Do you think i was too much of a drill sargent?

Question

I have a friend with a broke leg that i went to see yesterday. She has a daughter that would not get out of bed around 1pm that needed to help with her mother. I went up one time to try to get her up with out success. There was some washing of clothes that needed to be done. MY friend wanted her daughter up to get her things together. OK here i go upstairs again and this time i was gettin pretty agraivated. Opened the door and like a Sarg told her ..her name get up now we have got to do some washing of clothes now get up ,get your clothes and towels NOW..Bring them downstairs NOW..I want you to know she was up this time before i hit the last run of the stairs. So was i too harsh? I was just trying to help my friend to try and get her daughter up. Daughter had been asleep for over 13 hours my God..

Answer 1

Nope,,, when it comes to teenagers you do what you gotta do... I have threaten my kids even step-son with a big bucket of cold water if I have to return for the third time...

13 hours is enough sleep for anyone...

Answer 2

You did the right thing BIG time.  Just be careful in how you are with her as there are unfortunately legal concerns.  Yelling orders is ok, do not touch her though.

Answer 3

no way. she needed to get her lazy butt outta bed

Answer 4

No that wasn't harsh a teen need that mom could have done anything!

Answer 5

no. that girl needs to learn to be a hard worker. by letting her   slack off and letting her get her way, shes just going to learn to be lazy.

Answer 6

No, I think you made the right decision, she needs a reality check. Its people like you that make a difference!

Answer 7

no she needed a good butt kicking.

Answer 8

Congratulations! You did the right thing, and the girl will be thankful that someone took her seriously and got her to contribute to the household.

Answer 9

No, you were not too harsh.  She should have been up way before that.  Teens don't need to be sleeping until 1:00!!!  She should be more concerned about helping her mom.  I bet if she was the one with the broken leg, her mom wouldn't be laying in bed asleep in the middle of the day!

Answer 10

hey i should now, some times they need it! seriously! but if ur that guilty say srry she'll get over it.

Answer 11

I can totally understand your frustrations with a girl like that...my goodness, how lazy!  My only concern would be crossing the line with someone else's children.  While that girl did deserve to get a little drill Sargent on her to get her motivated, we have to be really careful in matters with other people's children.  In most cases it's best to just bite your tounge and let their parents handle them, but I think you did the right thing since her mother was clearly not able to get things done for herself.  Well done.

Answer 12

No, you did the right thing. It's wonderful that you can be a good friend, to your injured friend, but if her daughter is allowed to take no responsibility  when her mother is injured it won't help the mom, or the daughter later on to be so lazy and unconcerned about those closet to her. It was unfortunate that  you had to  be the one to deal with the girl, who obviously has not had to take much responsibility, and felt it was fine for you to drive all that way to do the work, while she slept.



Sometimes tough love is needed, but in the future probably your friend needs to have a serious heart-to-heart talk with her daughter and be the one to make some changes in her home.

Answer 13

sleep for 13 hours..........i should live that long......seamanab x