant acceptance by him and you may be disappointed by his reaction. I do however understand that need to have questions answered, but try very hard to temper your expectations. Good Luck.

Answer 5

yes, life is too shrt not to look for answerrs,, When are you going to find them out...when your dead???no! gett off your booty and go look for your father!..even if it takes ten yrs its worth it!!