Do you think international adoption is good or bad? I want your opinion.?

Question

I am giving a speech on this topic and i need both sides view point on the issue. Please help!

Answer 1

Let me ask you this, imagine that you are a white or black child and you are being raised by a chineese family, you don't look like ANY of them. Everyone, at school looks different from you, with a few other exceptions.  Your name is Ming Chin and you speak chineese not English. You find out your parents are Americans and you go to see them. You see people that look EXACTLY like you, but you can't talk to them because of the language barrier. How would you feel?

Answer 2

I think we need to give our kids over here good homes first !...before we start bringing in internationals.

Besides America sends these nations millions of dollars and where does it all go?????????

Answer 3

I think it is good overall.  The children being adopted are often in totally hopeless situations.  Every time my mom's coworker returns to her village in the former USSR, we send all sorts of clothing purchased at garage sales because the tots at the orphanage don't have enough clothing.  They also don't have enough food and don't get the medical care available to poor children who have parents.

On the negative side, some agencies are pretty slack on who they allow to adopt. They don't check on the mental status of adopters. For instance, if you have had a mental illness or a felony conviction, you can't adopt in the US.  People often  hide those facts when they adopt internationally.  The adoption is usually finalized before leaving the country so there is nobody to check on the status of the child once in his or her new home.

Answer 4

good and bad. here in the US we have kids that need homes, but kids in other homes might be a LOT worse than kids in the US are. i know people who have and are oging to adopt internationally...its your own opinion...personally, i say adopt from the US!!!

Answer 5

It is great if you want to adopt, but I feel we need to take care of the orphaned children in this country before any other country (the kids need us just as much).

Answer 6

Neither good nor bad.  Race is a totally superficial criteria in adoption.  Fitness of parents is the essential thing.  Judging based on race is shallow and prejudiced.

Answer 7

It is bad, there are many kids in this country that need parents.  It is hard for people to find the perfect child when options are given to them.  They tend to think that they have more choices if they go oversees.  What they do is leave the helpless kids here in need of happy homes and give children of other countries the American dream.  I know that all kids should be given a chance but there are too many kids here in our own country that need caring parents.

Answer 8

All Adoptions are fantastic! It's truly a personal decision whether to adoption within the US or pursue an international adoption. For many reasons we decided to adopt from Guatemala and we have 2 amazing sons who were absolutely meant to be with us. I also have very good friends who have adopted in the US as well as other countries. Every child deserves a home!

Answer 9

I think its great! Giving little kids homes and families! Give these children hope!

Answer 10

We have enough aliens here already.  There are hundreds of good children already here that need a good home.

Answer 11

Just be ready to handle problems that happen outside of your race. If you get a black baby you cannot do their hair the same way  as other races(speaking as a black female) it's impossible! Just be understanding and actually do some research on the race.

Answer 12

yer i think its good but the problem is these so called "celebrities" made it sound like a fashion craze going on. One problem with it tho is that there are many kids in their own country who probably need adoption too and probably seems abit unfair going half way round the world to adopt a kid.

Answer 13

I think those in adamant disgust against international adoption do not truly understand infertility and the desire to have a baby. Until they stand in our shoes, they cannot judge.  I know there are many kids in North America who need homes but when you are dreaming of a baby really the only place to go is overseas.

My personal story is infertility for five years and no chance at a baby adoption.  WE looked into overseas and after much prayer and though we decided to adopt older children.  We became foster parents for awhile and are now adopting three chidlren ages 4,5, and 6.  This was our choice but only after true grieving over not having a baby.  

So that is one point of view, albeit personal.  Our true reason for not going overseas was that we would rather put that $25000 towards a future for the children chosen for us, which we are excited about!

Answer 14

I think it's good.  I have a friend who just adopted from Russia and one of her reasons is that she wants to know that it's final.  She doesn't want some birth mother coming back years down the road trying stick her nose where it doesn't belong.  And yes, she is perfectly fine with her daughter asking questions and knowing where she came from.

Answer 15

International adoption takes a child out of their own culture and places them in a foreign culture.  You need to make sure that these children are legally free for adoption...that they are truly orphans.  Because of this you need to make sure that these children are given opportunities to learn about their birthcountry and culture.  Deal only with a reputable country and a reputable adoption agency.  Do your research!!!  Ask around to see what agencies others have used and did they like/dislike them and why?

DH and I did our homework beforehand...we researched the country, we asked around to see what adoption agencies people were using and why, and we asked questions to the adoption agency themselves.  I believe that international adoption is good but only if the child is legally free for adoption and there is no way that they can be adopted in their own country.

DH and I adopted 3 kids from Korea and we have integrated Korea into our home.  We take off our shoes and wear slippers (like they do in Korea), we eat Korean food, we have Korean items in the home, we watch Korean children's TV shows, we listen to Korean music, we read about Korea, we attend Korean cultural camp, and more.   This is important so that the child doesn't lose sight of their birthcountry and culture.