Do you think it's a better idea to have a private wedding ceremony with an open reception or...

Question

to invite everyone to the wedding ceremony and have a private reception?

I'm just wondering if you had to pick between the two - would you rather attend the ceremony or the reception?

Answer 1

Invite everyone to the ceremony! You can't exclude people from your wedding and then expect them to party with you. I'd be hurt if I was good enough to add to the party but not good enough for the event itself.

Answer 2

I would prefer to attend both.

However, I would be more understanding if the ceremony was for family and the bridal party only and the reception was more of a celebration of the wedding where everyone was invited.

But personally, if you are trying to cut down costs, I would just have a smaller reception rather than pick and choose which guests come. For example, you could have an afternoon tea reception- it's a lot less expensive and you will be able to invite everyone.

Answer 3

Why would you want to pick? Its insulting to invite people to only one thing...sorry. I would be hurt if I was only good enough for one invitation.  

Answer 4

Cost wise you will come out better with an open wedding & private reception.

I would like to attend both.

Answer 5

I agree with Carebear. You can't invite people to the ceremony and not the reception without SOMEONE getting upset about it. And there's no reason to not invite everyone to the ceremony.  

Answer 6

You invite the same people to both the ceremony and reception. Your guests witness you taking your vows, then celebrate with you at the reception.

Answer 7

I feel that many relatives that your not close with would prefer a reception. Lets face it, who doesnt like a free meal?

I wouldnt have an open reception - too expensive. I think an open ceremony so then at least everyone can witness it then a private reception just with friends and family is alot nicer

Answer 8

Ceremony.

The reception is just a party.

Answer 9

If I'm being invited to a wedding, I want to see the wedding - that means seeing the couple say their vows.  I'd rather have punch & cake as the "reception" if budget is an issue for the couple.

It is generally not an extra cost - if you are marrying in a church - to have people attend.  But the reception does cost money.

I think it is rude and insensitive of the couple to invite people to the party and not let those people be witness to the actual wedding ceremony.  I do make an exception where the couple eloped or had a destination wedding then came home and held a reception or where family is a large distance apart and separate receptions are held with each side of the family.

Answer 10

It really depends on budget, the bigger the reception..the bigger the cost.  Personally, I would have a private ceremony and invite everyone to the reception.

Answer 11

private ceremony open reception.

Answer 12

it depends on the person. when i get married, i want a destination wedding with my family and closest friends (20 people max) and a huge reception when i return.