Do you think im being unfair?

Question

i asked my ex to pay for half of my daughters school fees, which works out to be $80 for the whole year, he only pays $38 a month child support and he isnt declaring his earnings or paying tax so not only is he ripping me off but his ripping off the government as well! the moron said sure ill pay the $80 as long as i get a reciept so i can take it to child support and get it deducted. DUH i wouldnt ask for the extra money if i didnt need that on top of the measly $38 a month im getting! i mean honestly how far does $38 go when you have a 4 year old to feed dress school etc! should i ring the tax office and child support and let them know he is working? i mean he can afford to buy an $8000 car but he cant give me $80 for our daughters schooling? who else thinks thats beyond unfair!?

Answer 1

I think you are being unfair to your self you should be getting more than $38 bucks you can't even cook proper dinner with that I would tell child support that he is working he will get in trouble with the government in time you need more support from him because what you are getting now is not enough

Answer 2

It may be, unfortunately, that you brought a child into the world with someone so mentally deficient he actually cannot earn a living and help you support your daughter. Doesn't mean he doesn't have responsibilities, but he may not actually be able to meet them.

Don't count on his help.

Maybe you could save some of the money you spend on your daughter's $1,000 in birthday presents to pay her $80 in school fees. Apparently it is not affordable to you to pay that much for gifts when you can't afford her necessities like her education. Also, if your ex is spending as much or more on her birthday as you said in your other question, you're both in need of help managing your finances.

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Answer 3

that is totally unfair. my ex was doing the same thing and i said if his daughter cant have the money he cant either and threatened to tell the authorities that he is cheating the tax system and he soon payed up. why should you have to pay for everything if he cant support his child like a dad should he is a low life. threaten him first to see if he will pay up first  

Answer 4

This is totally unfair- you should report this guy, and have them garnish his wages, $38 dollars is not enough, even if he did pay for half the schooling.  I agree with you on this one.  

Answer 5

Of course you're not being unfair.  I think you should go to child support recovery and get your case modified, but keep in mind if it hasn't been opened fro 3 yrs i don't think they can modify it.  Also try reporting him that he is working.  This guy sounds like a dumba.s.s

Answer 6

no  

Answer 7

In this situation, I'd take the moron to court and let him pay the full amount you deserve!

Answer 8

My friend had the same problem her ex was a jerk and did not care for his kids at all it was all very disturbing but what she did was told child support and told them about how she needed help financially as of raising children they understood and a court date was set so now were waiting to see what will happen.

Answer 9

i would report him.  Hopefully he would have to go out and get a real job then.  You deserve a lot more money than that.

Answer 10

I would report to child support that he working because they can take the money out each month straight out of his check. If he working and now file taxes they could get into trouble for that has well.

Answer 11

did you not realize how stupid he was before you got married and/or created a baby with him? I hate to pull a "judge judy" but it is your problem. You decided to do it with him. You made the baby. You deal with it.

Answer 12

if it is ordered through the state that he has to pay $38 a month, giving him a receipt isnt going to help him out any. the state will see that as a gift. don't tell him that of course.-go ahead. say sure, ill be glad to give you a receipt. then set back and laugh about how stupid he is wasting his time trying to get it back.

the state does not recognize extra money like that. my ex paid child support every week since me and my daughter left. no problem-he went on lay off and instead of being behind he paid me cash. 6 months later, i got a letter that he was so & so weeks behind. i called & told them that he paid me cash becuase of his lay off. the public defender told me that that was great of him, but the state sees it as a gift. so they ordered him to pay the backpay according to their records. i turned around and gave it back of course, because it seemed fair to me. he paid child support, plus buys her clothes & helped with daycare.

the point:: the state will see that $80 as a gift worked out between the 2 of you.-

btw don't listen to some people on here. you can spend as much as you want on your daughter with what you make becuase you are the primary caretaker. hes a low life that is working the system and regardless, $38 is literally chump change. im sure you CAN pay the $80 for her schooling, you are asking him for it because it is his responsibilty to help pay for it regardless , even if you were a millionaire, the child is still his too.