Do you think international adoption is good?i mean they have different religions and from different cultures.?

Question

im doing a reaserch project and i chose this topic. i need a broad question about this topic also, so im trying out different questions. but what do you think? is it good to adopt a child from another country thats totally different in religion and culture? is it good to have a child already one religion and the family another? different beliefes?

Answer 1

Children are not born a certain religion or culture. How would an infant know one religion/culture from another? Both religion and culture are taught. As far as if it is a child that was raised taught one particular religion, but you are the adopting parents, then I would say to teach the child your belief because you are the roots for the child now, and the model for which they will grow from. There is nothing wrong with educating them about the different religions and why thier background is so important. Always teach them about thier birth country's culture. Even children from here should be taught about other culture, but for it to be a part of that child, it is important to let them know you value and appreciate thier culture as it is what made them and lead them to you. Children are very resilient and open-minded and willing to learn and embrace positive teaching. You could bring a child from anywhere in the US and it's pretty much guaranteed they will become "Americanized" anyway before you know it.

Answer 2

I think you should stay with in what your family already believes in. Or adopt at a very young age.

Answer 3

It is a good thing to give any child a loving home, regardless of culture or religion.  Most of these kids overseas that are in orphanages are going to end up on the streets.....the more of them we can adopt, the better.

Answer 4

After spending quite a bit of time reading this board, I am not 100% 'for' international adoption anymore. I think it's sad that children from China, Colombia, Guatemala, etc. are taken to other countries where the language, food, culture, and pretty much everything else are different. Many foreign adoptions do not happen during infancy...the children are often well over a year old when they are adopted. That means that they have experience with their language and culture. Ripping them away from everything they've ever known has got to be difficult. And whether or not they're infants when they're adopted, they're still losing their culture.

How to solve the problem? I don't know. If there were more people in China (for example) who wanted to adopt, Chinese children wouldn't be available to the rest of the world for adoption. Is it best to leave them in orphanages? Probably not. I really don't know what the answer is.

Answer 5

If the child is very young, you can raise her in your own religion without causing conflict.  The largest number of international adoptions are girls from China. They are usually from prphanages and have not been raised in a religion. You are free to raise them in whatever religion you choose.

Answer 6

I think it's great, but what do you think?  If this is a research project, you have likely made it too broad.  Most children are old infants/young toddlers when adopted and the culture/religion doesn't have an impact outside of the fact that most adoptive parents are encouraged to learn about the culture of their childs birth country.  This is not to have 2 different cultures in a family, but to embrace every aspect of your child and his/her history.

Answer 7

I'm adopted (I was adopted when I was really young) so, I didnt know my culture so it was easy for me to have the same religion as my family now.  But, adopted kids want to know about their culture and their heritage and I say let them learn. I mean, it isnt bad to have an adopted child have 1 religion view and the family another the family will just have to deal and respect it.

Answer 8

Adopting any baby from anywhere is an saintly act.

Answer 9

do you whant kids

Answer 10

I JUST READ A POWERFUL post from an international Korean adoptee today, i'll link it for you to find insight:

http://jjtrenka.wordpress.com/2008/01/23...

Answer 11

This question can be answered from different perspectives. You need to clarify your position on this question, then people can respond better. The question is too broad and I can't answer one way or the other. International adoption is good for whom? as what? on what grounds?

Answer 12

No, foster parenting here is more important.

And getting involved with special needs children.

Answer 13

I think international adoption is a really tricky thing... and I did it. It is NEVER an ideal situation. In the best of circumstances, it is trying to make something good come out of a bad situation.  

Our son was already the same religion as us. It was extremely important to his father that, that was the case.

As far as culture we do as much as we can. Unfortunately we were not able to perserve the language. Only hundreds of people in the world speak it (small tribal language) so there are literally no books, or anything for us to learn from. We have been unable to find anyone in our state who knows it.  His family began learning the national language as soon as they relinquished him knowing language would be a barrier. So my son will still be able to communicate with his family, just not in their first langauge. We are able to have his comfort foods. We have contact with other families from his country, who are extremely welcoming to us and invite us to all the cultural community events. There is a huge active group of adoptive families from his country here. There is a local adoption learning center where we hear from adult trans racial and trans cultural adoptees to learn from their experience and there is an annual culture camp that we go to spend time fully immersed in his culture. We will also return to his country every few years and as I implied above we do remain in contact with his family.  

In the beginning we had to really work to include his culture, now it feels as much a part of our family as the cultures we were raised with, and the connection is effortless. We have seen that there is a fine line between embracing the culture and over exoticizing it. We try to carefully stay on the right side of that line. It truly helps that the community has welcomed us with open arms.

I can honestly say that international adoption has been a huge blessing to US. I pray that one day our son will feel the same way. He had no say in all the things he lost. I am 30 and still have both my parents alive and healthy. I live within 15 minutes of all my siblings. He has faced the death of one parent and now lives a 20 hour plane ride from his father and 4 siblings. He lost his language and all he knew. He is well adjusted here, and happy. He loves his american sister and brother and he loves us as his mommy and daddy... I don't question that for a second. But I cannot even pretend to know how he is going to reconcile all that he lost and "gained" through this process. I'll just support him as best I can and as much as he'll let me.

Answer 14

http://www.unicef.org/media/media_41918....