Do you think it's alright to grumble every day in the office?

Question

My colleague grumble about her work almost every day and she is 7 years younger than me. When she grumble her high pitch voice is making me nuts and I always tell her to stop doing it. But do you think that it is alright and healthy to grumble every day?

Answer 1

no it is a most moral breaking habit... we have a worker who grumbles CONSTANTLY .. so conditions are changed to suit them .. and then they find something else to grumble about and it goes on and on and on .. driving the rest of us completely and utterly insane.

I think we can all grumble... and whine from time to time .. but some people go way overboard and no it isn't healthy.

Answer 2

Constant grumbling gets old anywhere.

Answer 3

No.  I've been fired for gumbling about work.  If she doesn't like it, she can go work someplace else.

Answer 4

No, she probably has home issues that she can't shake and it's making work miserable.  Some people are just b***y like that.  Some people just don't know when to shut up, either.  Sorry it's making your job miserable.  I would bring it to the attention of your boss and see if he/she can talk to her.  If it makes your job harder to do, then you are right for going higher up in the company to fix your work environment.

Answer 5

Can you wear headphones and listen to music?  Can you turn on a radio low (to some elevator music station, preferably, so as to be least likely to cause offense to anyone passing by)?  Can you put in ear plugs?  Can you just ignore her, and when she pesters you about why you aren't paying attention, look up from your work and tell her that you were concentrating on your work?  Anything?

I'd be tempted to tell her to shut up, once, as in, "Cindy, if you don't think you can handle the work, or if it's not exciting enough to keep you occupied, perhaps you should find a different job?  Such-and-such is where Human Resources keeps the open jobs posted for our company; you should look there for a better job for yourself.  And in the meantime, please limit your conversation, because I'm having trouble concentrating on my work with you constantly socializing with me."  

It's not healthy to grumble every day.  My last work place made everyone that way, whether we really noticed it or not, because there was so much wrong there.  When I started noticing that, I tried to limit my gripes to just what I had to vent out of my system so that I wouldn't lose my mind, and tried to find silver linings when my co-workers would be going off, or just find a way to poke fun at it so we could change our hatefulness into laughter.  I also tried to change the subject a lot, and tried to keep us laughing rather than thinking about the crappy place we were in.  It worked, for the most part.  

I did all that because I saw I, myself, was becoming a different person.  I stayed in that line of work so long because I enjoyed certain aspects of it; the constant grumbling I both did and heard turned me so that I was no longer enjoying anything about it.  That's no way to be.  And it's why I suggest that you get her to shut up, or at least get it so you can't hear her constant grumbling, asap -- it will get under your skin if it goes on long enough.  

When I started making those changes I mentioned, I started enjoying bits of the job again, so it really helped.  Here's hoping your co-worker finds a different job.  *hugs*  Good luck!

Answer 6

Nope, I don't think it is alright to grumble everyday in the office. Everybody has the right to have issues with their work, but to continually bring the rest of the office down is unfair. Either resolve the problems, get over them, or move on to a job where you don't have those problems. Some people just need drama in their lives to feel important. I don't know how your particular office politics works, but myself personally, I would not encourage it in anyway to the point of ignoring the behaviour completely and only answering positive discussion. I have done this several times in my office, and have found that they either get the point and change their attitude, or dislike me immensely and refuse to talk to me, which I actually am quite happy with as I really don't want to commit time and energy on such negative people.

Answer 7

Yeah

simple as that

Answer 8

A bit of grumbling is OK, but incessant grumbling is a state of mind

Answer 9

shes obviously not happy in her life or job...it is wrong for her to grumble at anyone and should be brought to the attention of a higher power than yourself to set her straight..if she hates her job and people around her that much then get another job lady ...nothing like having a negative downer to deal with all day every day...understand??

Answer 10

I think she should learn to keep some of her complaints to herself. It brings other people down and gives a negitive vibe to the workplace.  Tell her to find another job if she is so miserable.