Do you think it's a good idea for a person who wants a purity ring to have a boyfriend?

Question

i'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16 i want a purity ring and my boyfriend is still a virgin he's willing to wait...but at that same time is ready and willing to have s*x if it's what i want but i want to remain a virgin till marriage...i haven't gotten my purity ring yet however i am getting ready to make the vow do you think it's a good idea for me to have a boyfriend?

Answer 1

Yes, as long as you can control yourself.

Answer 2

Sure you can. This will be a reminder for you

to stay that way.

Answer 3

Why do you want a purity ring? I gather that this is to tell the world that you are an "unspotted" virgin. Is it anybody's business but your own, maybe your parents' because of your age, perhaps your boyfriend's whether you have s*x or not.

Good for you making your own decision on when you want to have s*x, that's a mature thing to do. You may feel differently about it in the future, but that is in the future and you have to make your decision then.

It comes down to your decision, I repeat it is NOBODY'S business outside the four named above, and a "purity ring" is a smug, self satisfied way of claiming to other people that you are a better person than other girls for abstaining.

Which you don't think you are - do you?

Answer 4

I think as long as he respects your wishes and takes them seriously, it's fine.  Just because you want to stay a virgin until marriage doesn't mean you can't have someone in your life....but it's imperative that that person be supportive of your values.

Answer 5

I doesn't sound like you both want the same things. You seem to be very sure of your convictions, while he could go either way. I think it's a bad situation if he's waiting for you. The ideal guy would be waiting for marriage because of his own beliefs, not just for yours.

Answer 6

Having a boyfriend can mean a lot of things.  At this point it is up to you.  Is it about s*x or emotions?  I have known people who had purity rings and people who did not, and in spite of this symbol, the most important thing I can tell you is that the decision is entirely yours.  Your are neither horrid for considering it nor stupid for not.  I can reassure you that you will outlive the decisions you make now, regarding s*x and everything else.  What can you live with?  

Answer 7

It is not a good idea to be alone together, especially if he is "ready and willing" and you care for him. Keep him as a friend but not as a boyfriend, otherwise there may be too much temptation. When you go out, go out with other people, or if you go to each other's houses, make sure someone else is present in the immediate vicinity. Don't be alone together even in a car. If all this seems impossibly constricting, then no, you shouldn't have a boyfriend at this time.

Answer 8

Bad idea to stay with him, if you're planning on getting a purity ring; only becausey you said that he is willing to do either.  Your boyfriend should have the same morals as you do, and I foresee failure in the relationship.  Just because he's "willing" to wait, doesn't mean that he'll make it easy on you.  Best of luck.  :]

Answer 9

if you think he's really willing to wait you have a LOT to learn.

Answer 10

wait a minute.......you mean if we say no, you're going to drop him just like that.....that's just stupid and sad

Answer 11

You can still have a boyfriend and not have s*x. Having the ring just makes things easier.

Answer 12

at your age s*x should not be an issue at all. Have fun, go to the movies, school activities, that sorta things and forget about the s*x.